Joseph Garlington (Covenant Church, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, USA) reminds us that we must choose between being right or being reconciled. We need to give up our right to be right. This is especially true
in a marriage or family relationship. Unforgiveness is the root of many diseases, especially those that eat
the body, like cancer. The Lord reminds us that vengeance is His. We need to give God permission to be
in control, of not only others, but also of ourselves. This is true, especially for those who feel the need to
control or fix everybody and everything. As long as we are in control, God is not. When we quit, then God can begin.

June Hunt reminds us to have our confidence in Jesus rather than in our mate when we are looking for a reconciliation, and to place our priority on our relationships rather than our hurts. www.hopefortheheart.org

Bill Johnson (Bethel Church, Redding, California, USA) warns us NOT to look back, unless we do it with the blood of Christ. Be reminded of the story of Lot's wife who looked back and turned into a pillar of salt.
It is a stumbling block to us and an open door to Satan each time we reminisce about the past of others or ourselves, and neglect to put on God's eye glasses. If He has forgiven, it is a sin for us to uncover, ruminate, and expose wrong. It is wrong to be offended. Both Stephen and Jesus when dying prayed, "Father forgive them." We need to repent of gossip, even if it is gossip about ourselves. Any testimony should be told in light of what God has done for us. For instance, if I need to share a secret, then that should be told in the context of how Christ redeemed what Satan intended for evil. For instance, if my mate had depression and was suicidal, then I would share how Christ intervened. Even then, that could be wrong, for it is NOT our
job to share the testimony of others, because often it is only a form of gossip, a way of puffing up ourselves and putting down others. Prayer groups are often just gossip centers. Beware.

Another aspect of forgiveness is reminding ourselves that we do NOT have the right to judge another.
Christ is the final judge. In the name of Jesus, we remove that person from our judgment. Scripture warns us that in the way we judge others, we will eventually be judged by God. (Forgiveness has nothing to do with protecting ourselves from harm. In this case, when necessary, we first remove ourselves from danger, and second we cover ourselves with the blood of Jesus.)
Henry Wright's ministry in Georgia, USA spends a lot of time helping others to forgive self, others and God. www.pleasantvalleychurch.net

Sometimes my mate pushes my BUTTONS/ouches/hurts/wounds/sore spots/etc. (or I touch his/her) Often one of us has a blind spot/lack of insight/immaturity. This is especially true when there is depression,
ADD, bipolar, schizophrenia, etc. This is especially relevant when mental illness/emotional instability is undiagnosed or not properly medicated or treated. If the problem involves improper thinking, nothing/little the mate says or does will cure the marriage. Conventional/spiritual counseling may help. Conventional/alternative medication may help. Cure is a different issue. If the problem is inherited it can
be in the DNA and will need a miracle from God. If the problem is inherited/personal sin it may need repentance/rejection. If the problem is a demonization, possible participation with a deliverance ministry may be in order. deliverance_ministries.htm The bottom line is, neither mate can cure/fix each other.
The root problem needs to be eliminated. healing_root_issues.htm Many of us when we took our marriage vows said, "for better or worse," only to find out it was for worse! When bones heal they are often strongest in the broken places, so God can likewise do with our brokeness.

FIGHT for your marriage, even if no one else does. God hates divorce. If necessary, get a 3rd impartial person/couple or counselor to help. Even Moses needed help to hold up his arms during time of war.
King David fasted daily as long as his dying son lived. Only when his son died, did he stop fasting.
Then he ate and praised God Who gives and takes away. Everyone else thought him odd, for they were in mourning after and not before the death. Even Moses needed others to hold up his arms during time of war.

Scripture says that any couple (who has intercourse) shall become one flesh. We are united with our mate
as one flesh. Scripture also says that Jesus' wish was for us to become one with Him as He is with His Father God. We are united with the Trinity as one spirit. If we violate each other, we also violate God. If there is a separation/divorce, there is a tearing of both flesh and spirit plus soul/mind. Do we not feel the rip in the relationship? Can we not hear Jesus crying aloud on the cross bearing our sins?

Note. DIVORCE can be forgiven, but God's ability/willingness to forgive is NOT an excuse for us to divorce. Divorce is a sin and creates harm to finances, future marriages, children and one's character. Divorce does NOT prevent God from using a divorced individual in His ministry (to pastor a church, to heal, to prophesy,
to do miracles, etc. all in the name and power of Jesus Christ).
The Old Testament shows many instances of spiritual heroes with character problems and human sins. Baptist pastor Randy Clark in There is More - Reclaiming the Power of Impartation shares that despite his divorce at the age of 22 (and subsequent remarriage),
God still made available to him (and makes available to us) His Holy Spirit power to move in signs and wonders. www.globalawakening.com
Divorce Testimony -
http://www.injesus.com/index.php?module=message&task=view&MID=WB007ES7&GroupID=BA007I8S&print=1

Eckhardt, John Pride & Leviathan series of 3 videos on demand http://www.impactnetwork.net/flash/videoondemand.swf or http://www.impactnetwork.net/television.html
Marine spirits, especially the spirit of pride, is addressed in John's excellent videos on demand
and books Marine Demons + Prayers That Rout Demons. Important information in deliverance ministries.
The spirit of Leviathan interferes with ALL covenant making (including the blood covenant of Christ and marriage).

Marriage Breaking Spirits http://jesusdelivers.com/index.php/marriage-breaking-spirits
From Demolishing the Hosts of Hell - Every Christian's Job, by Win Worley (Page 6,7&8) WRW Publications.
"When I demanded that the (demonic) ruler of Oral Sex manifest, a cackling laugh came forth and he informed me that he was an exceedingly powerful spirit and had had this 'fool' for all these years and by
no means would he come out! He declared that he and (an evil spirit of) Homosexuality had this 'stupid bastard' bound and they would never release him...I even arranged for him to have a gay roommate in the service and had guys approach him at work...For years we had him hooked good on Masturbation and tortured him regularly with that...Deliverance eventually dislodged them.
Oral Sex spirits lodge in the lips, tongue, taste buds, jaws, mouth and the throat. They are also in the sex organs. After dealing with many spirits of perversion, we know that they can enter through the eyes, the ears or participation, active or passive. In one case, a friend of mine was delivering a woman who had been introduced and forced into oral sex by an uncle when she was only 5 or 6 years of age. As she grew up she continued this with her dates. At her deliverance large gobs of slimy material were vomited which reeked
with the strong odor of male semen."

One of the recommended things to do is to pray over one's bedroom, even anoint it with oil and/or put a mezuzah on the (house and/or bedroom) door frame. Second, one can pray over one's bed, even anoint it with oil and/or the blood of Christ. For a woman, this can be quite easy to do when she is making the bed each morning. Fourth, one can bind any evil and loose any evil, forbidding evil to enter. Fifth, one can go throughout the room and the house and destroy anything which might contain any demonic/evil, unless
you do not own the object and will not be able to get permission to toss it. Then at least remove it to the garage. Otherwise, bind any evil/ harmful influence and forbid it to interfere with your family,
in the name of Jesus.

Cho, Rev David Yonggi of Korea http://english.fgtv.com/drcho/main.asp http://english.fgtv.com/yfgc.pdf
Books = Successful Home Cell Groups in chapter 2 God's Reeducation Program says that God explained to Cho,
"Think of a marriage...When a man marries a woman, he...loves her and shares his life with her - intimately.
That is the kind of relationship you are to have with the Holy Spirit."

Hegstrom, Paul The Brain & the Spoken Word DVD#2 www.lifesillsintl.org Aurora, Colorado, USA
Sometimes if the parents do not bond in their marriage they will (unwittingly/incorrectly/harmfully) attempt to bond with the child of the opposite sex to make up for the lack of intimacy in the marriage. The daughter of such a mistaken/misapplied alliance may seek out and marry an older man to meet her unmet fathering needs and to duplicate her dad who doted on her. (Psychiatrist Freud loved to blame bad parenting as the cause of most sins/sexual dysfunctions of the children.)

Time out or SEPARATION is a time to grow up. Get a weekly counselor for yourself (same sex). Attend classes. Finish college. Join clubs. Teach Sunday school. Become active in your church. Go on mission trips. Read your Bible from cover to cover. Go to the gym. Ride your bike often. Stay away from things that are false security blankets like booze, cigarettes, etc. Keep busy in constructive ways. Make a schedule and stick to it, regardless of how you feel. Do those things you dreamed of doing when you were younger. This is a window of time God is giving to you. Make the best use of it. Bless others and the blessings will some day come back to you.

Dickerman, Don When Pigs Move In share the root cause of many a separation/divorce.
Chapter 23 Pledges and Oaths www.dondickerman.net
Also see www.jubilee-resources.com
Included doors to demonic infestation include: Freemasonry, Eastern Star, college fraternities and sororities
or any secret lodge (requiring any secret oath/pledge/initiation) Such clubs/organizations result in one “inviting demons into his family" usually unknowingly, as Satan is a deceiver. Anyway, the “beginning” or Blue Lodge level #1 takes many oaths (as do all levels) - one being the “usurping of the marriage” covenant
by the removal of the wedding ring during the ceremony!

Dickerman, Don When Pigs Move In http://www.dondickerman.net
Dickerman in Appendix lists 37 Biblical Curses, Grouping of Various Evil Spirits by function/assignment, and 60 Symptoms of Demonic Attack.
Chapter 4 How Do Demons Access Believers? "Sex outside of (or before) marriage cannot only open doors for demons, but it can also create a soul tie that gives them permission to stay until that curse is broken." This soul tie affects the individual, his mate, plus his seed, until broken, because it concerns both a demon and a curse."

Frankena, Martin Free Indeed - Healing & Deliverance seminar CD 4/21/2007 session 2 www.revivalconnections.org
Emphasis on spiritually terminating/cutting/loosing unholy soul ties, especially from each prior sexual relationship prior to marriage. Each sexual relationship is a covenant relationship, legal or not, right or wrong. It is a spiritual law that the 2 become 1 flesh during intercourse. That is why it is imperative for each person to repent and put under the blood of Christ all prior relationships, especially those forbidden by God in the Bible. Ask God to remove permanently from you anything deposited from another during any/each prior relationship. Never recite pornographic details; God already knows the particulars. Ask God to redeposit [back into you (or if bad then under the feet of Jesus)] anything taken from you during any prior relationship. It might be innocence, virginity, trust, freedom to love, which one can name, if one is aware. Such transparency/repentance/prayers/proclamations free one to pursue intimacy in his/her marriage.
One can also pray for God to bless his/her marriage.

Hunter, Joan Power to Heal www.joanhunter.org
"After we were divorced, I still had to break and renounce the (marriage) covenant we had made...
I didn't have to break emotional 'soul ties,' however, as I had broken those much earlier."

Moore, Beth 11/18/2009 To Know and Be Known http://www.lifetoday.tv/qt/2009/11/91104.htm
Wednesdays with Beth archives http://www.lifetoday.org/site/PageServer?pagename=bth_media
Life Today archives http://www.lifetoday.org/site/PageServer?pagename=tel_USCalendar
Beth, says, "NO, NO, NO" to cathartically" fessing up" to one's partner of past sexual partners and exploits,
as understood or perhaps misunderstood by many counselors and counselees.
The bottom line is that once our sins are confessed, they are under the blood and forgotten by Jesus.
If one particular area is still full of spiritual or emotional puss then perhaps that part of the soul is broken
or fragmented and needs ministry.
See Ana Mendez ministry www.voiceofthelight.com regarding healing of a broken/fragmented heart.

Genesis 1:28 KJVer    God said to them (Adam and Eve), "Be fruitful, multiply and replenish the earth.
Genesis 2:18-25 KJVer    18God said, "It is not good that man should be alone. I will make him a help meet (helpmate/helper suitable) for him. 19Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every fowl of the air. (He) brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. Whatever Adam called every living creature, that was the name. 20Adam gave names to all cattle, fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field. There was not found a help meet for Adam. 21The Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept. He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh . 22The rib which the Lord God had taken from man, He made a woman and brought her to the man.   23Adam said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man." 24Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cling to his wife. They shall be one flesh. 25They were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
Genesis 20:9-12 NKJV Sarah saw the son of Hagar the Egyptian, whom she had born to Abraham, scoffing. Therefore, she said to Abraham, "Cast out this bondwoman and her son; for the son of this bondwoman shall not be heir with my son, mainly with Isaac." The matter was very displeasing in Abraham's sight because of his son. God said to Abraham, "Do NOT let it be displeasing (an offense) in your sight because of the lad or because of your bondwoman. Whatever Sarah (your mate/prophesied parentage partner) has said to you, listen to her voice; for in Isaac your seed (descendants/heirs) shall be called (both the genetic/blood-line and spiritual/invisible nation of Israel)." (Spiritual insight = Matthew 19:4-6 KJVer below. Let NO relative create a wedge in your marriage relationship!)
Genesis 38:8-10 KJVer   Judah said to Onan, "Go in to your brother's wife, marry her, and raise up seed (heirs) to (for) your brother. Onan knew that the seed (offspring) should not be his (heirs). It came to pass when he went in to his brother's wife, that he spilled it (the sperm) on the ground, lest he should give seed (offspring) to his brother. The thing which he did displeased the Lord; therefore He slew him.

Exodus 20:17    Thou shall not covet (lust/hunger after) thy neighbor's wife.

Deuteronomy 7:3-4 KJVer    Neither shall you make marriages with them (the Gentiles who have other gods). Your daughter you shall not give to his son; nor his daughter shall you take to your son, for they will turn away your son from following Me that they may serve other gods. The anger of the Lord will be kindled against you and suddenly destroy you.
Deuteronomy 22:30 KJVer    A man shall not take his father's wife, nor discover (uncover) his father's skirt (nakedness).
Deuteronomy 23:10 KJVer    Any man that is not clean by reason of uncleanness (nocturnal emission/wet dreams) that chances him by night, then shall he go abroad out of the camp. He shall not come inside the camp. When evening comes on, he shall wash himself with water. When the sun is down, he shall come into the camp again. (Spiritual insight = Man's sperm is sacred to God.)
Deuteronomy 25:5-10 KJVer    5If brethren dwell together (live as a couple) and one of them die and have no child, the wife of the dead shall not marry a stranger. Her husband's brother shall go in to her, take her as a wife, and perform the duty of a husband. 6The firstborn which she bears shall succeed in the name of his brother who is dead, that his name be not put out of Israel. 7If the man not take (refuses) his brother's wife, then his brother's wife shall come to him in the presence of the elders and say, "My husband's brother refuses to raise up to his brother a name in Israel. He will not perform the (conjugal) duty of my husband's brother." 8Then the elders of his city shall call and speak to him (to see) if he (continues) to stand to it and say, "I like not to take her." 9Then the brother's wife (may) come to him in the presence of the elders, loose his shoe from off his foot, spit in his face, and say, "So shall it be done to that man who will not build up his brother's house." 10His (blemished) name shall be called (known in) Israel (as), the house of him (the family) that has his shoe (sandal) loosed. the occasion and because of the rain.

Ezra 9:1-2 NIV 1The leaders came to me (Ezra) and said, "The (exiled/deported) people of Israel, including the priests and the Levites, have not kept themselves separate from the neighboring peoples with their detestable practices, like those of the Canaanites, Hittites, Perizzites, Jebusites, Ammonites, Moabites, Egyptians, and Amorites. 2They have taken some of their daughters as wives for themselves and their sons, and have mingled the holy race with the peoples around them. The leaders and officials have led the way in this unfaithfulness."
(Spiritual insight = Some of these tribes are believed to include the offspring/seed/giants of demons who had relations with women according to Genesis 6:4. Additionally, some authors spiritualize these tribes to represent the 'ites'/sins/demons/problems in our own lives. The New Testament does remind born-again Judeo-Christians NOT to be unequally yoked with mates who do NOT believe in the Messiah, meaning not to enter into a marriage with an unbeliever; however the New Testament does NOT advocate divorce.)
Ezra 10:2-3 NIV 2Shecaniah, son of Jehiel, one of the descendants of Elam, said to Ezra, "We have been unfaithful to lour god by marring foreign women from the peoples around us. But in spite of this, there is still hope for Israel. 3Now let us make a covenant before our God to send away all these women and their children, in accordance with the counsel of my lord and of those who fear the commands of our God. Let it be done according to the (Torah) Law."
Ezra 10:9-12 NIV 9All the (Jewish) men of Judah and Benjamin had gathered in Jerusalem. On the 20th day of the 9th month, all the people were sitting in the square before the (temple/synagogue) house of God, greatly distressed by by the occasion and because of the rain. 10then Ezra the priest stood up and said to them, "You have been unfaithful; you have married foreign women, adding to Israel's guilt. Now make confession to the Lord, the God of your fathers, and do His will. Separate yourselves from the peoples around you and from your foreign wives." 12The whole assembly responded with a loud voice, "You re right. We must do as you say."

Psalm 55:20-21 KJVer He has broken his covenant. The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart. His words were softer than oil, yet they were drawn swords (ready to wound).

Hosea 1:2-3 NKJV    The Lord said to Hosea, "Go take yourself a wife of harlotry and children of harlotry, for the land has committed great harlotry by departing from the Lord." So he went and took Gomer the daughter of Diblaim.
Hosea 2:2-5 NKJV    Bring charges, for she is not (acting as) My wife, nor am I (able to be) her Husband! Let her put away her harlotries from her sight, and her adulteries from between her breasts; lest I strip her naked and expose her, as in the day she was born, and make her like a wilderness, and set her like a dry land, and slay her with thirst. I will not have mercy on her children, for they are the children of harlotry. Their mother has played the harlot. She who conceived them has behaved shamefully, for she said, 'I will go after my lovers.'
Hosea 2:23 NKJV   (Nevertheless,) I will have mercy on her who had not obtained mercy;
then I will say to those who were not My people (and those who were not acting as My people/bride),
'You are My people!'   They shall say, 'You are my God!'
Hosea 2:16 NKJV    Says the Lord, "In that day you will call Me, 'My Husband,'
and no longer call Me, 'My Master.'"
Hosea 2:18 NKJV    In that (coming) day I will make a covenant for them.
Hosea 2:19-20 NKJV    I will betroth you to Me forever. Yes, I will betroth you to Me in righteousness and justice, in loving kindness and mercy. I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness. You shall know the Lord. (This is a daily prayer for the observant Jewish man.)
Hosea 3 NKJV    Then the Lord said to me, "Go again, love a woman (Gomer) who is loved by a lover and is committing adultery, just like the love of the Lord for the children of Israel, who look to other gods and love the raisin cakes of the pagans." So I bought her for myself for 15 shekels of silver, and one and one-half homers of barley. I said to her, "You shall stay with me many days. You shall not play the harlot, nor shall you have a man - so too, will I be toward you." For the children of Israel shall abide many days without king or prince, without sacrifice or sacred pillar, without ephod or teraphim. Afterward the children of Israel shall return and seek the Lord their God and David their king. They shall fear the Lord and His goodness in the latter days. (Spiritual insight = Hosea is commanded to live out as a word picture the love of God towards us His bride and towards Israel. Hosea role-played the prophecy of what Jesus Christ would do for the nation of Israel and all who believe in Him. Additionally, Jesus is our role model, example in marriage.)

Malachi 2:13a Amplified    This you do with double guilt.
Malachi 2:13b-14 NIV    You (husband) flood the Lord's altar with tears. You weep and wail because He no longer pays attention to your offerings or accept them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, "Why?" It is because the Lord is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.
Malachi 2:15-16 Amplified    Did not God make (you and your wife) one (flesh)? Did not One (God) make you and preserve your spirit alive? Why did God make you two (become) one? Because He sought a godly offspring (from your union). Therefore, take heed to (of) yourselves. Let no one deal treacherously and be faithless to the wife of his youth. The Lord, God of Israel, says, "I hate divorce, marital separation, and he who covers his garment (wife) with violence. Therefore, keep a watch upon your spirit (that it may be controlled by My Spirit), that you deal not treacherously and faithlessly (with your marriage mate).

Tobit 6:18 NAB (Catholic) Do not be afraid, for she was set apart for you before the world existed.
Tobit 7:11 NAB (Catholic) Your marriage to her has been decided in heaven.

Matthew 1:18 TPNT (The Power New Testament) While His mother Mary was betrothed* (engaged) to Joseph, before they came together she was found to have been made pregnant by the Holy Spirit.
*(Footnote says, "The Jewish marriage began when the ketubah, the marriage contract was signed. Later the ceremony would be performed and the marriage consummated. In Jewish law they were married, not betrothed, at the signing of the ketubah.)
Matthew 18:19 NASV    If 2 of you agree on earth abut anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father Who is in heaven.
Matthew 19:4-6 KJVer    He answered, "Have you not read, that He Who made them at the beginning made them male and female and said, 'For this cause shall a man leave father and mother and shall cling to his wife; the 2 shall become 1 flesh?' They are no more 2 but 1 flesh. What God has joined together, let no man put asunder!"
Matthew 19:8-9 KJVer    8He (Jesus) says, "Moses because of the hardness of your hearts permitted you to put away (legally divorce/shrita) your wives; but from the beginning it was not so." 9I say to you, "Whoever shall put away (legally divorce/shrita) his wife, except for fornication, and shall marry another, commits adultery. (Additionally,) whoever marries her who is (not legally) put away (undivorced/shvikta/without legal divorce papers), commits adultery."   Healing Scripture Idioms from Aramaic New Testament

Luke 6:37-38 NIV "Do not judge and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap; for with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."
Luke 18:4 KJV Everyone who exalts himself shall be abased.

John 2:1-11 KJVer    There was a marriage in Cana of Galilee. The mother of Jesus was there. Both Jesus and His disciples were called to the marriage. When they wanted wine, the mother of Jesus said to Him, "They have no wine." Jesus said, "Woman, what have I to do with you? My hour has not yet come." His mother said to the servants, "Do what He says." There 6 water pots of stone, after the manner of (for the purpose of) purifying the Jews, containing 2 or 3 firkins (gallons) apiece (each). Jesus said, "Fill the water pots with water." The filled them up to the brim. He said to them, "Draw (it) out now and bear (it) to the governor (manager) of the feast." They bore (took) it. When the ruler of the feast had tasted the water that was made wine, he knew not where it was (came from). The servants which drew the water knew. The governor of the feast called the bridegroom saying, "Every man at the beginning sets forth good wine. When the men have drunk well (a lot), then (he serves) the worse (wine). But you have get the good wine until now (last). This beginning (1st) of miracles Jesus did in Cana of Galilee and manifested forth His glory. His disciples believed on Him.
John 8:4,7,10-11 KJVer    4"Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act. Moses in the law commanded that such should be stoned. What do you say?" 7when they continued asking Him, He lifted up Himself and said, "He that is without sin among you, let him 1st cast a stone at her." 10When Jesus had lifted up Himself and saw none but the woman, He said, "Woman, where are your accusers? Has no man condemned you?" 11she said, "No man, Lord." Jesus said, "Neither do I condemn you. Go and sin no more."
John 20:23 NASV    If you forgive the sins of any, their sins have been forgiven. (However, God forbid) If you retain the sins of any, they have been retained.

Acts 5:1-9 KJVer A certain man named Ananias with Sapphira his wife sold a possession, kept back part of the price (his wife also being privy to it) brought a certain part, and laid it at the apostles' feet. Peter said, "Ananias, why has Satan filled your heart to lie to the Holy Ghost to keep back part of the land price? While it remained, was it not your own? After it was sold, was it not in your own power? why have you conceived this thing in your heart? You have not lied to men, but to God." Ananias hearing these words fell down and gave up the ghost (died). The young men arose, wound him up, carried him out and buried him. It was about 3 hours after when his wife, not knowing what was done, come in. Peter answered to (asked) her, "Tell me whether you sold the land for so much?" She said, "Yes." Peter said, "How is it that you have agreed together (with your mate) to tempt the (Holy) Spirit of the Lord? Behold, the feet of them who have buried your husband are at the door and shall carry you out (dead too).
Acts 5:29 KJVer Peter and the other apostles said, "We ought to obey God rather than men."

Romans 1:24,26-28 KJVer    24God gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts to dishonor their own bodies between themselves. 26God gave them up to vile affections, for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature. 27Likewise, the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another, men with men working that which is unseemly, receiving in themselves that recompense of their error. 28Even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind to do those things which are not convenient.
Romans 3:24-32 KJVer    24God gave them up to uncleanness through lusts of their own hearts to dishonor their own bodies between themselves...26for this cause God gave them up to vile affections. Even their women did change the natural use (of sex) into that which is against nature. 27Likewise men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one (man) toward another. Men with men working that which is unseemly, receiving in themselves that recompense of their error...28God gave them over to a reprobate mind to do those things which are not convenient, 29 being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness, full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity, whisperer, 30backbiters, haters of God, spiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, 31without understanding, covenant breakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful, 32 who knowing the judgment of God...commit such things worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them.
Romans 14:19 NASV   Let us pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another.

1st Corinthians 5:1 KJVer    There is fornication among you. Such fornication (adultery/incest) as is not so much as (even named) among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife.
1st Corinthians 6:17 NASV    One who joins himself to the Lord is one spirit with Him.
1st Corinthians 7 NIV    "It is good for a man not to marry, but since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone, but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone, but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I (Paul) say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God.   One has this gift. Another has that."
Now to the unmarried and widows, I say, "It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry. It is better to marry than to burn with passion."
10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord), "A wife must not separate from her husband. 11If she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. A husband must not divorce his wife."
To the rest I say this (I, NOT the Lord), "If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. If a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. The unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean. As it is; they are holy. If the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances. God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? How do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the   churches. Was a man already circumcised when he was called (to Jesus)? He should not become circumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised. Circumcision is nothing and un-circumcision is nothing. Keeping God's commands is what counts. Each one should remain in the situation which he was in when God called him. Were you a slave when you were called? Don't let it trouble you; although if you can gain your freedom, do so. He who was a slave when he was called by the Lord is the Lord's freedman. Similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ's slave. You were bought at a price. Do not become slaves of men. Brother, Each man, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation God called him to.
Now about virgins. I have no command from the Lord, but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord's mercy is trustworthy. Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for you to remain as you are. Are you married? do not seek a divorce. Are you unmarried? do not look for a wife. If you do marry, you have not sinned. If a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Those who marry will face many troubles in this life. I want to pare you this.
What I mean, brothers, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they had none. Those who mourn, (live) as if they did not. Those who are happy, (live) as if they were not. Those who buy something, (live) as if they were not theirs to keep. Those who use the things of the world, (live) as if not engrossed in them. This world in its present form is passing away.
I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs - how he can please the Lord. A married man is concerned about the affairs of this world - how he can please his wife. His interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs. Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. A married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world - how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live a in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.
If anyone thinks he is acting improperly toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if she is getting along in years, and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married. The man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion, but has control over his own will, and who had made up his mind not to marry the virgin - this man also does the right thing. So then, he who marries the virgin does the right thing, but he who does not marry her does even better.
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. If her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. It is my judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is. I think that I too have the Spirit of God.
1st Corinthians 11:3 NASV    Christ is (expected by God to be) the head of every man.
1st Corinthians 11:9 KJVer    Neither was the man created for the woman, but the woman for the man.
1st Corinthians 13:1-10 NKJV    1Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. 2Though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I would remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3Though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing. 4Love suffers long and is kind. Love does not envy. Love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8Love never fails. Whether there are prophecies, they will fail. Whether there are tongues, they will cease. Whether there is knowledge, it will vanish. 9We know in part and we prophesy in part, 10When that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.
1st Corinthians 13:13 NIV    These 3 remain: faith, hope and love, but the greatest of these is love.
2nd Corinthians 6:14 KJV    Be not unequally yoked (bound) together (engaged/promised/wed/go steady) with (to) unbelievers. What fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? What communion has light with darkness?

Galatians 3:26-28 NASV    For you are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus...There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free man, male nor female. You are all one in Christ Jesus.
Galatians 5:19-21 KJVer    The works of the flesh are manifest, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, reveling, and the like, of which I told you before. They who do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

Ephesians 4:26-27 KJVer Be angry and sin not. Do not let the sun down down upon your wrath. Neither give place to the devil.
Ephesians 4:31-32 KJVer    Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, malice, clamor and evil speaking be put away from you. Be tenderhearted, kind, and forgiving to one another, even as God for Christ's sake has forgiven you.
Ephesians 5:3 KJVer    Fornication, all uncleanness or covetousness be not once named among you.
Ephesians 5:22 KJVer    Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
Ephesians 5:23-33 KJV    The husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, that He might present it to Himself a glorious church, not having spot, wrinkle, or any such thing. I should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife loves himself, for no man ever yet hated his own flesh. He nourishes and cherishes it, even as (does) the Lord (nourish and cherish) the church. We are members of His body, flesh and bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife. The 2 shall become 1 flesh. This is a great mystery; I speak concerning the church. Nevertheless, let everyone of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; wife see that you reverence your husband. (Spiritual insight = Marriage is a triangle, with the Lord above as the head.)

Philippians 2:2-4 ASV Be of the same mind; maintain the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose. Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself. Do not merely look out for your your own personal interests, but also for the interest of others.
Philippians 3:13-14 NAS One thing I do - forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.

1st Thessalonians 4:3 KJVer This is the will of God, even your sanctification, that you should abstain from fornication (porneia).

Hebrews 12:15 NIV See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.
Hebrews 13:4 KJVer The undefiled marriage bed is honorable, but whoremongers (fornicators) and adulterers God will judge.

1st Peter 3:7 KJVer You husbands...give honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, as being hers together of the grace of life, that your prayers be not hindered.

1st John 1:9 KJVer If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Revelation 22:14-15 KJVer Blessed are they that do His commandments, that they may have right to the tree of life and may enter in through the gates into the city. Outside are the dogs (sodomites), sorcerers, whoremongers, murderers, idolaters, and whosoever loves and makes a lie (sexual perverts).

Bevere, John The Bait of Satan book, audio or DVD www.johnbebere.org
Chapter 7 The Sure Foundation shares the author's 5 year marriage struggle and commitment to stay the course, not to divorce, not to be offended, and to allow God to fix his character flaws exposed in the intimacy of marriage. Running away, escaping, does not allow God the opportunity to increase our spiritual maturity/muscle.

Bubeck, Mark I. The Adversary - the Christian Versus Demon Activity www.deeperwalkinternational.org/
Bubeck implores us to daily pray aggressively for our mates and our marriages, plus to pray aloud together.

Chapman, Gary D          The 5 Love Languages       book, audio, or CD            www.garychapman.org
If your love tank is full, you can work out any problems. Each person has one of 5 languages as his primary love language, which is the way he/she relates to others. He/she needs to learn his/her mate's primary love language.    Read this Amazon book
Chapman, Gary D           Covenant Marriage: Building Communication & Intimacy     Read this Amazon book
Chapman, Gary D           Now You're Speaking My Language
Subtitle = Honest Communication and Deeper Intimacy for a Stronger Marriage   Read this Amazon book

Cho, Rev David Yonggi of Korea   http://english.fgtv.com/drcho/main.asp   http://english.fgtv.com/yfgc.pdf
Books = Successful Home Cell Groups in chapter 2 God's Reeducation Program says that God explained to Cho,
"Think of a marriage...When a man marries a woman, he...loves her and shares his life with her - intimately.
That is the kind of relationship you are to have with the Holy Spirit." Chapter 12 Importance of Fellowship with the Holy Spirit shares "that the Holy Spirit is more than the Spirit of being born again, more than the Spirit of power. He's a person, but a person who lives inside me. To live with a person means to have (daily/continual intimate) fellowship with that person." God also told Cho to make Him #1, self #2, mate #3, children #4, church/ministry/work #5, in that order. Chapter 13 Motivating Lay Leadership shares that "to have a loving home, the husband and wife need to touch each other very often." Additionally, each mate needs to recognize, appreciate, praise and celebrate the other's accomplishments, at least weekly. Look for the good points and overlook the faults. Cho will not even eat supper without his wife, out of love/deference to her. An appreciated/recognized mate seldom will stray.
Cho, Rev David Yonggi       The 4th Dimension    www.bridgelogos.com publisher
Chapter 3 The Creative Power of the Spoken Word shares how Cho prayed for a couple who decided to divorce, "In the name of Jesus Christ, I command Satan to loose his hold of hatred on this couple. An in this moment, in the mighty name of Jesus Christ I command that these 2 be melted together. Let them be tender and rejoined."   Just prior to this Cho had visualized the couple reunited and in love, through the cross of Jesus Christ, by the help of the Holy Spirit. He prayed, "Oh, God, make it like that." The Holy Spirit did knit the marriage back together.

D'Andrea, Molly Set Free www.setfreeif.org
Chapter 12 Betrayed by Man, Restored by God shares a mate's challenge, "Enough is enough! Satan wants to destroy our family and I am not going to let him do it...You are my husband until death. And that's final!" Yes, she won.

DeMoss, Bob, and Rainey Rekindling the Romance - Loving the Love of Your Life # 0785285563

Dickerman, Don When Pigs Move In http://www.dondickerman.net
Dickerman in Appendix lists 37 Biblical Curses, Grouping of Various Evil Spirits by function/assignment, and 60 Symptoms of Demonic Attack.
Chapter 4 How Do Demons Access Believers? "Sex outside of (or before) marriage cannot only open doors for demons, but it can also create a soul tie that gives them permission to stay until that curse is broken." This soul tie affects the individual, his mate, plus his seed, until broken, because it concerns both a demon and a curse."

Francis, John & Penny      What Do You Do When You’re Left Alone?      www.johnfrancis.org.uk/biography.html
Ruach Ministries, 122 Brixton Hill, London, SW2 1RS, UK (England)

Francis, John & Penny      John's wife shares her insight on how the Jewish prayer shawl relates to prayer.
Bishop Francis 2006 TV appearance with Benny Hinn

Garlington, Joseph                  Right or Reconciled: God's Heart for Reconciliation

Gray, John                               Mars and Venus on a Date                                  www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John                               Mars and Venus in Love                                      www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John                               Mars and Venus                                                www.marsvenus.com Subtitle = Connecting with Your Soul-mate
Gray, John                               Mars and Venus in the Bedroom                          www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John                               Mars and Venus Together Forever                        www.marsvenus.com
Subtitle = Understanding the Cycles of Intimacy
Gray, John                               Men are from Mars -Women are from Venus. www.marsvenus.com
A Guide to Lasting Romance and Passion
Gray, John & Amen, Daniel G The Mars and Venus Diet and Exercise Solution www.marsvenus.com
Crease the Brain Chemistry of Health, Happiness, and Lasting Romance
Gray, John                               What You Feel, You Can Heal                             www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John                               A Guide to Enriching Relationships                    www.marsvenus.com
A guide to communication
Gray, John                               Practical Miracles for Mars & Venus                     www.marsvenus.com
Subtitle = 9 Principles for Lasting Love, Increasing Success, and Vibrant Health in the 21st Century
1 - Believe        - as if miracles are possible.
2 - Live            - as if you are free to do what you want.
3 - Learn          - as if you are a beginner.
4 - Love           - as if for the 1st time.
5 - Give            - as if you already have what you need.
6 - Work          - as if money does not matter.
7 - Relax           - as if everything will be OK.
8 - Talk to God - as if you are being heard.
9 - Feast           - as if you can have whatever you want.
Gray, John                               Mars and Venus Starting Over                         www.marsvenus.com

Hammond, Frank D The Marriage Bed www.thechildrensbread.net
Webster's dictionary definition of sodomy is "carnal copulation with a member of the same sex or animal, or unnatural carnal copulation with the member of the opposite sex". Marital oral or anal sex can be an open door to lesbianism or homosexuality and to the spreading of sexually transmitted disease such as herpes. There are oral sex and lesbian spirits.
Hammond, Frank & Ida Mae Kingdom Living for the Family www.thechildrensbread.net
A wrong reaction is a wrong action. When a husband reacts wrongly to his wife, then he also has a problem. We cannot justify our own sin, because another has done wrong.

Hayes, Norvel How to Live and NOT Die www.nhm.cc
Chapter 13 Be the Head of Your House "When you're married, you can get a healing for your husband or wife, because the 2 of you are 1...
The Lord spoke to me (Norvel) and said, 'Mark 11:23 will heal him (the husband) if it was obeyed'...The way to get the Holy Spirit to perform Mark 11:23 is to quote it. It says, 'You can have what you say'...'Believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith. Mark 11:23. (Norvel instructed the wife,) 'Sit here and obey it. Look at your husband straight and say, "My husband will live and not die, in Jesus' name. My husband will live and not die, in Jesus' name." Say it strongly all the time...Don't stop saying it, and he will live and not die'...That's what I call attending to God's Word and NOT letting it depart from your eyes. (Proverbs 4:20-22)...WHEN you CONFESS God's Word, it WILL be performed by the Holy Spirit." Indeed, the husband did recover, to the doctors' surprise.

Hegstrom, Paul Broken Children, Grown Up Pain www.lifeskillsinstl.org
subtitle = Understanding the Effects of Your Wounded Past
Chapter 7 I'm Single, On My Own - Is This All There Is? "God showed me that I had to identify my needs, so that the people in my live would have a 'finish line'." Clearly define "a need and then identify whether that need can be met by ourselves, our partners, or jointly. By establishing a finish line, we can face the need as a couple...we can also bring them to God...determining a finishing line for our need is crucial."

Hinson, Michael                        To Heal the Heart                             www.tohealtheheart.com
Subtitle = Live Life to the Fullest                                                        www.hinsonministries.com
Chapter 9 The Truth about Covenants In addition to the Passover covenant, Hinson contends there are only 3 blood covenants - (1) Old Testament covenant sealed with circumcision (and regular sacramental blood sacrifices), (2) New Testament covenant sealed with the blood of Christ on the cross (and regular sacramental wine/communion), (3) and the marriage contract (sealed with the hymen being torn during intercourse).
The marriage contract is the only one representing the union between Christ and His bride.
Matthew 19:4-6 NIV "Haven't you read, that at the beginning, the Creator made them male and female and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife; the 2 will become 1 flesh'?   So they are no longer 2, but 1. Therefore, what God has joined together, let man not separate."
1st Corinthians 6:16 "Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The 2 will become 1 flesh."
Any sexual violation of the marriage contract results in harm to 3+ people! Because sexual intercourse/intimacy results in 2 becoming 1 flesh, violation of the marriage contract can result in sexually transmitted disease, demons (nightmares/fears/terrors) being transferred, and even stronghold (character defects/new traits not normal to your own previous identity/hang-ups) transference between individuals; the same issues/dangers that one would have with a blood transfusion or organ transplant!

Jefferson, MB of Tampa, Florida And They Shall Become One www.mbministries.org

Keesee, Gary The Best of the Marriage Makeover www.fflc.info www.faithlifechurch.org
Family of Faith Open Bible Church, New Albany, Ohio, USA

Kelley, Earthquake Order book #1122 "Bound to Lose, Destined to Win" http://earthquakekelleyministries.org/books/ Chapter 2 - A Curse of Voodoo - There are "names and assigned duties of the spirits that attach themselves to people who engage in sexual relationships outside of marriage." "Erzulie" is "the main principality that rules over any king of sexual perversion...Some voodoo practitioners pray to this spirit, beat drums, go into a trance, and have sexual relations with people all night long - and sometimes all week long." "The Fox spirit...causes separation and division."
Chapter 4 A Trip to Hell - "My pastor finally said to me, 'You don't have to stay with a woman who is committing adultery, living with another man, and trying to have you killed every other week. And if she doesn't kill you with a gun, she's going to kill you with a disease. You are biblically free to divorce the woman.'"

Klaus, Rita Rita's Story Paraclete Press
Chapter 19 Pieces shares priestly counsel. "I really doubt the (religious) vows you made were even valid. 18 is too young for a person to make such a commitment. That's why we've closed most of our minor seminaries (for the clergy) and why we do not encourage our young people to marry at that age. They simply do not have the wisdom to make a responsible decision that will affect the rest of their lives."

Ladas, Whipple, and Perry The G Spot and Other Discoveries About Sexuality www.amazon.com
A secular book recommended for those who feel there is a sexual dysfunction in their physical relationships or in their own body (perhaps due to such as birth control, menopause or other hormone issues). Especially recommended for women. Book explains both the clitoris/vulval and vagina/uterine organisms, the female ejaculation, plus both the male penis and prostate erotic arousal areas.
Sexuality issues are presented as neutral/optional in this and many textbooks. One area of concern is imagery/fantasy, which can lead Christians into demonic sexual spirit interference/molestation/kidnapping of thought, thought life sin - pornography/adultery/fornication/digging up the past, plus self gratification rather than mate gratification. Achieving an organism through self gratification can violate the sexual partner. One also needs to take into consideration sexually transmitted diseases from the mate's mouth being in the partner's private areas (vagina/anus) or penis in another's mouth, plus the danger of disease (cancer/aids/HIV) from having anal sex.

Lew, Mike Victims No Longer
Subtitle = Men Recovering from Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse
Mike Lew is a secular psychotherapist, co-director of The Next Step Counseling and Training Center, Newton Centre, Massachusetts, USA

Madison, Richard Raised from the Dead www.rickmadison.org
Chapter 9 Dreams and Visions "The Lord gave me a dream of my wife before we were married...She came up to me and told me that God had revealed to her that we would be married." (Never jump into a marriage. WAIT on the Lord's direction! Of supreme significance in one's life is 1st one's consecration to Christ, followed by one's consecration to his/her mate. When 2 become 1 flesh, it is actually all past sexual partners becoming 1 flesh, for beginners.)

MacNutt, Francis Deliverance from Evil Spirits www.christianhealingmin.org
Chapter 8 Curse-like Judgments and Ties that Bind section Sexual Ties insist that premarital counseling (pre-cana classes) needs to incorporate repentance, rejection, and breaking of each premarital full sexual/physical/psychological relationship/bond/tie. Pray to be set free of all past lovers; pray for God to bless them. Then pray for God's Holy Spirit to bless you individually and to bless your marriage.
1st Corinthians 6:16 KJV "Do you not know that he who (fornicates/commits adultery) is joined to a harlot (prostitute) is 1 body with her. 'The 2,' He says, 'shall become 1 flesh.'"
MacNutt cites Tommy Tyson stating that Jesus needs to sever each previous sexual liaison, or a permanent bond will remain until it is broken by some sort of deliverance prayer. These uncut bonds will create spiritual confusion and marriage bedfellows.
Chapter 11 Selecting a Team notes that the example of Billy Graham is imperative. He never allows himself to be alone in a room with a woman, other than his wife. Spirits of lust find much opportunity in a demonized person who needs ministry.

Meisner, Bob and Audrey Marriage Under Cover book/CD/DVD www.bobandaudrey.com
Autobiography of pastor's wife who did not have any boundaries due to her need for danger and self worth, committed adultery which resulted in a pregnancy, and was forgiven and rescued by her husband.
They both learned how to view themselves and each other through God's eyes...
Often we do not forgive ourselves, after God has forgiven us - the first time we asked! Additionally we often do not accept God's forgiveness!
5/21-22/2006 www.daystar.com/joni

Prince, Derek                            The Marriage Covenant                                   www.derekprince.com
Prince, Derek                            God is a Matchmaker       (for singles)              www.derekprince.com      Shares that God chose Ruth for Derek's mate.
Prince, Derek                          The Marriage Covenant                                   www.derekprince.com
Prince, Derek                            Rules of Engagement                                      www.derekprince.com
Prince illustrates our oneness with the Holy Spirit to our marriage. It is not what we do, but who/Who we are married to that affects our relationship/fruit.
Chapter 16 Angelic Intervention in Human Lives warns wives. "The woman ought to have a symbol of authority on her head (in church), because of the (nephilim/fallen) angels (evil spirits who rape wives and daughters)." 1st Corinthians 11:10
Note. The Jewish community wear skull caps to synagogue, as do a number of Catholic clergy, showing that God is their covering, as is a husband/dad the covering to a woman. Refer to 1st Corinthians 11:3 The head of every man is Christ, the (spiritual) head of every woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.

Roberson, Dave The Walk of the Spirit - The Walk of Power http://www.daveroberson.org/
[PDF] The Walk of the Spirit — The Walk of Power www.daveroberson.org/Portals/0/WOSWOP.pdf
Printer Friendly Version Book is for personal NOT commercial use. Is copyrighted.
6/12-16/2006 radio broadcast - www.sidroth.org
Dave Robertson Ministries, Tulsa, Oklahoma, USA
Chapter 10 Purging and Mortification reminds us that without the Holy Spirit exposing and pulling out the marriage root issues/problems, no counselor and no heroic effort on the part of either mate will solve a marriage problem. Consistently praying in tongues allows the Holy Spirit to get at those root problems. (Dave believes that the heavenly tongues language is available to every believer when he is prayed over for the baptism of the Holy Spirit, immediately after he has received/accepted Jesus as his personal savior/Lord.)
Chapter 15 The Divine Progression to Agape Love warns/reminds us that love is NOT a feeling or attitude, but a commitment.

Roberts, Oral    When You See the Invisible, You Can do the Impossible   www.orm.cc
Chapter 11 Seven Keys I Learned for a Successful Marriage shares that the most excellent way is to wait/look for God's first choice of a mate - There is no substitute for marrying in God's will & time.
marry for life (a born-again, spirit filled mate)
practice sex often     (Instead of grabbing a beer, grab your wife!)
pray (in tongues/interpretation) together and read scripture together
never place self in the path of temptation
communicate
Roberts, Evelyn (Mrs. Oral Roberts)   His Darling Wife, Evelyn   www.orm.cc

Rooks, Linda W Broken Heart on Hold www.cookministries.com/lifejourney www.kingsway.co.uk
Subtitle = Surviving Separation useful for either mate/sex during marriage separation. Book points out that there are usually 2 sides to what/whose personality problems contribute to a separation. Separation/ time-out is a good time/opportunity to grow up emotionally, spiritually, financially, etc. If I am a fat slob, then now is a perfect time to do something about it. For beginners, mow that lawn instead of hiring/asking/expecting someone else to do it for you. Exercise helps with depression, finances, and fat elimination.

Savard, Liberty Now, It's Time to Begin Producing the Promise http://www.libertysavard.com
Savard's doctrine contends that the majority of our failures are due to me/myself/I, the soul/old self/nature. Per Chapter 7 Casting Off Soul Power and Soul Ties, Savard is a disciple of Watchman Nee, who teaches on soul and spirit (where the human soul has much latent parapsychology power and can falsify the Holy Spirit). Savard does apply the principle of loosing problems and binding blessings. In the area of marriage she warns of the dangers of soul ties to one's mate and children. Soul ties are an unhealthy attempt to meet/fix unmet needs rather than relying on God to meet/heal those needs. It can also be an attempt to control/fix/rule another. Savard includes a few loosing/binding prayers to help remedy these issues.

Shu Zen Duan, Irene Our God is Real - Testimonies from My Life Family tales from China
Section 1 Women in Old China Part 3 No Freedom in Marriage notes that on the wedding night "when the guests and relatives left. Only then the groom could take off her veil. At that moment, in some cases, the bride discovered her husband was physically handicapped, mentally retarded or a little body who was 10 - 15 years younger than her, and she became his baby sitter...On the night of the wedding, the bride (sometimes) discovered her husband was a piece of wood with his name carved on it...The woman would be (thus condemned to) living as widow her whole life."

Walters, Kathie Columba - The Celtic Dove www.goodnews.netministries.org Part 2 - Miracles Irish Catholic Saint Columba was beseeched by a Rechrean island peasant to pray for his marriage, as the wife would not consent to being intimate with him. Columba entreated the wife, "Why, woman, do you try to drive your own flesh away from you, when the Lord says, 'And they 2 shall be one flesh?'
...That (legal/physical/sexual separation of) which you speak cannot rightly be done, for you are bound by the law (marriage/religious contracts you signed) to your husband as long as he lives. For those whom God has lawfully joined, it is a sin to separate.' And having said this, he added, 'This day let us 3 pray and fast to the Lord.'" Subsequently she testified, "'Your prayer to God for me is heard, for him whom I hated yesterday, I love today, for my heart this night past has been changed.'" per Book 2, chapter 42 of Medieval sourcebook - Adamnan's Life of St Columba
http://www.fordham.edu/halsall/basis/columba-e.html

The Epoch Times 12/12-18/05 editorial Love Hurts? So Does a Wounded Marriage from Chicago Reuters news cites a December Archives of General Psychiatry report that fighting weakens both mate's immune systems by triggering the white blood cells to increase production of protein proinflammatory cytokines, which can contribute to early healing, but can also trigger/contribute to age-related disease (cardiovascular, osteoporosis, arthritis, depression). www.epochtimes.com

The Boston Herald 4/14/2007 www.betsyhart.net shares that studies have rediscovered that the more women friends a wife has the less need a wife has to depend on the emotional support of her mate. This female mentoring can reduce the neediness of a wife. (Obviously, this was the typical lifestyle for centuries before modernization, independency and self sufficiency. Many tribal cultures still operate this way as well as some religious lifestyles.) Men on the other hand were not found to significantly benefit emotionally (in regards to their marriages) from this degree/type of male comradeship.

Frankena, Martin Free Indeed - Healing & Deliverance seminar CD 4/21/2007 session 2 www.revivalconnections.org
Emphasis on spiritually terminating/cutting/loosing unholy soul ties, especially from each prior sexual relationship prior to marriage. Each sexual relationship is a covenant relationship, legal or not, right or wrong. It is a spiritual law that the 2 become 1 flesh during intercourse. That is why it is imperative for each person to repent and put under the blood of Christ all prior relationships, especially those forbidden by God in the Bible. Ask God to remove permanently from you anything deposited from another during any/each prior relationship. Never recite pornographic details; God already knows the particulars. Ask God to redeposit [back into you (or if bad then under the feet of Jesus)] anything taken from you during any prior relationship. It might be innocence, virginity, trust, freedom to love, which one can name, if one is aware. Such transparency/repentance/prayers/ proclamations free one to pursue intimacy in his/her marriage. One can also pray for God to bless his/her marriage.

Gray, John                       Mars and Venus on a Date             audio/video    www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John                       Men, Women & Relationships         audio         www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John                       Mars and Venus in Love                 audio         www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John   Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Book of Days audio   www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John   Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus       video        www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John                       Mars and Venus in the Bedroom       video        www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John                       Mars and Venus Together Forever     video        www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John                       What You Feel, You Can Heal       audio         www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John                       Mars and Venus Starting Over        audio/video   www.marsvenus.com

Griffith, Theresa               Lover of My Soul       music CD       www.somebodycaresministries.org
God did allow her to remarry after 25 years of verbal abuse. God gave her a supernatural gift of playing various flutes. She plays them like one would speak in tongues - through the Holy Spirit. She also downloads songs from heaven which she sings to the wounded. Both ways she ministers healing to many. Both mental and physical wounds are supernaturally removed by Jesus as she ministers to individuals. Even special needs children are ministered to through her music in the school room setting. Milking cows are known to be calmer during Mozart concerts, so likely Theresa's music would calm them also!
Griffith-Hulbert, Jeff and Theresa http://www.sidroth.org/tvbroadcasts.htm       Messianic Vision shares on its webcast -
1/29/2007-2/4/2007 Sid Roth TV web/broad cast      Watch Real Player Windows Media    Download   Real Player    Windows Media
2/5-11/2007             Sid Roth TV web/broad cast       Watch Real Player Windows Media    Download   Real Player    Windows Media

Fighting Back from Fight for the Family     audio by TD Jakes of Dallas Texas         www.tdjakes.org
TD Jakes contends that there is a "spirit of di-vision" (loss of vision) and implies there may also be a "spirit of dis-couragement" (loss of courage).
Jakes, TD                           The Sell Breaker    8/8/2007 TV broadcast     https://tdjakes.org/
The Spellbreaker DVD # DV-0802    The Spellbreaker CD # CD-0802
Teaching and prayer for the breaking off of family curses, including curses into which one marries. Highly recommended.

Weiss, Douglas Intimacy; A 100 Day Guide to Lasting Relationships http://www.drdougweiss.com
One of the major purposes of marriage is to make a couple/individual into the image of God; do not be surprised at the conflict/friction between so many couples who appear to be unlike/opposite to each other.

Whetstone, Dr Gary V What God Has Jointed Together www.gwwm.com
Subtitle = God's Plan for a Fulfilled Marriage audio CD with booklet showing back up scripture

Wright, Henry                     11/2005 audio Sid Roth radio broadcast              www.sidroth.org/radio
Georgia, USA
According to Romans 8:3 God sent His own Son for sin offering; He condemned sin in the flesh. Sin infects the spirit, the mind and the body. In the body sin manifests as disease/illness/infirmity. When a wife is not covered by her husband or a child is not protected by his parent, the unprotected person may unwittingly take on the husband's/parent's sin/abuse/condemnation/rejection into his own body/flesh and thus acquire a disease. This is often seen in fibromyalgia.
Wright in his book                                A More Excellent Way          www.pleasantvalleychurch.net
shares that the remedy is to repent of the taking on/owning/internalizing/accepting of another's sin/mistake/failure/omission/negligence + to reject the sin/disease/infirmity, in the name of Jesus.
One can even do this silently during communion at church. God desired only one human to take on another's sins in His flesh; yes, it was His son Jesus.

Yoder, Dr Rebecca Brown Prepare for War www.harvestwarriors.com
Chapter 15 The Double Minded Man teaches mates to
(1) in the name of Jesus, anoint mate with olive oil
(2) in the name of Jesus, command any demons of inheritance to leave
(3) in the name of Jesus, close and seal with blood of Jesus all doorways in which demons entered
This approach may be needed when couple is aware that mate has same negative characteristics as does parent/ancestor. The results can be instantaneous. Can also anoint descendents/grandchildren/children.

Craig Hill 1/18-24/2010 TV broadcast http://www.sidroth.org/site/News2?abbr=tv_&page=NewsArticle&id=8937&security=1041&news_iv_ctrl=-1 book 2 Fleas - No Dog
Chapter 6 Miscommunication - Schemes of the Devil Many of the problems in marriage and other relationships are due to miscommunication, purposely perpetrated and/or enhanced by our enemy Satan. We need to relate both on the intellectual level, but also on the emotional level. To conceal/not acknowledge/ share at both levels is to be both vulnerable to hurt but also to be deceitful. (On the other hand, one must not be so verbal or emotional as to be manipulative of mate or to allow mate to manipulate you.)
Chapter 7 Transparency and Intimacy It is therefore necessary for us to go the extra mile to do preventative and/or redemptive/ remedial work. "Transparency is the Key to Intimacy." Beware of the "danger of soulical (emotional) adultery." If I or my mate has "stopped communicating in intimacy with" our spouse/each other and begun to do so with another individual, especially of the opposite sex, then emotional adultery may have begun, leading to physical and spiritual adultery. When we prefer to discuss exciting/good news, fears, inspirations, frustrations, or aspirations with others, then our fantasies and intimate times will be polluted with a trespasser. (That is sin. Sin begins in the heart and infects the mind, emotions, body and spirit. Confession to God and immediate rectification is necessary.)
transcript http://www.sidroth.org/site/DocServer/IS536Transcript_Hill.pdf?docID=2181

Hinn, Benny 7/29/2008 Toronto Miracle Service Highlights #1 http://www.bennyhinn.org/media/2008-7-29.asx
A woman is healed of 3 slipped disks. Her x-husband (whom she divorced 26 years ago) is in the audience.
Benny reads scripture to them regarding divorce.
Then her x-husband asks Jesus to be his savior, so the wife agrees to remarry him. Benny promises to do the ceremony.
1st Corinthians 7:10-11 10To the married (Christian/Messianic Jew) I give this command [not I (Paul, Jesus' disciple), but the Lord],
"A wife must NOT separate from (divorce/abandon/flee from) her (perhaps excepting an abusive/insane/unsafe?) husband.
11If she does (separate), she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. A husband must not divorce his wife."

Evans, Jimmy & Karen www.ourdreammarriage.com
What a husband needs/wants most from his mate is honor and respect. Sometimes even sticky notes will help do the job in the area of gratitude, thanks &/or praise.

Frangipane, Francis Purity and Commitment http://www.frangipane.org/ "The fragrance continued in the room, I understood that this was what the Lord inhaled when His children stayed committed to Him during battle. I realized that, when we purpose to stay pure in spite of temptation, we literally become “a fragrance of Christ to God . . .” (2nd Corinthians 2:15).

Meberg, Marilyn What to do when the Roof Caves In book and 3/31/2009 or 4/6/2009 TV broadcast - refreshing presentation
http://www.lifetoday.org/site/PageServer?pagename=tel_USCalendar www.womenoffaith.org
Marilyn, comedian, believes that the best divorce buster is premarital counseling.
(We recommend one shop for counselors the same way one shops for a car, house, etc. If the counselor has been baptized in the Holy Spirit and has the gift of knowledge, God may have more opportunity to work through that individual. Regardless, pray before each counseling secession that He will have the liberty to do what He wants to do during that time.)

Mintle, Dr Linda http://www.joycemeyer.org/OurMinistries/Broadcast/TV/Archive/20080114.htm
Never accept your automatic thoughts. Align your own thoughts with His thoughts; agree with His thoughts. Reject/cast down/cast out unproductive thoughts. Then replace the rejected thoughts with positive/helpful/God's thoughts. Critical words/ thoughts lead to negative feelings, which lead to being defensive, which leads to building walls. Pray together with your mate; it is difficult to stay angry with your prayer partner. Give your partner 5 affirmations for each critical word spoken. Emotional distance is greatest divorce trigger. Do NOT allow yourself to be tormented by stinking thinking! View thoughts as entering a computer mailbox. Many thoughts are junk mail/spam and need to be NOT opened/deleted; we should only click onto those thoughts which align with the Word of God. In fact one can even trigger good behavior by placing/speaking positive ideas into others heads. A test was done; hotel cleaners/chamber maids were told they were getting the government regulated needed/ adequate/sufficient exercise to maintain/benefit their health. This group performed better than another group not told this.

Parrott, Les and Leslie http://www.realrelationships.com/
2 of the most important daily things to help/maintain a good marriage are to
1- Greet mate affectionately immediately when he/she returns home from work, and
2- Relate positively/affectionately to mate just before he/she falls asleep.

JN428-2. PRAYER FOCUS: Christian marriages and covenant relationships 2/4/2003 http://www.joelnews.org/news-en/jn428.htm
July 2002 Canadian prophet Pat Cocking shared a vision of a council of high ranking demons meeting in what appeared to be the 2nd heaven, that were discussing in detail how to sabotage and destroy marriages and covenant relationships in the earth, especially those within the Christian community. These relationships included marriages, family, friendships, ministry, and business. Special assignments were being launched against leaders.
Stand and fight in this battle. The Lord revealed that for many it will be easy to give in and let relationships fail and fall due to the pressures, but He is calling us to stand and resist through the power of His love and faith. It is also vital that we do not take a defensive stand. An aggressive and offensive posture is necessary. Fear is NOT to grip our hearts. Tenacious love and faith towards the victory will motivate a plunge forward into establishing even stronger relationships than before this planned assault.

Advocacy to legislate for marriage to remain only between male and female
HRC | Testimony of Rev. Dr. Ray Hammond , senior pastor of Bethel African Methodist Episcopal Church in Boston, and graduate of Harvard College, Harvard Medical School, and Harvard Graduate School www.hrc.org/Template.cfm?Section=Home&Template=/ContentManagement/ContentDisplay.cfm&ContentID=13285 - 35k
View the webcast of the Sept. 4 hearing.

Worley, Win Demolishing the Hosts of Hell - Every Christian's Job pg 61 gives deliverance suggestions
Regarding marriage braking evil spirits pages 5-8 are as follow: http://www.jesusdelivers.com/index.php/marriage-breaking-spirits

Sansby, Betsy a Minnesota, USA family therapist The Ouch Kit www.theouchkit.com
Couples Therapy in a Box. Cards are used in time out period when there is no strife. 10/26/04 Lifestyles www.thenews-press.com

EXTREMEly DANGERerous are those born-again Christian counselors who recommend/condone ANYTHING other than which is approved of in the Bible.
Many priests condone premarital sex confessed in the confessional, due to "one's really being in love" and one's having committed fornication/adultery out of a clear conscience. In other words, the counselors are saying that one's conscience, rather than one's mind/will/conscience/dictates of God/scripture is what counts as sin/disobedience/trespass/evil. Such counselors are spokespersons for Satan, not God.
Scripture says that God told Moses that He hated divorce, even though His permissive will allowed it in certain circumstances. Even so, God prefers one not to divorce. Even getting a legal separation in a state where it automatically becomes a divorce, is not holy advise! Flee from any counselor/pastor/priest/rabbi who CONTRADICTS scripture.
Your own heart/spirit should warn you when you receive ungodly advise! One seeks out a marriage counselor to get help, not to split up a marriage and mess up your kids and family through a "nasty" divorce. Divorces usually create more problems than were in existence before the divorce.
Separations may be OK if each partner agrees to work on his own issues and resolve/fix them before coming back into a relationship. 1st Corinthians 7 says not to deny sexual intimacy to the other, except for prayer. Obviously, God would make an exception for physical violence/abuse of mate or children. Remember, always look to God's heart and not to the letter of the law. This is why the rabbis in the Old Testament missed the Messiah. Whether it is a divorce or separation, a key question to ask is if it will help or harm the children. However, never put yourself above the law, God's law. Just be careful not to put yourself under ungodly authority which teaches that a male/husband is your superior where you are property and not a human being.
In the case where a mate is mentally ill, it is very difficult and a very long process. One has to be willing to fight for the mentally person and for the marriage. Medical intervention may help, but never cure. That is why deliverance is most often necessary. One cannot go it alone. Do not try to go it alone. Pray for and find a Christian community that will stand with you. God bless you.

On the first day of the week, the _______________ day of the month of _______________
in the year __________________in the city of ____________________ corresponding to the secular
date ______________________ the holy covenant of marriage was entered into between the groom __________________________ and the bride _________________________
The bride vowed to the groom, "Behold. You are consecrated unto me with this ring according to the law of Moses and Israel. I shall honor, cherish, and support you as is customary among the daughters of Israel." signed _________________________
The groom vowed to the bride, "Behold. You are consecrated unto me with this ring according to the law of Moses and Israel. I shall honor, cherish, and support you as is customary among the sons of Israel." signed _________________________
The bride and groom hereby enter into the sacred covenant of marriage. In accordance with the traditions of Judaism, the bride and groom have accepted this document in the presence of witnesses.
It is valid and binding.

Amen, Dr Daniel http://www.creativityatwork.com/articlesContent/Brain/amen-optimize-brain.html
"Winnifred B. Cutler, PhD and colleagues at the University of Pennsylvania and later at Stanford University it was found that regular sexual contact had an important impact on physical and emotional well being of women. Sexual contact with a partner at least once a week led to more fertile, regular menstrual cycles, shorter menses, delayed menopause, increased estrogen levels, and delayed aging. Brain imaging studies at UCLA have shown that decreased estrogen levels are associated with overall decreased brain activity and poor memory. Enhancing estrogen levels for women through regular sexual activity enhances overall brain activity and improves memory.
...Orgasm was not as important as the fact that sex was with another person. Intimacy and emotional bonding may be the most influential factors in the positive aspects of sex. As a psychiatrist I have seen many people withhold sex as a way to show hurt, anger, or disappointment. Dr. Cutler's research suggests that this is self-defeating behavior. The more you withhold the worse it may be for you. Appropriate sex is one of the keys to the brain's fountain of youth."

McGraw, Phillip C Relationship Rescue www.relationshiprescue.net
McGraw is Dr Phil on USA TV, a Dallas, Texas psychologist, and president of Courtroom Sciences, Inc. Secular book.

Smith, Dr Robin Lies at the Altar http://www.liesatthealtar.com/
Subtitle = The Truth about Great Marriages
Divorced psychologist on Ophra Winfrey TV show

Proverb - From every human being there rises a light that reaches straight to heaven. When 2 souls destined to be together, find each other, their streams of light flow together; a single, brighter light goes forth from their united being.
Matthew 19:4-6 KJVer He answered, "Have you not read, that He Who made them at the beginning
made them male and female and said, 'For this cause shall a man leave father and mother and shall cling to his wife; the 2 shall become 1 flesh?' They are no more 2 but 1 flesh. What God has joined together, let no man put asunder!"

mashal.html
"The Talmud teaches us that a human being is a husband and a wife, together, a single soul
with two halves. Before one is married, he or she is only half a human being, a male half
or a female half. This is why one feels loneliness for a mate.
It's like having "your better half" surgically amputated from your complete self.
Loneliness disappears after one lives with his or her soul mate."
"To experience a relationship with another person, we want to engage their soul, that which is inside.
We are not looking to just relate to their body. Unfortunately, we can not see the person, the soul;
we can only see their body. We want to engage that aspect of a person that disappears a minute
after they die. We want to engage the soul, which is the essence of a person."