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Peterson, Psychologist Jordan
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https://www.amazon.ca/12-Rules-Life-Antidote-Chaos/dp/0345816021?asin=0345816021&revisionId=&format=4&depth=1
Peterson was sent to Canadian reprogramming
camp:
https://nypost.com/2023/01/05/jordan-peterson-could-lose-psychologist-license-if-he-refuses-social-media-re-education/
Summarized Book @
https://www.nateliason.com/notes/12-rules-for-life-jordan-peterson
or BOOK Table of Contents @
https://www.moonshots.io/blog/2022/2/12-rules-for-life-by-controversial-jordan-peterson
#1 Stand up straight with your shoulders back -
This rule is not just about posture. It is about
confidence.
The world has winners & losers, & the winners have good
posture because they have self-confidence, which leads to more wins. So
stand up straight, believe you can,
know you are one of the
winners & act like it.
#2 Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.
Treat yourself with the same kindness &
responsibility as you would your children. You are the most important person
you need to take care of.
Stop waiting for others to take care of you.
Our lives are all intertwined, so your mistreatment of yourself can have
catastrophic consequences for others.
So strengthen the individual; start with yourself.
#3 Make friends with people who want the best for you -
There is a lot of negativity in the world.
Learn the difference & recognise character when you see it.
Embody that positive character.
Be
mindful of those that will pull you down or those using you.
Make
friends with those with enough character to want the best for you.
4 Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is
today -
Pay attention, & focus
on your surroundings. Find something that bothers you & fix it.
Start with small habits. You will
be less concerned about the actions of others because you are focused on
yourself & improving yourself.
#5
Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them -
Don’t make excuses for your
children’s bad behaviour. Correct it. Remember that parents are proxies for
the real world. It is the parent’s responsibility to teach children how to
function in society.
If you find a particular behaviour difficult, just
think about how the world will react.
A well-adjusted child grows up to
be a likeable adult that can positively contribute to society.
6 Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world -
People get caught up in how awful
the world is & blame capitalism & the broken system.
Before blaming, ask
yourself if you genuinely have your own life in order.
Start small. Are you indulging in any
self-deprecating habits? Fix that. Are your relationships in order? Stop
making your life unnecessarily difficult. Take a good look at your life,
improve it, and your outlook towards everything else will improve.
7 Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient -
Expedience is following blind impulses, short-term
gains, lying to get your way, & thinking that is narrow & selfish. It is
immature, irresponsible, cowardly, & shallow. Expedience only satisfies the
self & now.
Pursuing meaning is when making the world better, is at the top of your
value hierarchy, not the self.
It is better to have
meaning in your life than to have what you want. Because do we know what we
want?
8 Tell the truth. Or at least don’t lie. -
Lies start small & compound. Tell the truth.
Try telling the truth if you feel weak, rejected, or confused.
In paradise, everyone speaks the truth.
9 Assume the person you are listening to knows something you don’t -
So many of us don’t listen to
understand. We listen to respond.
Because at some level, perhaps we feel
we might know something the other person doesn’t.
Socrates
was known as the wisest living man because he knew that what he knew was
nothing.
Find humility in yourself and listen — to everyone — to learn.
10 Be precise in your speech -
Be careful what you tell yourself and others about
what you have done, what you are doing, & where you are going. Search for
accurate & precise words.
Simplify things by giving them precision.
Use honest & particular speech —
What am I afraid of — exactly? What do I want — exactly? What is wrong —
exactly?
Know and state where you are — precisely — so you know where
you are going.
11 Do not bother children while they are skateboarding -
The complex psyche of humans — when
things are too safe, we try to test the limits and make things dangerous. So
many mothers try to make their children ‘soft’ & shield them from danger and
harshness.
This results in ‘weak’ children.
If you think tough adults are dangerous, wait till you see what weak ones
are capable of.
12 Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street -
With all the sorrow & anxiety in the world, don’t
forget to stop and enjoy the small moments and genuinely enjoy the things
that make you smile. Don’t
forget It starts with
lobsters.
So you have to
understand about the
lobsters.
Buy it via
Amazon here. Read or listen to the key insights from
the book, via
Blinkist here.
You'll find it here if you would like to explore Episode 128: Jordan
Peterson's 12 Rules For Life.
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