Healing Marriages

Joseph Garlington (Covenant Church, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, USA) reminds us that we must choose between being right or being reconciled. We need to give up our right to be right. This is especially true in a marriage or family relationship. Un-forgiveness is the root of many diseases, especially those that eat the body, like cancer. The Lord reminds us that vengeance is His. We need to give God permission to be in control, of not only others, but also of ourselves. This is true, especially for those who feel the need to control or fix everybody and everything. As long as we are in control, God is not.
When we quit, then God can begin.

June Hunt reminds us to have our confidence in Jesus rather than in our mate when we are looking for a reconciliation,
and to place our priority on our relationships rather than our hurts. www.hopefortheheart.org

Bill Johnson (Bethel Church, Redding, California, USA) warns us NOT to look back, unless we do it with the blood of Christ. Be reminded of the story of Lot's wife who looked back and turned into a pillar of salt. It is a stumbling block to us and an open door to Satan each time we reminisce about the past of others or ourselves, and neglect to put on God's eye glasses.
If He has forgiven, it is a sin for us to uncover, ruminate, and expose wrong. It is wrong to be offended. Both Stephen & Jesus when dying prayed, "Father forgive them." We need to repent of gossip, even if it is gossip about ourselves.
Any testimony should be told in light of what God has done for us. For instance, if I need to share a secret, then that should be told in the context of how Christ redeemed what Satan intended for evil. For instance, if my mate had depression and was suicidal, then I would share how Christ intervened. Even then, that could be wrong, for it is NOT our job to share the testimony of others, because often it is only a form of gossip, a way of puffing up ourselves and putting down others.
Prayer groups are often just gossip centers. Beware...
Another aspect of forgiveness is reminding ourselves that we do NOT have the right to judge another. Christ is the final judge. In the name of Jesus, we remove that person from our judgment. Scripture warns us that in the way we judge others, we will eventually be judged by God. (Forgiveness has nothing to do with protecting ourselves from harm.
In this case, when necessary, we 1st remove ourselves from danger; 2nd we cover ourselves with Jesus' blood.)
Henry Wright's ministry in Georgia, USA spends a lot of time helping others to forgive self, others & God. www.pleasantvalleychurch.net

Betrayal by Husband

Kolenda, Daniel - http://www.charismamag.com/spirit/spiritual-warfare/44109-daniel-kolenda-on-spiritual-warfare-kill-your-dragon-while-it-s-young -
�You can pretend it's not there. You can call it weird. But as Daniel Kolenda emphasizes, the supernatural realm is very real. Not only that, but the (spiritual) enemy can be behind your everyday struggles. In his book Slaying Dragons, Kolenda shares practical, doctrinally sound spiritual warfare tips, including killing the proverbial dragon before it's born.
�Smash it while it is still inside its egg. If you can kill it in its gestation period, you will never have to battle a monster,� Kolenda says. �Big things start small. Big addictions come from simple curiosity. Big sins grow from small seeds.�
As an example, Kolenda describes a season when he got his hair cut at a salon by a young, attractive hairdresser. He used to hate haircuts, but the young lady was interesting to talk to, & she seemed interested in him. When she cut his hair, time flew by. Then 1 morning Kolenda woke up and felt a flutter of excitement for his hair appointment that day. He was surprised, but it didn't take a lot of reflecting to realize why.
�Obviously I was excited at the thought of seeing that attractive young woman,� he says.
But Kolenda was married with 3 children. So he canceled his appointment & switched salons. While the situation may have never evolved into anything, Kolenda was also aware that every affair could be traced back to a little, innocent feeling of excitement. In his writing he uses this experience to illustrate how to slay a (small) dragon before it becomes a (big) dragon.
�Remember how Jesus told us to deal with temptation: If your hand offends you, cut it off. If your eye offends you, gouge it out,� Kolenda says. �I recognized the latent potential for a little dragon egg to begin growing in my life. I dealt with it quickly & thoroughly.�
His book Slaying Dragons doesn't just expose the ways of the enemy. It challenges readers to consider the sin habits they themselves have coddled.
�Most of the dragons that threaten us are ones we have incubated, nurtured, & raised in our own hearts. Lust, pride, greed, selfishness in all its forms, hatred, the abandonment of responsibility, lack of self-discipline: are the kind of dragons that usually destroy us,� Kolenda says. �In fact it is these small internal dragons that become the huge external ones.�
Slaying Dragons shines light on what the enemy is doing in one's life & what a person can do to slay every dragon he or she encounters.�

Murdock, Cindy - https://www.daystar.tv/joni-table-talk/season:1/videos/her-story-pt-1-cindy-murdock 5/21/2020
Murdock, Cindy -

Weiss, Doug - https://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=6083387783001 11/15/2019
Weiss, Doug - https://www.daystar.com/ondemand/search/?search=betrayal

Betrayal by Wife

Brain & Sex

Broken Heart

Hunter, Joan - https://www.marilynandsarah.org/2019/09/03/love-again-live-again-with-joan-hunter-part-1/

Buttons

COMMENTARY: Sometimes my mate pushes my BUTTONS/ouches/hurts/wounds/sore spots/etc. (or I touch his/her)
Often one of us has a blind spot/lack of insight/immaturity. This is especially true when there is depression, DD, bipolar, schizophrenia, etc.
This is especially relevant when mental illness/emotional instability is undiagnosed or not properly medicated or treated.
If the problem involves improper thinking, nothing/little the mate says or does will cure the marriage. Conventional/spiritual counseling may help. Conventional/alternative medication may help. Cure is a different issue. If the problem is inherited it can be in the DNA and will need a miracle from God. If the problem is inherited/personal sin it may need repentance/ rejection. If the problem is a demonization, possible participation with a deliverance ministry may be in order. deliverance_ministries.htm The bottom line is, neither mate can cure/fix each other. The root problem needs to be eliminated. healing_root_issues.htm Many of us when we took our marriage vows said, "for better or worse," only to find out it was for worse. When bones heal they are often strongest in the broken places, so God can likewise do with our brokenness.

Sandford, John L & Paula - Recommended - http://www.amazon.com/Transforming-The-Inner-Man-Transformation/dp/159979067X/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_y#reader_159979067X - Chapter 8 Bitter-Root Judgment and Expectancy shares how unforgiveness and/or bitter-roots boomerang, attract like a magnet. To turn off the electromagnetic pull (attraction) between 2 opposing (contentious/opposite) forces/poles: We need to repent for ourselves & our ancestors. We need to forgive others for their offenses, but mainly for the way we negatively responded to others out of judgment that belongs only to God. We need to release others into God's hands. We need to act in a manner that would sabotage relationships. [As demons in each other attract (such as homosexual spirits), so] there are both physical & spiritual laws; once an evil seed is planted, it will grow and multiply like a dandelion. The evil taproot needs uprooting via forgiveness and removal of judgment, prior to extermination of evil consequence (a curse). For example, if I punch you, there will be a bruise: physically, emotionally, AND spiritually, which needs Holy Spirit intervention to remediate.
Evil (error) involves/triggers a natural law + a spiritual law of reciprocity. Our families/countries/cultures/history of origin help to preprogram us to react automatically without sufficient insight in a marriage. Often we are attracted to those with whom we feel the most comfortable, yes our families of origin, and thus we often respond in the same manner we did as a child. (If the demons inside us are not attracting/reacting to each other, then) often the childhood unforgiven hurts/ resentments are responding to our mate, which need to be discovered and then nailed to the cross of Jesus Christ, & left there. Psychology and Psychiatry are only partially right, in that most omit the human spirit and often God.
The main sin in most marriages is our bitter root judgment due to our reaction to both our mate AND our or our ancestors' reaction to the same root issue, such as alcoholism. Thus, it is NOT the offense NOR the offender that is the problem to God, but rather our own heart attitude/response to the issue. That is the hook/anchor that gets us into spiritual trouble, generation after generation. Often repenting for a wrong sinful attitude lacking love will often remedy the conflict. (Yes, one can exorcise the demons of alcoholism, etc, but if the heart is not empty of bitterness & full of love, there is room for another demon/issue to replace that vice.)
Doctor, Judith - notes from various authors - Healing the Broken Heart part 4 Bitter Root Judgments -
http://www.kairosministries.us/Healing%20The%20Broken%20Heart%20Part%20IV%20Bitter%20Root%20Judgments.pdf from The Transformation of the Inner Man by John & Paula Sandford - A. Bitter Root Judgment Produces Negative Expectancies - 1. Bitter Judgments Against Parents Hinder Marital Relationships - Bitter experiences in family of origin may trigger negative expectancies in marriage partner, & thus elicit such negative responses in mate.

Control/Manipulation

Evans, Jimmy- http://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=5312083120001
@ http://www.daystar.com/guest-guide/jimmy-evans/
articles @ http://marriagetoday.com/marriagehelp/the-root-cause-of-worry-anxiety-and-fear/

BJ Foster 8/30/2018 - 3 Clear Signs Your Marriage Is Emotionally Abusive - "The mine harvested vermiculite, which has a number of commercial uses, including fire and home insulation while also being used as a soil conditioner. In the town of Libby, it could be found everywhere. The problem is that this vermiculite contained a dangerous form of asbestos. For years, the entire town had been breathing in asbestos dust. As asbestos dust particles move into the lungs, the fibers end up lodging into the lung tissue like small thorns. When the immune system cells try to break down the asbestos fibers, the cells become damaged and eventually die. This creates dead scar tissue that grows over time until finally the lungs no longer function. The people of Libby had no idea what was in the air. 1 resident said, 'You spend your life trying to protect your family. You can protect your family from stuff that you can see.' What about the things (the interpersonal dynamics) that you can't see or are difficult to recognize?"

Landry, Curt & Chris - 11/18/2019 - #1 - https://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=6099503147001
We are to praise God and let Him intervene. We are NOT to be our mate's Holy Spirit.
Landry, Curt & Chris - 11/19/2019 - #2 - https://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=6105490654001 -
Business men need emotional intelligence. @ https://www.daystar.com/ondemand/search/?search=curt+landry

Divorce

http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/bible-verses-about-divorce-22-helpful-scriptures/

COMMENTARY: Scripture says that any couple (who has intercourse) shall become 1 flesh. We are united with our mate as one flesh. Scripture also says that Jesus' wish was for us to become 1 with Him as He is with His Father God. We are united with the Trinity as one spirit. If we violate each other, we also violate God. If there is a separation/divorce, there is a tearing of both flesh and spirit + soul/mind. Do we not feel the rip in the relationship? Can we not hear Jesus crying aloud on the cross bearing our sins?
NOTE - DIVORCE can be forgiven, but God's ability/willingness to forgive is NOT an excuse for us to divorce. Divorce is a sin and creates harm to finances, future marriages, children & one's character. Divorce does NOT prevent God from using a divorced individual in His ministry (to: pastor a church, heal, prophesy, do miracles, etc. all in the name + power of Jesus Christ)...
The Old Testament shows many instances of spiritual heroes with character problems + human sins.
Baptist pastor Randy Clark in There is More - Reclaiming the Power of Impartation shares that despite his divorce at the age of 22 (and subsequent remarriage), God still made available to him (and makes available to us) His Holy Spirit power to move in signs and wonders. www.globalawakening.com
Divorce Testimony - http://www.injesus.com/index.php?module=message&task=view&MID=WB007ES7&GroupID=BA007I8S&print=1

Teachings on Marriage - 1_corinthians/7-10.htm
9.But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
10.But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband
11.(but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband); the husband should not divorce his wife.
12.To the rest I say, (not the Lord,) that if any brother has an unbelieving wife who consents to live with him, he must not divorce her.
1_corinthians/7-14.htm 1 -
13.A woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away.
14.For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife. The unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy.
1_corinthians/7-16.htm -
15.If the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the mate is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.
16.For how do you know, O spouse, whether (or not/perhaps) you will save your mate?

Concubines to the rescue - "A woman who refuses to, or cannot, bring children into the word, & refuses to grant her husband a divorce, is preventing him from building a family and spreading his seed. In such a situation, husband is permitted to take a concubine (mistress) & there is no constraint under halacha," according to Rabbi Abergel.
7/19/2012 (Theology of non-Messianic rabbi)

Allen, Bruce D - Divorce and Remarriage - http://yalak37.com/blog/

Branham, William M - Marriage & Divorce - https://branham.org/en/messagestream/ENG=65-0221M 1965 @ https://branham.org/home AUDIO (Invite Holy Spirit to give us insight as to His Truth.)

Eckhardt, John - Pride & Leviathan - series of 3 videos on demand - http://www.impactnetwork.net/flash/videoondemand.swf or http://www.impactnetwork.net/television.html - Marine spirits, especially the spirit of pride, is addressed in John's excellent videos on demand & books Marine Demons +
Prayers That Rout Demons. Important information in deliverance ministries.
The spirit of Leviathan interferes with ALL covenant making (including blood covenant of Christ & marriage).
Eckhardt, John - http://www.piwcworcester.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/Deliverance-and-Spiritual-Warfare-Manual-Eckhardt.pdf - "Binding and Loosing: The works of darkness encompass sin, iniquity, perversion, sickness, disease, infirmity, death, destruction, curses, witchcraft, sorcery, divination, poverty, lack, divorce, strife, lust, pride, rebellion, fear, torment, and confusion. (Spiritually) we have legal authority to put a stop to these things in our lives & in the lives of those we minister to."

Evans, Jimmy - 8/15/2013 - http://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=2647538222001
God is the glue in marriage. Vision retreats explained & encouraged. Negative thoughts do NOT produce positive results.
Evans, Jimmy - http://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=3594578103001 5/24/2014

Hagee, John https://marriedbiography.com/john-hagee-biography/ John was previously married (as are many clergy, often due to their having Jesus as savior, but not as baptizer in the Holy Spirit, often expecting God rather than themselves to bring heaven to earth via indwelling Holy Spirit.)

Hickey, Marilyn and Sarah - 11/17-23/2011 - Breaking Generational Curses � Part 1 - Watch this Program Here - superior - Includes spiritual insight on divorce. Mental illness had infested the Hickey bloodline, but God reminded Marilyn that her
(creator/spiritual) Father was God & He did NOT have mental illness in His blood line.
Generational curses are real but not something we have to live under. @ http://www.marilynandsarah.org/tv/daily-topics/
Hickey, Marilyn - http://www.marilynandsarah.org/2012/04/reconciliation-ministry-3/ - A Divorce is cancelled.
Hickey, Marilyn - Marriage Ministry Day - 6/23/2016 - We pass on to our offspring both our strengths & weaknesses.
Holy communication & praying together, especially in tongues glues a couple together.
Your mate can compliment you, but never complete oneself; only the Trinity can do that.
The more one puts a man down, the more rocky one's marriage may become; STOP it.

Hinn, Benny & Suzanne - http://www.bennyhinn.org/television/watchprograms/reconciliation-and-restoration-part-1/?prg=06/11/2012 - "Benny and Suzanne Hinn are reconciling after being divorced since February of 2010.
On this telecast, they share for the 1st time on "This Is Your Day" about the mighty miracle that continues to unfold.
Pastor Benny says, �The last 3 years have been very painful for Suzanne & me & for the children."
(Family 1st after God & before ministry + oversight/accountability.)
Hinn, Benny & Suzanne - http://www.bennyhinn.org/television/watchprograms/reconciliation-and-restoration-part-2/?prg=06/12/2012 - "Benny and Suzanne Hinn describe what happened this past Christmas when their family was gathered in Orlando. Pastor Benny says, �It was a beautiful day I will never forget, for this was when the Lord began to do His mighty work in both of us.� Suzanne says, �Both of us believe our greatest days are ahead & the best is yet to come.�
http://www.cbn.com/700club/guests/bios/Benny_Suzanne_Hinn_062512.aspx - 6/25/2012 -
"They have been counseling with (allow spiritual oversight by) Jack Hayford and they plan to also counsel with (submit to mentoring from) others, as they want to be sure that they do not fall into old patterns."

Holiday, Pat- http://www.scribd.com/doc/33379695/Marriage-Breaking-Demons-
Marriage-and-Sex-Demons-ASMODEUS-amp-OSMODEUS-Docx
Holiday, Pat- http://www.remnantradio.org/Archives/articles/PH/Newsletters/Charts%20Marriage%20and%20Sex%20Theatre%20of%20Warfare%2006-04-09.pdf - "Marriage breaking demons (Divorce) and cause rejection of sexual genders causing lesbian and homosexuality to occur. Asmodeus & Osmodeus are...ruling spirits that are warring against all marriages. These spirits also are keeping many from getting married." http://www.patholliday.com

Hunter, Joan - Power to Heal - http://www.joanhunterministries.com/ - Chapter 6 Don't Curse Your Blessings
section Blood Covenants "In the New Testament age, circumcision is no longer required, as the sign of the covenant is (adult) immersion baptism." Colossians 2:11 In Him you were also circumcised...buried with Him in baptism.
Hunter, Joan - Healing Starts Now - training manual - http://www.joanhunterministries.com/ - Marriage "covenant (sacrament) is NOT formed during the wedding or at the church. The (BLOOD) covenant is formed and finalized later in bed.
The blood shed at the braking of the woman's hymen is the SIGN of the covenant of marriage...broken by death.
When a couple gets divorced, they MUST VERBALLY RENOUNCE that covenant...The same principle applies to any person with whom you have had sexual intercourse other than your marriage partner...Ungodly sexual covenants are formed not only with flesh and blood partners, but also with fantasy partners - by pornography, masturbation, or reading explicitly romance novels...Bring every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ - 2 Corinthians 10:5."
Hunter, Joan - Healing the Heart NEW - with Joan Hunter - Part 2 - 7/1/2015 regarding broken hearts & sex outside of current marriage.
Hunter, Joan - Healing the Whole Man with Joan Hunter 10/12/2015 + Healing the Heart with Joan Hunter 10/13/2015
In addition to loosing from oneself any premarital sexual soul-ties, one can renounce & break off oneself, all past marriage-covenant negatives, in Jesus' name. (Notice apt testimony at end of 2nd program.)

Kerr, Kat - CD - Passionate Power � www.revealingheaven.org - Especially for those aged 40-70.
Kat's divorce seems to �excuse, annul, exempt her vows or provide a spiritual loop hole":
Kat� divorce exemption from 1st marriage seems to be due to following main reasons:
1-Repentance
2-New realignment with God regarding His original plan or 1^st choice for her regarding:
   A. her spiritual purpose/assignment/destiny for being placed on earth
       (which seems to take precedence over anything else)
   B. Children she was suppose to birth with the mate of His choosing
   C. her consistent 40 year pursuit of the Trinity all night, with 4 hours sleep at dawn & 1 meal per day
   D. No kids by prior mate.
   E. Her 2^nd mate was (apparently) single/available & God�s choice
   F. 1st marriage was a contract rather than a spiritual covenant, aligning/originating with God's perspective
   G. Kat was in her 20's at time of divorce & remarriage.

The Kat Kerr - Spirit Realm Bootcamp #1 - Lamar Family Ministries , Lamar, MO - January 25 at 9:01 PM -

Kolenda, Daniel - Live Before You Die - chapter 20 How Do I Stay In the Will of God? -
http://www.amazon.com/Live-Before-You-Die-God%C2%92s/dp/1616387165#reader_1616387165
"A couple has just gotten married. They are so in love & can't spend enough time together. But a few years later a radical transformation has taken place. They hate each other & want a divorce. You ask, 'How did this happen?'
I'll tell you how it happened. It happened one pea patch at a time...
(King) Solomon wrote, '[It's] the little foxes that spoil the vines' (Song of Solomon 2:15 NKJV)...
A little bit of dishonesty here, a little bit of disrespect there, a hurtful word, a transgression un-forgiven;
soon a root of bitterness sets in, & before long the enemy has successfully established a stronghold in that couple's relationship. From that compromised zone, he will continue to assault their marriage until he has razed it to the ground. Having integrity means minding the small things & being as vigilant over them as over the big things...
If we can defend even the smallest, most insignificant pea patches in our lives, the enemy will not be able to gain a foothold...Be constantly aiming to raise our personal standards to be more like Jesus...Jesus said lust is adultery.
Jesus understood that murder grows from the seed of hatred, & adultery grows from the seed of lust...
Crush the seeds of sin before they are planted, than to have to try to chop down a giant redwood...
Whatever weakens your reason, impairs the tenderness of your conscience, obscures your sense of God, & takes off the relish of spiritual things, that to you is sin."

Martin, Cheryl - Monday, June 19, 2017 Distinctly You @ http://lifetoday.org/video/

Meyer, Joyce - 11/4/2011 -
http://www.joycemeyer.org/BroadcastHome.aspxvideo=How_Do_I_Make_This_Relationship_Work?
@ http://www.joycemeyer.org/broadcasthome.aspx?myVar=1

Praying Medic - 1/2/2016 - What Did Jesus Teach About Divorce and Remarriage?

Roberts, Sarah Jakes - http://lifetoday.org/video/overcoming-shame/ Daughter of T D Jakes had child at age 14 + divorced before becoming pastor's wife (Autobiography.)

Roth, Sid with DuVall, Janie 11/2-8/2009 - God told Sid that He hated divorce and to return to his wife!
http://www.sidroth.org/site/News2?abbr=tv_&page=NewsArticle&id=8783&security=1041&news_iv_ctrl=-1

Savard, Liberty - DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE @ http://www.libertysavard.com/keys_difficult_issues.html

Shepherd, Sheri Rose - http://biblelifecoaching.com/about-sheri-rose/ - http://store.hisprincess.com/Online-Coaching-c17/
7/30/2013 http://lifetoday.org/video/devastation-and-restoration/

Smith, Pat - 6/27/2016 - http://www.lightsource.com/ministry/life-today/pat-smith-second-chances-537978-full.html God spoke to her twice, once to leave with her daughter, which turned out to be a permanent move. She has since remarried.

Counseling for Seemingly Impossible Problems: A Biblical Perspective - Google -

Attorney and psychologist, Paris M. Finner-Williams Chapter 7 Divorce Recovery: Grief and Loss
Paris M Husband, Robert D.Williams, is a clinical psychiatric social worker

Waller, John - The Love Dare is a 40 day challenge for husbands & wives considering separation &/or divorce.
Watch & listen to song used in Fireproof by clicking here. @ http://www.newreleasetuesday.com/article.php?article_id=196#

Wommack, Andrew - The Effects of Praise - http://s3.awmi.net/downloads/tv/2015/03mar/awm_tv20150310.wmv 3/10/2015 - from 2 week series - Week 10 + Week 11 - Video�s Last 10 minutes: shares importance of going overseas to 3^rd world country as a youth to help prevent self-absorption/centeredness in one�s life�
Following part shares how divorce is often from same character defect of the me/myself/I focus.
Excellent testimony of husband�s conversation with God which prevented a divorce.
God required husband to daily find & praise one item about mate. At end of 2 weeks, pastor was shocked to realize/recognize that instead of 1 of the worst mates, he had one of the best mates.

https://writeousrhema.wordpress.com/2012/06/24/chess-spiritual-warfare-when-satan-tries-to-checkmate-your-soul/ - 6/24/2012 Chess is also game about territory...Satan will sometimes present opportunities that look like a good move, only for you to find out later that that move only opened the door to demonic attack. An example is this: Let�s say a woman divorces her husband, because he recently lost his job & also is no longer pleasing her in the bedroom. So Satan makes her think divorce is a good move. So then weeks later, she sees a handsome man who sweeps her off her feet & who is good in bed. So she moves him into her home. Let�s say that man then convinces the wife/mother to work a late shift from 4pm-11pm. So he is left alone to watch the children. Then he begins to molest her young daughter for the next 10 years."

Demonic Spirits

Deut. 22:20-21 + Num. 5:27 - Adulterous women loose demons of adultery on their children along with all the shame, insecurity, hurt, sickness, & tendency to be a victim.
Deut. 22:22-27 + Lev. 20:10 - Adulterous men loose demons of adultery on their children the same as women along with tendency to be cruel. @ http://seekhisface.com/VOICES/Deliverance%20Manuals/Moody/sex1.htm

Acts 16:16-18 JNT - 16We were met by a slave girl who had in (side) her a (divination) snake-spirit that enabled her to predict the future. She earned a lot of money for her owners by telling fortunes. 17This girl followed behind Shaul (Paul) and the rest of us, & kept screaming, "These men are servants of God Ha'Elyon. They are telling you how to be saved." 18She kept this up day after day, until Shaul, greatly disturbed, turned & said to the (evil) spirit, "In the name of Yeshua the Messiah, I order you to come out of her." The (demonic) spirit did come out, at the very moment. [Spiritual insight: The presence of the Holy Spirit dwelling in a believer of Yeshua can stir up/agitate/terrorize any evil/demon residing in or oppressing non believers. The presence of the Trinity in a clergyman (rabbi/priest/pastor/minister) can trigger a psychotic episode (demonic manifestation) in an infested/unstable/demonized person/patient. Thus it would be wise PRIOR to marriage and right after engagement for the couple to include individual exorcism as part of one's pre-marriage counseling,
as well as each renewing his/her salvation & baptismal (both water & Holy Spirit) vows/consecrations/covenants with God. In fact, this spiritual (& marriage) tune up should be scheduled regularly, in the same manner 1 would schedule an auto mechanic, accountant, lawyer, doctor or dentist, especially since demons seem to run in families (pacts/flocks/herds/ ancestry) & in locations (homes/objects/antiques/institutions). Thus, certain occult objects & souvenirs should not only be rejected & repented of, but also destroyed, burned, rather than gifted or recycled.]

Collins - https://ofm6z46z825qpxk83fa00q1a-wpengine.netdna-ssl.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/IS932Transcript_Collins.pdf - Soul Ties - 12/4/2017
HAKEEM: Well a soul tie is basically mutual bonding, knitting or tie of the soul (emotions/mind/will).
It has to be 2 parties that are coming together in agreement. A soul tie can also be something financial.
You can have a financial soul tie. Soul ties are established verbally, contractually.
SID: When I hear that someone had an intimate relationship before they were married & they say,
"Well I guess it's over", that (old-relationship) can (still) be affecting (unbeknown to) them even today.
HAKEEM: Exactly. You know, a sexual encounter can establish a soul tie. Biblically when we think about a covenant, a (spiritual) legal soul tie is established by a man and a woman in marriage. But there are those who have been in past relationships who may have moved on to a new relationship & they're feeling the effects or the trauma from that past 1, even though they have a new 1. Sometimes we have to break, sever (& loose) those pasts or even present soul ties & soul agreements because they had impacted our lives now. There are those who are now in new relationships that are affected by hurt, abuse, verbal abuse, all those things that have happened because of what is established in the past.
SID: Unless you know how to break that cycle you're in trouble. Another thing the Bible talks specifically about how bad a sexual sin outside of marriage is. It's so bad, because you become one with that partner & every demon they have, (still) has legal access to enter you (until you repent/renounce/reject/return soul layer back to lover + take back one�s own soul layer formerly given to/traded/exchanged with former lover � in prayer). It's not that God is trying to hurt you. He's trying to help you, by letting you know this.

Demons in Intertestamental Literature, Including the Dead Sea Scrolls -
http://www.jewishvirtuallibrary.org/jsource/judaica/ejud_0002_0005_0_05094.html -
"Mastemah, which as a common noun means approximately 'enmity, opposition' in Hosea 9:7, 8 & in some passages in the 5 Scrolls, is a demon 'Prince Mastemah' in Jubilees (11:5, 11; 17:16; et al.), & perhaps also in the Damascus Document (16:5). Watchers (Aram. ʿirin) are a type of angel mentioned in Daniel 4:10, 14, 20. To this class the inter-testamental literature assigns the angels who, according to Genesis 6:2, 4, cohabited with women before the flood & fathered the race of giants (Test. Patr., Reu. 5:6�7; Test. Patr., Napht. 3:5; cf. Genesis Apocryphon, ii 2:1, 16).
*Asmodeus (Tobit 3:8, 17) is a demon who had slain the 1st 7 husbands of Sarah, who becomes the wife of Tobias son of Tobit."

Hagee, John - 10/5/2015 http://lifetoday.org/video/the-three-heavens/ source http://lifetoday.org/ Watching the Exorcist movie was an open door for demonic oppression & subsequent psychiatric treatment for 1 of John Hagee's congregants.
Transcript @ http://lifetoday.org/assets/files/10-05-15e-Hagee1.pdf (edited) Dr. Hagee: There is a very real devil. It was a very real devil that came into the Garden of Eden to seduce Adam & Eve. It was a very real devil that tempted Jesus in the wilderness. He is still in business. He goes to church every Sunday. If you don't know how to recognize him & take authority over him he'll destroy your: life, marriage, children, church, hopes, dreams...
There was a young lady in my church that went to see The Exorcist. Now this was years ago. But she went home from that Saturday afternoon movie & told her mother, "Something (evil) entered me today while I was watching this movie & it changed me." The mother just thought, she is an 18-year-old girl; she is just emotional. The next day they came to church. I'm preaching on the blood of Jesus Christ & the power of the cross. About 10 minutes deep in my sermon, I hear this moaning in the back of the church on the right side. "Whoo." It was louder than my microphone. So I had to stop. I asked the elders to go and take her to the counseling room to pray with her. Donna also went with her. This girl was 18 years old, an honor student in school, Hollywood pretty. She was a beautiful girl. Her dad was a psychiatrist. They went into the counseling room & after the sermon I went back and talked with the parents & said, "I believe that your daughter has a demonic spirit." It angered them, especially her father who was a psychiatrist. I said, "Would you like for me to pray for her?" He said, "Absolutely not." I said, "Well, you are the spiritual authority of that girl. I certainly am not going to countermand that, so I will not." They left & I never heard from the family again only to know as she had been placed into psychiatric care & had not been delivered years later from that problem.

Holliday,Pat - SEXUAL MAGIC~ INCUBUS, SUCCUBI ~ ASMODEUS, OSMODEUS - marriage breaking spirits - 2/5/2008 - http://www.injesus.com/message-archives/church-and-ministry/drpatholliday/sexual-magic-new-book - "Marriage Breaking Spirits are called Asmodeus, Osmodeus, Abaddon, Apollyon & Beelzebub. These ruler spirits cause rejection, divorce & overpowering tendencies to rage, lust, impetuousness, impurity & psychic activities. Due to wide-spread pornographic material, many force their spouses into sexual perversions, leading the mate into deviate sex."

https://jeremiahjohnson.tv/blogs/news/leviathan-and-broken-kingdom-marriages-october-11th-2020 - Hanukkah -
�The spirit of leviathan visited me last night in my sleep & manifested itself as a 'marriage covenant breaking' spirit. I specifically began to confront & wrestle with it in Miami, FL where it had a stronghold & then Texas, & somewhere in the Midwest. It was pointing a large finger at a woman calling her a Jezebel but was actually blinded by a delusional spirit of pride & lust for mammon.
This leviathan spirit revealed to me that it has several special assigments before 2020 is over to break covenant marriage among key leaders in the body of Christ. It will manifest as pride & a love of money that will falsely accuse a spouse of operating in a Jezebel spirit. Intercessors & prophets- When I inquired of the Lord if we have authority to break its grip, He said, 'Yes' & that this spirit was specifically assigned to take out several key apostles before 2020 is over. We must pray for humility & a spirit of repentance to grip marriages. Let�s stand on guard & in agreement to cancel these demonic assignments in Jesus name.�

Kelley, Earthquake - book #1122 "Bound to Lose, Destined to Win" http://earthquakekelleyministries.org/books/
Chapter 12 Gateway to Hell - When "a pedophile...possessed with this (hydra) spirit...attack(s)...(a)...child; unless she accepts Christ & receives deliverance, she will likely suffer with multiple personalities when she grows up" due to transference of the hydra spirit. "Incubus & succubus are 2 demonic spirits that rape people."
They do not need bodies, so if you recognize (perceive) 1, rebuke, "command it to leave in Jesus' name."

http://newbreedmovement.wordpress.com/a12-prayer-to-remove-defilement-in-marriage/ (edited)
Marriage Restoration prayers - Deliverance 2: Prayer to Remove Iniquity/Demonic/Curses in Marriage:
Repentance Prayer (Deal with the Roots of Iniquity 1st): "Father God (in Jesus' name, blood, resurrection power):
I repent for submitting to (any) spirit of the lust of the flesh (to) meet my needs selfishly.
I also forgive my spouse for doing this, & release him/her from the bondage I held him/her in.
I declare the Light of the Word of God into the root iniquity of meeting selfish needs.
I invite You Holy Spirit to flood that place with the Light of Jesus Christ.
I repent for submitting to the spirit of the lust of the (5 senses) eyes (appetite, touch, smell, sound).
I repent for separating from the (holy) counsel of others.
I also forgive my spouse for doing this.
I release him/her from the bondage I held them in.
I declare the Light of the Word of God into the root iniquity of separating from the counsel of others.
I invite You Holy Spirit to flood that place with the Light of Jesus Christ.
I repent for submitting to the spirit of pride, & exchanging Godly Wisdom for the wisdom of the world.
I also forgive my spouse for doing this, & release him/her from any bondage I held them in.
I declare the Light of the Word of God into the root iniquity of meeting selfish needs.
I invite You Holy Spirit to flood that place with the Light of Jesus Christ.
I bind the strongman of deception.
I command all devouring (evil) spirits of lust & pride to leave me, my spouse and children & to go under Jesus' feet.
I declare my marriage Holy to the Lord.
I invite You Holy Spirit to flood my marriage with the Light of the Truth of the Word of God.
I now seal the perimeters of my family with the sanctifying Blood of Jesus Christ Amen.
Prayer for cleansing of the substances of the curses : "Father God (in Jesus' name, blood, resurrection power):
I break all remnants of the substance of disorder, disharmony & disunity.
I break the substance from me, my spouse & children.
I command a breaking of all bondage & a loosing of all the besetting sins."
Prayer for the Cleansing of the Human Spirit 3rd: "Father God (in Jesus' name, blood, resurrection power):
I now bring my spirit, & the spirits of my spouse & children to You Father God.
I invite your Light to shine upon us & bring the blessing to us.
I now allow You to remove all shards of the substance of the curse from every portion of our spirits. AMEN."

Maria de Lange, Susanna Francina - http://stclements.edu/grad/gradsusanna.pdf - Chapter 3 - 4.5.7 ASMODEE/ASMODEUS
"This power is called the 'stinker'. He appears as a fat smelling demonic tall 'man' with web-like wings. He is responsible for the spirit of Jezebel & work closely with Baal. He joins people in spiritual marriages in covenants with Satan & the power of darkness. He is involved with sexual immorality & works closely with the Prince of the East (Abaddon).
Some of Asmodee�s work areas involve the following:
1.Prostitution.
2.Sexual perversion (Homosexuals, Lesbianism, Incest, Masturbation, Bestiality).
3.Bareness of the womb.
4.Dissatisfaction in marriage.
5.Repeated divorces (Lesbos causes confusion in sexual identity of the bloodline).
6.Miscarriages and the death of children (Astarte � death of children in uterus; Molech (death of the 1st born) & Dagon (sacrifice of the placenta as a burnt offering to Satan), Leviathan (abortion of children in the womb & in real life).
7.Asmodee causes dreams involving the sexual demons: incubus & succubus.
People who are sexually involved with them should renounce their (spiritual/legal) wedding vows to these devils. Dr Holliday reveals in her book Marriage and Sex
that the ruling spirits over the destroying of marriage are Asmodeus & Osmodeus. These marriage breaking spirits (responsible for divorce), also cause rejection of sexual genders which ends in lesbianism & homosexuality.
Marine is the head of all the water spirits. Leviathan is also a ruler of the water spirits.
Other characteristics of these water or Marine spirits are overpowering tendencies such as rage, lust, impetuousness, impurity & psychic activities. Asmodeus & Osmodeus, he is sometimes referred to as �the genius of matrimonial discord & jealousy.� Sexual demons are prevalent in our world, because of constant exposure through entertainment, movies, television, magazines, books, etc."

Murdock, Mike - https://www.slideshare.net/k24s3/whattodowhenyourhomeisfallingapart-mike-murdock

Ntia, - http://www.yourepeat.com/watch/?v=SNxpvTbr1y4 - Marriage Healing Prayer re damaged emotions, abandonment, rejection, isolation - @ http://www.yourepeat.com/g/MarineSpirits - (Excellent unless/until site crashes. May want to pray over site 1st.)

Poyser, Fern - Incubus and Succubus evil spirits - http://www.refugeofrighteousness.com/articles

Worley, Win - Marriage Breaking Spirits - http://jesusdelivers.com/index.php/marriage-breaking-spirits
From Demolishing the Hosts of Hell - Every Christian's Job, by Win Worley (Page 6,7&8) WRW Publications.-
"When I demanded that the (demonic) ruler of Oral Sex manifest, a cackling laugh came forth. He informed me that he was an exceedingly powerful spirit & had had this 'fool' for all these years & by no means would he come out.
He declared that he and (an evil spirit of) Homosexuality had this 'stupid bastard' bound & they would never release him...
I even arranged for him to have a gay roommate in the service & had guys approach him at work...For years we had him hooked good on Masturbation and tortured him regularly with that...Deliverance eventually dislodged them. Oral Sex spirits lodge in the lips, tongue, taste buds, jaws, mouth & the throat. They are also in the sex organs. After dealing with many spirits of perversion, we know that they can enter through the eyes, the ears or participation, active or passive.
In one case, a friend of mine was delivering a woman who had been introduced & forced into oral sex by an uncle when she was only 5-6 years of age. As she grew up she continued this with her dates. At her deliverance large gobs of slimy material were vomited which reeked with the strong odor of male semen."

Spirit Wife And Spirit Husband - extracted from Dr. Itiola's book A Woman's worst Nightmare
http://www.deliveranceplace.com/cages.html - Biship Olu Itiola, Dubai UAE

Enabler

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=enabler - Rather than risk losing the love, respect, friendship or contact with the person, the enabler chooses instead to play it safe & watch the other slowly destroy themselves or others through their own actions.

False Submission

http://biblehub.com/1_peter/3-7.htm - not submission but tenderness - Aramaic Bible in Plain English - You men, in this way dwell with your wives by knowledge, & hold them in honor as weaker vessels, lest you be subverted in your prayers, because they also inherit the gift of eternal life with you. (Refer to the numerous translations.)

Brian Simmons - http://d3tnb2mam8l2qt.cloudfront.net/sites/default/files/IS790aTranscript_Simmons.pdf 2/2/2015
SID: Brian Simmons was telling me...revelations he got in translating the Bible about women. Tell me 1.
BRIAN: Well there is a well-worn verse in the Bibles of many men that have used this verse & have hurt people, because of possibly a mistranslation, & it's Ephesians 5:22, "Wives submit yourselves unto your husband as unto the Lord."
BRIAN: That's a pretty daunting command. But the Aramaic language, again, Jesus spoke in Aramaic. He taught it in Aramaic. The apostles taught in Aramaic as well. The Aramaic text is, "Wives be tenderly devoted to your husband as the church is tenderly devoted to Christ."

Walters, Kathie - SUBMISSIVE SPIRIT? - 15 minute mini video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z95qaDvmQL8 12/27/2014
Rebellion can be submission to men/mate/counselor/pastor/MD rather than obeying God.
Walters, Kathie - 1/14/2015 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ImxtTor5Row - "Do you realize that the Holy Spirit requires your first loyalty above anyone or anything else. He is the Spirit of Truth. He is your life line. In the end God is going to ask YOU, 'What did you do with the anointing I put in your life?' Jesus is going to present you faultless. No one else is able to do that. You're His trophy."

Fight Fair

FIGHT for your marriage, even if no one else does. God hates divorce.
If necessary, get a 3rd impartial person/couple or counselor to help.
Even Moses needed help, others to hold up his arms during time of war.
King David fasted daily as long as his dying son lived. Only when his son died, did he stop fasting.
Then he ate and praised God Who gives & takes away.
Everyone else thought him odd, for they were in mourning after and not before the death.

Bevere, Lisa - Fight Fair - Joni � Marriage Free Chat � Lisa Bevere (J985) - 6/18/2013 @ http://www.daystar.com/ondemand/

Hugh, (astronaut) Ross - http://www.reasons.org/ - videos @ http://www.daystar.com/guest-guide/joni-guests/dr-hugh-ross/
3/17/15 program shares that correct translation for bride is military ally against Satan, making a marriage savable and worth fighting for.

http://www.marriagementoring.com/mmacademy

Salem, Harry & Cheryl - http://www.daystar.com/guest-guide/harry-cheryl-salem/ videos
www.salemfamilyministries.org - Cathedral City, California, USA - Prayer for Restoration
Articles @ http://salemfamilyministries.org/category/blog/ - E-Books: Two Becoming One #1 (They discovered that coming into agreement in advance disallows their blaming each other afterwards.).+ Don't Kill Each Other Let God Do It! EBook #2
+ a-bright-shining-place-ebook "is the true story of Cheryl Salem's life & what she overcame to walk the runway to become Miss America 1980, despite what appeared to be all odds stacked against her. A horrific car crash resulting in a physical handicap & over 100 stitches in her face were no match for what God had planned for her life.
Through simple, childlike faith in Him, she overcame the obstacles & eventually took the crown in Atlantic City."
(She had additional numerous physical injuries, all which were reversed over time.)

Kerry Shook: Love and War - To tear down spouse is to tear down oneself, as the 2 are l. A miserable (tempoary) truth leaking out during a time of duress, may provide an open door to fight fair. Wars/skirmishes often create smoke screens that cover up real issues, which need to be comprehended by mate. Repeat back to partner what you think mate is experiencing/feeling, to have him confirm your understanding of his dilemma. Identify real enemy is spiritual: satan.
Marriage begins with delight, progresses to disallusion/difficulty & can proceed to destruction/death without fighting & then fighting fair.
Kerry Shook: I Love You, But I Can't Stand You!
Kerry Shook: The Purpose and Power of Family @ Woodlands Church with Kerry Shook

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/War_Room_%28film%29 Movie encourages mate to fight/pray for mate.

Humor

Gungor, Mark - 2/7/2017 - http://lifetoday.org/video/how-to-treat-your-man/
Book Treat Him Like A Dog uses humorous analogies to highlight amazing truths about marital relationships.

Indipendent/Selfish/Self/sufficient.
It's all about me/myself/I.

Trim, Cindy - 11/12/2018 - Hello Tomorrow (book especially for career women)
http://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=5966505770001 or
http://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=5972662114001 (You might also like)

Intimacy

Recommended things to do:
1-Pray over one's bedroom, even Anoint it with oil &/or
2-Put a mezuzah on the (house and/or bedroom) door frame.
3-Pray over one's bed, even anoint it with oil &/or the blood of Christ.
For a woman, this can be quite easy to do when she is making the bed each morning.
4-Bind any evil & loose any evil, forbidding evil to enter.
Go throughout the room & the house and destroy anything which might contain any demonic/evil,
unless you do not own the object & will not be able to get permission to toss it. Then at least remove it to the garage.
Otherwise, bind any evil/harmful influence & forbid it to interfere with your family, in the name of Jesus.

10 Minutes with Ted (Campbell) & Tina's - Date Night for married couples -
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V79c-zO9cEA - http://www.teddyandtina.org/web-series/

Gary D Chapman - chapter 1 online
http://www.amazon.com/The-Five-Love-Languages-Audio/dp/1881273377/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_y#reader_1881273377 -

Cho, Rev David Yonggi - Korea - http://english.fgtv.com/drcho/main.asp + http://english.fgtv.com/yfgc.pdf
Books = Successful Home Cell Groups - Chapter 2 God's Reeducation Program says that God explained to Cho,
"Think of a marriage...When a man marries a woman, he...loves her & shares his life with her - intimately.
That is the kind of relationship you are to have with the Holy Spirit."

Dillow, Linda & Pintus, Lorraine - http://www.intimateissues.com/?page_id=279
Video - http://www.intimateissues.com/?page_id=442

DuArt, Rushnell & Louise - http://lifetoday.org/video/the-40-day-prayer-challenge/ 1/17/2017 - Praying together enhances couple intimacy.

Misty Edwards - July 20, 2013 � "Our hearts are partially formed in our childhood & sometime the cement dries with unseen cracks that you don't discover until you trip on them. In an attempt to avoid 'naval gazing' we cannot neglect the fault lines but the Holy Spirit wants to bring healing. He continues to fashion our hearts & desires to change some of our childhood conclusions, breaking some of our invisible inner vows. I�ve never really thought much about inner healing, but as I pursue a life of deep prayer I realize how eager the Father is to heal my heart so that I can enjoy the conversation with Him unhindered."

Eggerichs - Joni � Love and Respect � Family � Emerson Eggerichs (J1364) 5/12/14 +
Eggerichs - Joni � Love and Respect � Dr. Emerson Eggerichs (J1363) 5/13/2014
Comprehending & meeting our mate's unspoken expectations.

Evans, Jim and Karen - http://www.marriagetoday.com/television/latest-videos/
or https://marriagetoday.com/latest-tv-episodes/
+ https://marriagetoday.com/category/communication-needs/?show-episodes
scroll down to view choices regarding Series: Return to Intimacy
1/27/2016 http://www.marriagetoday.com/when-your-spouse-complains/ - discusses communication
Inner Healing - www.21dayjourney.com (1 year subscription/access)
Inner Healing #1 http://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=4100709440001
Inner Healing #2 http://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=4208847225001
Daily, Jim invites Holy Spirit into his marriage relationship. He asked God to enlighten
him how to love his mate. God did, immediately, saving him from impending divorce.
@ http://www.daystar.com/guest-guide/jimmy-evans/ or http://www.jonilamb.com/videos/
Evans, Jim and Karen - Editorial http://marriagetoday.com/
marriagehelp/why-you-cant-resolve-your-conflicts/ @ www.marriagetoday.com
http://marriagetoday.com/marriagehelp/why-you-cant-resolve-your-conflicts/
Understand the difference between complaining and criticizing.
When we complain, we must remember that it is NOT about our spouse, it is about us.
All of us need the freedom to complain to our spouse.
We also need to make sure our spouse knows they have the right to complain to us.
In a healthy marriage, there is a freedom of expression that allows us to talk openly without fear of retribution or shame
(+ to talk safely + to talk out of earshot of children, so as not to traumatize them).
Video @ http://www.daystar.com/guest-guide/jimmy-evans/ 4/15/2016
Daily, Jim invites Holy Spirit into his marriage relationship. He asked God to enlighten him how to love his mate.
God did, immediately, saving him from impending divorce. Prior to that, it was all about me, myself & I,
+ licking soul wounds, many incurred prior to marriage.

Gray, John - http://askmarsvenus.com/Article.php?id=183
John Gray - http://www.amazon.com/Men-Mars-Women-Venus-Understanding/dp/B0000546PE very short AUDIO
http://www.amazon.com/Men-From-Mars-Women-Venus/dp/006123205X#reader_006123205X introduction + chapter 1 online
FULL BOOK @ http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&frm=1&source=web&cd=7&ved=0CEUQFjAG&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpauladaunt.com%2Fbooks%2FJohn%2520Gray%2520-%2520Men%2520are%2520from%2520Mars%2C%2520Women%2520are%2520from%2520Venus%2520%2528v2.0%2529.rtf
John Gray - Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus (v2) FULL BOOK
Gray, John - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_qo1isqP7G0 - Interview with John Gray about book Why Mars And Venus Collide". - 1/19/2009 - �Why men need their cave time and women need to talk about emotions." (A movie person might initially prefer above web link with related VIDEOs that might give insight to negative relationship interactions)

Hegstrom, Paul - The Brain & the Spoken Word DVD#2 - www.lifesillsintl.org - Aurora, Colorado, USA - Sometimes if the parents do not bond in their marriage they will (unwittingly/incorrectly/ harmfully) attempt to bond with the child of the opposite sex to make up for the lack of intimacy in the marriage. The daughter of such a mistaken/misapplied alliance may seek out and marry an older man to meet her unmet fathering needs & to duplicate her dad who doted on her. (Psychiatrist Freud loved to blame bad parenting as the cause of most sins/sexual dysfunctions of the children.)

Kerr, Kat - http://www.xpmedia.com/access/10342/video/passionate-power
or https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gzLrGVB99Pw @ Csaba N Eva Gegeny 2/1/2013
Love not lust. Complete each other, not compete. Regular healthy intercourse with mate is war against satan not mate.
Kerr, Kat - CD# 2 - Warning, Heaven Rocks - 2010 � www.revealingheaven.org - regarding Passionate Power in Marriage - Consistently/regularly accommodating one�s mate due to holy healthy sexual love empowers the other, like refueling the gas tank. Passion in marriage is a + & can empower a mate to blossom, to be superior rather than nominal. (Obviously we are NOT endorsing violence.) If the power does not go out the supply does not come in = spiritual rule of supply & demand regarding marital physical relationship as well as provision. Marital sexual love life can be a barometer/ thermometer of relationship/provision.
[CAUTION: Consistent selfish lust degrades & enslaves & is NOT holy, healthy, or healing. Our love for our mate is to begin a revelation of God's love for us & through us for His creation. In heaven, God will step inside of us & look out of our eyes; likewise, we will step inside Him.]
Kerr, Kat - CD - Passionate Power � www.revealingheaven.org - Especially for those aged 40-70. - We can tell our man that if he makes us feel like a princess, we will make him feel like a prince regarding their attitude/ speech towards us. Even though Kat was was born again, she married her choice instead of God's choice in her 1st marriage of 6 years. She had to apologize to both mate & God. A contract is secular; a covenant is where God is involved. If we are unhappily married, God may want us to stay put; He can restore/reprogram our hearts & marriages. [Seems 2 reasons Kat was permitted to switch mates were: her predesigned (1) destiny and (2) seed.] Wife give/refill/empower mate (a minimum) 2 hours, 1 day a week (of his choice) to focus solely on him. Sexual inter-course is spiritual warfare that empowers/supplies our communications/ relationships/finances. During forthcoming time/season of baptism of fire, which is a foretaste of God's love, electricity will shoot between married couples. Love is God's weapon, whereas lust is Satan's weapon. Both contain power, one positive, the other negative. Spiritually, usually mates have more prayer power over each other than intercessors; generally, family members have more power for each other than intercessors. We need to avail ourselves of that power. One thing we need to daily request & receive (like manna in the Old Testament) is heavenly grace. Frequent family confessions also apply: "We declare you will become a mighty person of God; you will not miss your destiny; you will become a living testimony to the saving grace of Jesus Christ." Beware, consistent negative confessions cancel these decrees.

Lane, Tom and Jane - Uncovering the Passive Man
http://tomandjanlane.com/sample.html or http://tomandjanlane.com/StrongWomen-Sample.pdf

MacNutt, Francis - http://www.christianinnerhealing.org/inner-vows -

Parrot, Les & Leslie - https://www.lesandleslie.com/devotions/ editorials +
Parrot - https://www.lesandleslie.com/video-library/ Intimacy and relationships, both emotional and physical.
Parrot - Another resourse https://www.lesandleslie.com/assessments/ +
Parrot - https://www.amazon.com/Love-Like-That-Relationship-Secrets/dp/1400207819
Parrot - https://www.biblegateway.com/blog/2017/05/your-marriage-vows-in-sickness-and-in-health/

Sandford, John L & Paula - Growing Pains - part of the Transformation series dealing with the inner child from the time of conception - www.elijahhouse.org - Chapter 6 Breaking Childhood Inner Vows - is a bit Freudian, but nonetheless in many cases exposes & shows us how to eliminate the root cause of many intimacy issues due to one's ongoing bad habit of secrecy begun in the home due to rejection & rebellion against parental/family/teacher ineptness/control/manipulation. Isolation and secrecy is often an 'unconscious' method of behavior; invite the Holy Spirit to expose any area (one at a time) that needs His ministry. recommended read especially regarding prayer therapy
(http://www.healmylife.com/articles/inner%20healing/listen%20to%20god.html)
Sandford, John L & Paula - Trauma - http://files.streamsministries.com/website_pdf_info/ElijahHouse_HealingTrauma_StudyGuide.pdf
Sandford, John L & Paula - http://www.prayercounselling.com/
counselling/introduction.php - has some excellent links/editorials

The Richest Man Who Ever Lived - with Steven Scott - 7/6/2015
or The Richest Man Who Ever Lived with Steven Scott - 10/19/2015 - Repeat but good Steven Scott video regarding book of Proverbs: 1^st half about success in $/provision/school/competitions + 2^nd half about success in marriage relationships

Twersky, Isadore - A Maimonides reader - Google -
Jewish insights through the eyes of Rabbi Maimonides - pg 121 Forbidden Intercourse

Weiss, Doug of Santa Ana, California, USA - Intimacy - www.winning@marriage.com
Weiss, Doug (psychologist) - http://www.sexaddict.com/ - http://www.intimatematters.com/ -
3-Day Intensives & Telephone Counseling Colorado Springs, Colorado
Weiss, Doug - 11/21/2011 - http://www.daystar.com/ondemand/joni-miracle-of-marriage-doug-weiss-j856/

Iniquity

Maria de Lange, Susanna Francina - http://stclements.edu/grad/gradsusanna.pdf -
Chapter 4: Iniquity, the Root of all Evil, the Seat of the Great Prostitute -
4.6.2 THE REIGN of GOD THROUGH RIGHTEOUSNESS VERSUS the REIGN of SATAN through INIQUITY -
"In an extra-ordinary way, reveals John Klein & Adam Spears the covenantal processes with its meanings from the Bible. God established 7 PATRIARCHAL Covenants with His people, which can be divided into 4 Covenant Types...
Satan as an imitator duplicates everything of God as a counterfeit for his demonic kingdom, including covenants & covenant types. Sin is progressive & could be seen as covenantal processes with the EVIL-One...Humanity actually handed God a divorce & cut a covenant with Satan, receiving his 1st down-payment of covenant-ship with Satan as a sinful depraved nature out of which all transgression & sin derives. The everlasting covenant with Satan will be revealed as to be with him in his kingdom of darkness as his bride (companion)."
4.6.3.4 THE 4TH COUNTERFEIT COVENANT TYPE: BETROTHAL COVENANT with SATAN (HYROS GAMOS) -
"The deepest level of covenant is the bridal relationship."

In Law - Out Law Issues
Daughter/Son + Father/Mother In Love

Walsh, Sheila http://lifetoday.org/video/overcoming-disappointment/ 1/25/2017
Mother in-law issues.

Perseverance/Resiliency

Kent, Carol � 4/21/2020 - https://lifetoday.org/video/staying-power/ for marriage resiliency
Kent, Carol � https://lifetoday.org/assets/files/4-21-20e-Kent.pdf Transcript (edited)
Carol: Our marriage got hit with what we felt was the worst crisis that could ever happen. I know there are so many couples who due to a child born with a disability or financial stress or they're caring for an aging parent or they have a child struggling with gender issues, & they are struggle in so many ways, maybe with a drug addicted child or an incarcerated loved one, maybe a health issue or an accident that has totally changed the rest of their lives. They say, "Is our marriage going to survive this?" We started to realize that there are a whole lot of marriages out there that are "okay," maybe even "pretty good" but when they get hit with a crisis, how can they make choices that will wind up strengthening & building that marriage instead of allowing it to crumble & end in divorce.
Carol: If we are not in this struggle together, we are already dead on the vine in terms of emotional closeness. We started as a couple to minister to each other. Gene did that. He knew my heart was hurting so much. He brought me coffee in bed every morning. Sometimes we couldn't even speak because we were in so much pain. He would bring me that cup of coffee, and then he would put his hand on my arm, or he would rub my feet, which is a real gift. Without words he was saying, "Honey, I love you. I know this pain is unspeakable but we're going to make it because we're in it together." So that was a huge thing. To any couple out there struggling, make the decision to be not doing this your own way, hurting in your own private way, do it together. You will discover that it will help a lot.
Carol: It's in the little things. It's in those tiny little things. He knew it was very hard for me to handle the calls from relatives and friends because we have a lot of dear people in our lives & it would take an hour to explain everything that happened because they loved our son too. He knew that would absolutely leave me, not only in tears but a mess on the floor. So he would take those calls knowing he was sparing me from weeping & feeling the grief of every person who listened. 1 of the chapters is on making the next right choice. Because when you're going through the tough stuff, it is very hard to make decisions. So we started to talk about making pre-decisions before our next crisis hit. 1 of those pre-decisions was that we promised that we would respect each other's advice & listen without always talking immediately afterwards.
Carol: That was extremely helpful to us. Then we decided that another important thing is that we needed to forgive instantly based on the fact that we loved each other, we knew we wanted our marriage to make it, we knew that visiting a child in a maximum security prison for the rest of our lives, since it is life without parole, was going to be hard.
That we needed to, when there were little issues, forgive right away. We called it "Choosing to be unoffendable."
That's a really important thing. Like even if he gets on my nerves, which he does occasionally, today, I'm going to choose to be unoffendable because I know his heart toward me is something that is precious. know he didn't do it on purpose.
Carol: It is so important to choose the right words because some words we can't take back. I'm a preacher's kid and will never forget my dad telling about working with a couple who had been in a very serious automobile accident. The man was able to walk away but his wife was in intensive care for a long time & had terrible facial scarring from the accident. Once in a heated argument he looked at her and said, "You old scar-faced woman. Can't you do anything right?" She said from that moment on, any time he looked at her whether it was during a time of intimacy or when they were just in conversation or with friends out for coffee or dinner, when he would look at her she envisioned that he saw her as unattractive, ugly, & something that was not a pleasure to be around. So some things that come out of our mouths cannot be taken back with just a little thought, well, I won't say that again. It hurts for the long run & we need to think twice before we choose the wrong words.
Carol: I really believe that my long marriage to Gene Kent, even before Jason's arrest, helped to build a foundation for that. Out of that grew something that we call in 1 of the chapters, "Serving while Suffering." Sometimes in the middle of our pain we think, well, I better quit ministry. I had that thought from the enemy. Well, Carol, you're the mother of a murderer, you can never stand up with your Bible in your hand & tell people Jesus lives & he can take care of your problems. Because look what happened to you & look at the bad choice your son made." I just want to say, tell the enemy to be gone. Greater is he that is in me than he that is in the world. We started to stand in these 2-hour long lines to get through the security process to get into the prison...every week.
CAROL: When we drive up to the prison, we start to pray out loud in the car & sing. We say, "O Lord, Would you be big in that prison today?
CAROL: The appendix is the best bit of the book. It is the 13 crisis help sheets about whatever you're dealing with. Maybe you're raising your grandchild, taking care of your aging loved one, dealing with the incarceration of that loved one or dealing with all of those things that happen when there are financial issues. But the 13 crises help sheets will give you how to's of where to go on the day you hit the crisis & where you can find resources and help immediately. We not only want to help people practically, we want to help couples spiritually. Each chapter has questions. Some have little quizzes you can give each other so you get to know & love each other a lot, as well as get biblical truth in there. But we hope this is a book that people will use in their small group studies, will grow closer & will bond marriage stronger because with Him we can be stronger together.
Carol: It's okay to have guilt-free time outs. As a 1st born obsessive, compulsive, repulsive person occasionally, I find that it's hard for me to take a timeout because I have things to do & deadlines to meet. I'm running off to speak & have to get ready to go to the airport so timeouts are hard for me to take. I discovered when you are going through tough stuff that hits your marriage from the outside, if you don't take a break, you will break in two. 1 of the things that you can do is just go outside & take a deep breath. Gene & I started walking 3 miles a day on our at-home days and we turn those into prayer walks. So we'll be walking along & people who are watching us probably think we're crazy, but Gene will start, & he will say, "Lord, we thank you for the beauty of this day." I'll say, "Lord, we praise you! You are the one to whom nothing is impossible!" Then Gene will say, "Lord, would you take care of my 91-year old mother today because she is really feeling lonely." I'll say, "Lord, would you just help son Jason to have a divine encounter at the prison so he can use his leadership & his biblical wisdom to help another inmate?" We'll go back & forth. It strengthened our marriage to take these timeouts & do these prayer walks. The other thing that is important is that when one of you is strong, often the other 1 is feeling weak. So give each other a break. Maybe on the day your spouse is really struggling, you say, "Honey, I'll hold down the fort today. I'll deal with our autistic child who is really getting on the last thread of my last nerve today, you go take a break." Or he'll say, "Honey, go out with your girlfriends for lunch." It is so important we make time for timeouts.
https://carolkent.org/category/blog/
Kent, Carol - https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07VLC3N3L/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i1 Staying Power Excerpts
Kent, Carol with Dr. Dobson - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zBrMbpdN8i8 11/13/2018
Kent, Gary & Carol - https://speakupforhope.org/our-story/ + https://speakupforhope.org/hope-blog/ prison ministry

Roberts, Sarah Jakes - http://lifetoday.org/video/overcoming-shame/ Daughter of T D Jakes had child at age 14 + divorced before becoming pastor's wife - 8/2//2016 - Autobiography

Savard, Liberty - YOU ARE NOT YOUR UNSAVED HUSBAND'S SAVIOR!
@ http://www.libertysavard.com/keys_difficult_issues.html

Roberta Simpson 11/12-18/2007 @ Sid Roth (no transcript) http://bridelifemagazine.com/blog/2015/02/21/lady-roberta-simpson-on-love-life-and-marriage/ - �Women say that they need 3 husbands in their lifetime. As a young woman, they need an adventurer. As a mother, they need a father to their children. As an older woman, they need a companion, a steady type of guy. If you can fill those roles over the course of decades, you�re in luck.�

Tada, Ken and Joni Eareckson - http://lifetoday.org/video/a-love-story/ 6/23/2015 -
http://www.joniandfriends.org/jonis-corner/jonis-bio/ Joni Eareckson Tada,
Founder and CEO of Joni and Friends International Disability Center

Caves

John Gray - Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus (v2) FULL BOOK
https://www.theravive.com/therapists/joyce-dolberg-rowe.aspx (trained by John Gray)
@ https://www.theravive.com/zip/ma/christian-counseling-02446.aspx Boston area

Holmes, Elizabeth - Man Cave vs She Shed - 2/1/2017 - http://www.theaustralian.com.au/business/wall-street-journal/man-cave-gets-new-neighbour-the-she-shed/news-story/efd8b179d0472775717b5e548787fe24?nk=bc33ba173f3342c3f7db2aa9decb14e4-1485986417 - �'You know how men have man caves? This is like that, but for women,' says the 42-year-old interior designer, whose children are ages 10, 13 and 16. 'If I was �inside, someone would be screaming: Mum.� After years fighting for a seat at the table, some women now want their own place. Ms. Spearing converted her backyard pool house into a Parisian-theme oasis with a brass chandelier & bistro table. She retreats there every day." (Some prophetic voices are saying upcoming home buyers will require interior chapel rooms, which are also a place of solace.)

Reed, Paulette - I Am Calling My Women Out of the Caves by Paulette Reed - www.propheticarrow.org - �I heard Holy Spirit say to me, �I am calling My women out of the caves.� As I prayed into this word from heaven, the Lord showed me hundreds of women hiding in caves because of fear, failure, or fatigue. I then saw the women running from the caves with good news. It was clear that many had overextended their season in the caves and what was intended to be their secret place had become their hiding place. Today, God is calling you out of handedness & to the frontlines...
In Psalm 68:11, we will see thousands more following Christ out of love, adoration, & devotion to Him. Women are being released to step into a new boldness in the Lord�
1 of the reasons that many women are in caves is because of hurts & rejections they have experienced throughout life�
Many people have shared their stories of hurt & pain with me. While they were wounded many inadvertently made ungodly covenants as they ran into caves. The confession usually goes something like this: �I'm so hurt. I'm just going to love the Lord & worship Him in my secret place, because I sure struggle with His people right now��
1 John 4:20 says that we are to love our brothers & sisters in Christ: �If someone says, �I love God,� & hates his brother, he is a liar; for the one who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God whom he has not seen.�
So, beloved, we must love our brothers & sisters as we go & serve Christ in them.
Let's rejoice in the fact that there is always a genuine safe place for all believers, it's in the shadow of the Almighty's wings.
This true security is a supernatural act of protection, not an excuse to hide. We must learn to love & serve the bride of Christ even with all of her spots & wrinkles, for our gifts are not to be hidden for ourselves but they are to be given away to others. Come out, come out, wherever you are�
We learn to stay in the safe place after slaying giants (1 Samuel 24:3).
We learn to love (1 Samuel 24:10).
We learn not to touch God's anointed (1 Samuel 24:10).
We learn mercy and forgiveness (1 Samuel 24:10).
We learn of the Lord's provision (1 Kings 18:4).
We learn when to cry aloud to the Lord (Psalm 57:1).
We learn that miracles can be birthed in caves (Matthew 2:1; Luke 2:1-7).
We learn humility (Matthew 2:1; Luke 2:1-7).
We learn to delight in hiddenness and live to glorify God (Isaiah 43:7).
We learn to hear the Lord's still small voice (1 Kings 19:9-12).
We learn there is a season to all things (1 Kings 19:13)
Elijah had been resting, giving time to get his heart & soul right, so that he could continue on in his destiny.
Now God calls him back to the mountain to take a stand�
We need to ask ourselves, �Am I in the right place?� Are you sensing a nudge from the Lord that's making you uncomfortable? If so, let's remember that the Lord often comforts the afflicted & afflicts the comfortable.
Our faith, spiritual gifts, & Christ-like character grow by being stretched, not by lying dormant in a cave�
I hear the Lord saying, �Go! Get your eyes off of yourself.
Here are your new marching orders; love, serve, anoint, appoint, & raise up successors��
This is a season where God is exchanging your grave clothes for the armor of God.
I declare to you today: �Come forth now, with boldness, with purity of devotion & passion after God.
Exchange the grave clothes that held you in bondage for pure, white linens, the righteous acts of God's holy people, & declare the good news of the kingdom of God so that many will believe in Him.�
Just think what would have happened if Jesus had stayed in the cave.
Thank goodness He arose from the dead & walked out of the tomb in resurrection power�
I speak life to dreams, marriages, businesses & families today.
Come forth! You shall live & not die�
Destruction has passed you by, beloved. You are commanded to arise & shine.
The Lord has softened your heart & given you a breastplate of righteousness.
You're a radiant bride, soft on the inside & tough as nails on the outside.
A heavenly, royal wedding gown covers the armor as you march in the great army of women.
God is calling His women out of the caves.

Counseling Premarital

Christian Counselors

COMMENTARY: EXTREMEly DANGERerous are those born-again Christian counselors who recommend/condone ANYTHING other than which is approved of in the Bible. Many priests condone premarital sex confessed in the confessional, due to "one's really being in love" & one's having committed fornication/adultery out of a clear conscience.
In other words, the counselors are saying that one's conscience, rather than one's mind/will/conscience/dictates of God/scripture is what counts as sin/disobedience/trespass/evil. Such counselors are spokespersons for Satan, not God...
Scripture says that God told Moses that He hated divorce, even though His permissive will allowed it in certain circumstances. Even so, God prefers one not to divorce. Even getting a legal separation in a state where it automatically becomes a divorce, is not holy advise. Flee from any counselor/pastor/priest/rabbi who CONTRADICTS scripture.
Your own heart/spirit should warn you when you receive ungodly advise. One seeks out a marriage counselor to get help, not to split up a marriage & mess up your kids & family through a "nasty" divorce. Divorces usually create more problems than were in existence before the divorce. Separations may be OK if each partner agrees to work on his own issues & resolve/fix them before coming back into a relationship. 1st Corinthians 7 says not to deny sexual intimacy to the other, except for prayer. Obviously, God would make an exception for physical violence/abuse of mate or children. Remember, always look to God's heart & not to the letter of the law. This is why the rabbis in the Old Testament missed the Messiah. Whether it is a divorce or separation, a key question to ask is if it will help or harm the children. However, never put yourself above the law, God's law. Just be careful not to put yourself under ungodly authority which teaches that a male/husband is your superior where you are property & not a human being. In the case where a mate is mentally ill, it is very difficult & a very long process. 1 has to be willing to fight for the mentally person & for the marriage. Medical intervention may help, but never cure. That is why deliverance is most often necessary. One cannot go it alone. Do not try to go it alone. Pray for & find a Christian community that will stand with you. God bless you.

Marriage Counseling - http://www.drdougweiss.com/Conferences.html http://www.drdougweiss.com/Upcoming.html
Colorado Springs Counseling Center http://www.drdougweiss.com/Counseling.html

Marriage Counseling Retreats for Pastors - https://www.livingwatersministry.com/

Eggerichs, Emerson - https://www.daystar.tv/joni-table-talk/season:1/videos/spouse-feel-special-dr-eggerichs-j1715 2/15/2020 good marriage mentoring + http://emersonandsarah.blogspot.com/ - Rockford, Michigan + online marriage mentoring school @ https://www.loveandrespectacademy.com/

Evans, Jimmy - The Pain of Your Past -
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pK0WjQKc2eg&list=UUyeUw8LCw7srWnk5c267Alg&index=12
from www.marriagetoday.com or http://marriagetoday.com/latest-tv-episodes/ great
On Daystar Look for 5/15/2015 video regarding - The Hurt Pocket and The Hurt Pocket Whisperer
also http://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=4208847225001 @ http://www.daystar.com/guest-guide/jimmy-evans/ @ http://www.daystar.com/shows/daystar-original-programs/jonilamb/joni-guest-guide/
Evans, Jimmy - XO Conferences - https://xomarriage.com/marriagetoday-podcasts 4/2020 @ https://xomarriage.com/podcast @ https://xomarriage.com/

Tanksley, Dr Carol - https://www.drcarolministries.com/about-dr-carol/ Austin, Texas, OB-Gyn physician, board certified in Obstetrics-Gynecology and Reproductive Endocrinology, & Dr. of Ministry https://www.drcarolministries.com/healthy-relationships/ editorials

Confess Secrets &/or Sexual Sins to Mate?

Moore, Beth 11/18/2009 To Know and Be Known http://www.lifetoday.tv/qt/2009/11/91104.htm
Wednesdays with Beth archives http://www.lifetoday.org/site/PageServer?pagename=bth_media
Life Today archives http://www.lifetoday.org/site/PageServer?pagename=tel_USCalendar - Beth, says, "NO, NO, NO" to cathartically" fessing up" to one's partner of past sexual partners & exploits, as understood or perhaps misunderstood by many counselors % counselees...The bottom line is that once our sins are confessed, they are under the blood & forgotten by Jesus. If one particular area is still full of spiritual or emotional puss then perhaps that part of the soul is broken or fragmented & needs ministry. See Ana Mendez ministry above regarding healing of a broken heart.

Confess Sexual or other "dark" Sins to Children?

Greenwood, Rebecca - Let our Children Go - Chapter 9 The Power of Affirmation - [NO, we do NOT share our "dark" past (forgiven) sins with our offspring; they are under the blood of Jesus and He has already forgotten them according to scripture. 2nd, we may consider our children mature enough to handle such matters, but each child is different in maturity - spiritually, emotionally and developmentally. Unless God Himself gives us the green light, it is best NOT to share such matters which may bite you later on if you do NOT pay attention to the Holy Spirit and His leadings. The old saying goes, "When in doubt, don't."]

One Flesh
Genesis 2:24 The 2 shall become 1 flesh.

Alsobrook, David - Understanding the Accuser (who is Satan) - Chapter 2 Overcoming Satan When He Accuses Me to God - "Satan spared (killing) Job's wife, because they were 1-flesh; Satan had to obey & recognize that union."
2nd "Satan decides, 'If I can't get at Job directly, I can do it indirectly, through his wife.'"

Kat Kerr June 15, 2014 or https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=rMjXzVo7Nmw
@ Tribulation Now radio By admin End Time Prophecy part 2 @ http://jesusstories.info/?s=kat+kerr&search=Search +
http://jesusstories.info/page/2/?s=kat+kerr&search=Search - Intercourse between individuals initiates the transfer of soul pieces between them. When unequally yoked (wed) you receive unholy deposits from mate. Intercourse with same sex triggers soul confusion/war.
Kerr, Kat - 1/8/2016 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDqpl8rUB7Y + 1/9/2016
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDqpl8rUB7Y #2 Even when visually apart, spiritually we are not, as the 2 have become 1 (at least physically). The husband is (to be) one's covering/helpmate/protector/enabler in the kingdom of God (on this earth).
Kat Kerr - Kat kerr Sermons : Revealing Heaven in Greenville, South Carolina , March 17th ,2016 - When one marries, he/she exchanges soul layers with mate, in the same manner that he/she exchanges soul layers with the Trinity, when he/she invited Jesus to be his/her savoir & Holy Spirit baptizer, for man's human spirit is layered in same manner that Holy Spirit is layered. Soul layer exchange affects one's whole life. After a divorce/fornication/ adultery/rape one needs to loose/return-to-sender/command-to-go-back to sexual partner each & every wrong/unhealthy/foreign soul layer not in alignment with God's original design (in same manner that GMO plants are not in alignment with God's design). Otherwise, one will be drawn/attracted back to the former. Also wrong soul layers can infect/infest one's thinking, causing one to act out of character and not even know why...Same/similar principle applies to things/addictions. Unholy attractions may occur after one has given self to a forbidden/harmful practice/drug/lure, due to soul deposits from that "fatal attraction", unless it is repented of and sent back to sender, in Jesus' name, plus replaced with God's opposite (plus of course Himself, if He is not already indwelling). Thus, the character defect can be literal in the spiritual sense. (To compound matters, Satan/ demons may hook onto any remaining unholy deposits/shit giving them legal right to spiritually oppress an individual already under physical and/or emotional duress in order to create illness and/or mental instability: needing repentance, healing and/or deliverance. Bottom line: repent & return to sender/person, place or thing any layer or deposit that did NOT come with the original you at conception, & route/refute it when it tries to return, in Jesus' name. Each of us want to be and remain WHOLE in soul. Amen)...[Let�s look at it in another way. Those who receive organ transplants often receive memories from donor. Likewise spiritually, we do/can receive the same spiritual DNA from our illicit sexual partners, which is unhealthy/illegal regarding what the Lord had in mind for us from the foundation of the earth. That is why the Catholic confession is such a good example for the church. Whether we go to God in a confessional booth or on our knees, makes no difference, The goal is to remove the thorn/sin/demon/allergen/splinter/memory/trauma causing the harm.]

Peale, Norman Vincent - Chapter 7 Healed by the Great Physician - recommended @ How to be Your Best - "Said Dr Large, 'Let us give him some (daily/ongoing) treatment at home...What are your husband's sleeping habits...At 5:00 every morning (at point mate is in deep sleep), you get up & sit by your husband, & pray for him. Believe that Jesus Christ is there by your husband's side, actually present with you and with him. Imagine your husband as a whole man, happy, controlled, organized, & well. Hold that thought in your mind, for an image will become a fact as you hold it. Think of your prayers as reaching his unconscious. At that time in the morning, his conscious mind is not resisting & you can get an idea into his unconscious. Visualize him as kindly, cooperative happy, creative & enthusiastic'...The disorder left his life. The power of Jesus Christ is very skillful." (Prayer time will vary from mate to mate. Some recommend praying over marriage bed while making it each morning.)

Sandford, Paula & Loren, John - Growing Pains - available from www.elijahhouse.org -
"Husband & wife...may pray more specifically for one another, because they are in a 1-flesh relationship."

Springer Rebecca Ruter- Intra Muros or My Dream of Heaven - pgs 10-12 adobe or cache excerpt @ https://hopefaithprayer.com/books/IntraMuros-SearchableText.pdf or full @ www.thecallofthebride.com/IntraMuros.pdf
http://www.thecallofthebride.com/IntraMuros.pdf%2Bmy+dream+of+heaven+intra+muros+rebecca+ruter+springer -
"This book is a description of Heaven that was written around 1898. Whether it was an actual vision or just a long dream, she does not really know. The only thing she knows & states, is that instead of the memory of the �dream� dimming over the years, it had actually become more vivid...Many churches give this book out to grieving family members."
Chapter 16 - "'To me marriage must be eternal. How could it be otherwise, when 2 grow together & become as 1?
Death cannot separate them without them destroying. They are no longer 2 perfect beings, but 1 in soul & spirit forever'...
'But having the marriage rite pronounced does not produce this change. It is the divinity of soul wedded to soul alone that can do it'...He unfolded to me mysteries of the soul-life that filled my heart with rapture, but which I man not here reveal."

Red Flags

Hickey, Marilyn - Faith Vision - A Dream Too Big for You - Part 1 +
http://www.marilynandsarah.org/2015/02/faith-vision-a-dream-too-big-for-you-part-2/ - Part #2 shares Holy Spirit warning to Sarah to attend to her mate in area where he felt neglected, unneeded, unwanted, unappreciated, unvalued.

Kolenda, Daniel - http://www.charismamag.com/spirit/spiritual-warfare/44109-daniel-kolenda-on-spiritual-warfare-kill-your-dragon-while-it-s-young -
�You can pretend it's not there. You can call it weird. But as Daniel Kolenda emphasizes, the supernatural realm is very real. Not only that, but the (spiritual) enemy can be behind your everyday struggles. In his book Slaying Dragons,
Kolenda shares practical, doctrinally sound spiritual warfare tips, including killing the proverbial dragon before it's born. �Smash it while it is still inside its egg. If you can kill it in its gestation period, you will never have to battle a monster,� Kolenda says. �Big things start small. Big addictions come from simple curiosity. Big sins grow from small seeds.�
As an example, Kolenda describes a season when he got his hair cut at a salon by a young, attractive hairdresser. He used to hate haircuts, but the young lady was interesting to talk to, and she seemed interested in him. When she cut his hair, time flew by. Then 1 morning Kolenda woke up and felt a flutter of excitement for his hair appointment that day. He was surprised, but it didn't take a lot of reflecting to realize why.
�Obviously I was excited at the thought of seeing that attractive young woman,� he says.
But Kolenda was married with 3 children. So he canceled his appointment & switched salons. While the situation may have never evolved into anything, Kolenda was also aware that every affair could be traced back to a little, innocent feeling of excitement. In his writing he uses this experience to illustrate how to slay a (small) dragon before it becomes a (big) dragon.
�Remember how Jesus told us to deal with temptation: If your hand offends you, cut it off. If your eye offends you, gouge it out,� Kolenda says. �I recognized the latent potential for a little dragon egg to begin growing in my life. I dealt with it quickly & thoroughly.�
His book Slaying Dragons doesn't just expose the ways of the enemy.
It challenges readers to consider the sin habits they themselves have coddled.
�Most of the dragons that threaten us are ones we have incubated, nurtured, & raised in our own hearts. Lust, pride, greed, selfishness in all its forms, hatred, the abandonment of responsibility, lack of self-discipline: are the kind of dragons that usually destroy us,� Kolenda says. �In fact it is these small internal dragons that become the huge external ones.�
Slaying Dragons shines light on what the enemy is doing in one's life & what a person can do to slay every dragon he or she encounters.�

Separation

COMMENTARY: Time out or SEPARATION is a time to grow up. Get a weekly counselor for yourself (same sex). Attend classes. Finish college. Join clubs. Teach Sunday school. Become active in your church. Go on mission trips. Read your Bible from cover to cover. Go to the gym. Ride your bike often. Stay away from things that are false security blankets like booze, cigarettes, etc. Keep busy in constructive ways. Make a schedule and stick to it, regardless of how you feel. Do those things you dreamed of doing when you were younger. This is a window of time God is giving to you. Make the best use of it...Bless others & the blessings will some day come back to you.

Dickerman, Don - When Pigs Move In share the root cause of many a separation/divorce. Chapter 23 Pledges and Oaths - www.dondickerman.net - Included doors to demonic infestation include: Freemasonry, Eastern Star, college fraternities and sororities or any secret lodge (requiring any secret oath/pledge/initiation) Such clubs/organizations result in one �inviting demons into his family" usually unknowingly, as Satan is a deceiver. Anyway, the �beginning� or Blue Lodge level #1 takes many oaths (as do all levels) - 1 being the �usurping of the marriage� covenant by the removal of the wedding ring during the ceremony! - Also see www.jubilee-resources.com

Soul Mates/Ties/Cords

Dickerman, Don - When Pigs Move In - http://www.dondickerman.net - Dickerman in Appendix lists 37 Biblical Curses, Grouping of Various Evil Spirits by function/assignment, and 60 Symptoms of Demonic Attack. - Chapter 4 How Do Demons Access Believers? "Sex outside of (or before) marriage cannot only open doors for demons, but it can also create a soul tie that gives them permission to stay until that curse is broken." This soul tie affects the individual, his mate, plus his seed, until broken, because it concerns both a demon & a curse."
Dickerman, Don - Keep the Pigs Out - http://www.dondickerman.net

Doctor, Judith - http://www.kairosministries.us/Healing%20The%20Broken%20Heart%20Part%20VIII%20Ungodly%20Soul%20Ties.pdf - Severing Ungodly Soul Ties - "(Taken from Virkler & Virkler, 2000, Contributing Strands Worksheet, p. 6.) Start by welcoming the Holy Spirit�s presence to guide & empower you. Position your heart in humility before the Lord. Come before the Lord, tell him the heart issue you are bringing to Him. Give your heart to God now; allow Him to access your heart.
PRAYER, 'Lord, sever that ungodly soul tie between me & _______
Release me from the ungodly flow...from him (her) to me.
Restore back to me any parts which have been taken. Send back any parts of others which have been received.'
PRAYER, 'Father in Heaven, I come to you now, because I need You.
I recognize that I have an ungodly soul-tie with _______
I confess and repent of my sin of being in bondage to another person.
I confess and repent of my sin of an ungodly soul tie with _______
I forgive _______ for their involvement in this sin.
I ask You to forgive me and to wash all sin & guilt from me with Your blood.
I now receive Your forgiveness. I forgive myself for participating in this sin.
I also confess and repent of my anger & resentment against You, God, for allowing this to happen in my life.
In the name of Jesus Christ, I break this ungodly soul tie between me & _______
I cut myself off from every evil thing coming to me through them.
Lord, please restore to me any broken or torn portions of my soul.
Lord, remove anything that has come into me through this soul tie.
Please restore to me anything godly that has been stolen from me.
I am drawing close to You and I resist the evil one like Your Word tells me to do.
In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, (I pray all the above things &) I thank You. Amen.'
Follow with laying hands on the heart. (with same sex partners;
a man is NOT to place his hands on a female chest.)
If (when) ministering breaking of soul ties to another person, speak freedom & release healing directly to the person�s heart.
The heart can hear & will respond to your direct words.
Note: Part of our problem in identifying ungodly soul-ties is ignorance of the differences between God�s blessings & curses.
Read Deuteronomy (chapters) 27-29 to help you become familiar with the differences between them."

Ehambe, Lufile - Sever Old Soul Ties - How to overcome struggle (audio) @ http://cintlc.org/seniorpastor.htm
further background http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r9wirNty6b8&feature=related

Foy, Teri Savelle - especially for women - http://www.terri.com/intimate-soul-ties/

Frankena, Martin - Free Indeed - Healing & Deliverance seminar CD 4/21/2007 session 2 www.revivalconnections.org
Emphasis on spiritually terminating/cutting/loosing unholy soul ties, especially from each prior sexual relationship prior to marriage. Each sexual relationship is a covenant relationship, legal or not, right or wrong. It is a spiritual law that the 2 become 1 flesh during intercourse. That is why it is imperative for each person to repent and put under the blood of Christ all prior relationships, especially those forbidden by God in the Bible. Ask God to remove permanently from you anything deposited from another during any/each prior relationship. Never recite pornographic details; God already knows the particulars. Ask God to redeposit [back into you (or if bad then under the feet of Jesus)] anything taken from you during any prior relationship. It might be innocence, virginity, trust, freedom to love, which one can name, if one is aware. Such transparency/repentance/ prayers/proclamations free one to pursue intimacy in his/her marriage. One can also pray for God to bless his/her marriage.

Hamp, Bob - Teaching on Sex | Bob Hamp - http://vimeo.com/6999128 - excellent - Dating (intimate or not) may allow the transfer (to and from each other) of soul parts (layers/deposits, unwanted character flaws and/or demonic entities). (Thus we need to loose/cut from ourselves both detrimental marital & premarital cords as well as any demonic attachments and replace with God's holy virtues, in Jesus' name & power.) http://bobhamp.com/media/ - http://vimeo.com/bobhamp/videos/sort:date

Horrobin, Peter - http://www.ellelministries.org/arise/peter_horrobin - office Ellel Grange, Bay Horse, Lancaster, LA2 0HN, United Kingdom - (edited)
Peter Horrobin Mar 2011 or Peter Horrobin - TV broadcast or TV transcript or February 2011 radio Peter Horrobin - Forgiveness - "Ungodly Soul Ties (edited) - Peter: Well relationships, which become sexual, become what God intended them to be in marriage, a joining together of spirit, soul & body. That's what God intended marriage to be. But when people have relationships outside of marriage, God doesn't suspend what He intended for sexual relationships so that people could sin without consequences. They still become joined together to the people they've had a sexual relationship with.
Sid: I believe, that it even goes deeper. The Bible talks about sex outside of marriage, because I believe it is free access for the demons, the generational curses, everything, because they do become 1. Who wants to pick up all the demons of their (sexual) partner?
Peter: Whatever is happening in 1 person affects the other either negatively or positively.
Sid: You could have a heart transplant & have some of the donor's memories. What it is in the spiritual?
Peter: Those things do happen. Let me tell you a very simple story of a woman who had had a sexual relationship with a boyfriend. She knew eventually that this was wrong & broke the relationship. The boy was really angry & said to her, 'If you're not gonna have me, you're never gonna have children by anybody else.' Now there already was a soul tie joining them together, (but those words) became a curse upon her, when she believed (that pronouncement). Eventually she married. 6 years down the line, she and her husband came for prayer because they couldn't conceive any children. As we unpacked the past, she remembered (as the Spirit of God brought this to her attention what this previous boyfriend had said). When she forgave that boyfriend, I asked God to break the ungodly soul tie. I can't do it. When people come together, God joins them, so it's only He that can unjoin them. When He unjoins them (in Jesus' name) we can then take authority over the demonic curse to come out; she was delivered before our very eyes. You saw this thing coming off her. A year later, they had a little baby, because God had healed her (soul) wound. The curse of death had gone & she was restored.
Sid: I want you to break ungodly soul tie right now.
Peter: If you're a person who has had relationships that were outside of marriage, before you were married or even relationships that were adulterous within marriage, & the Spirit of God has told you that this was wrong, & you want to just bring that to God right now. Confess it. Agree with what God thinks about that sin. Ask Him to forgive you.
Ask Him to cut that tie to those previous sexual partners, so that He can release you...
So Lord Jesus now, as I speak to these people. I ask you now to set them free, to give them freedom from their past.
I take authority over the works of darkness that were impinging upon, attacking & destroying them.
I ask you, Jesus, to set them free right now. Amen." (Jesus, I receive. I thank You.)

Hunter, Joan - Power to Heal - www.joanhunter.org - "After we were divorced,
I still had to break and renounce the (marriage) covenant we had made...
I didn't have to break emotional 'soul ties,' however, as I had broken those much earlier."
Hunter, Joan - Love Again, Live Again with Joan Hunter � Part 1 4/24/2019
Fix a broken heart. Cut old soul ties before remarrying. Recognize and reverse codependency/manipulation.
Hunter, Joan - Love Again, Live Again with Joan Hunter � Part 2 4/25/2019 By Web Admin

Jourdan, Nikki - http://www.chooselove.org/appendixD%20Hidden%20Bindages.htm -
Hidden Bondages - (Soul Ties of all sorts) - good insights -

http://www.kairosministries.us/Healing%20The%20Broken%20Heart%20Part%20VIII%20Ungodly%20Soul%20Ties.pdf
"After praying for the fragmented soul to be made complete and totally restored, we will need to command the demoniacs to leave the person. The following scriptures talks about demoniacs, & evil things. From these verses, it appears that demoniacs attach themselves to our fleshly, natural emotions & behaviors. It also tells us that we need to resist the devil and he will flee from us...
God has invested us with unbelievable power and authority to cast out every evil spirit & to break every demonic bondage.
You are a believer, the power is yours. Having done the previous steps, now use the authority given to you & the privilege of invoking the Name of Jesus, command each spirit by name, to leave you right now in Jesus� Name. In resisting these evil things, we need to learn how to speak very authoritatively using the wonderful name of Jesus Christ."

Lake Hamilton Soul Ties http://www.lakehamiltonbiblecamp.com/specials/mindhome/yoke.htm
from http://lakehamiltonbiblecamp.com/specials/mindhome/intro.htm

McGee, Joe - Tricked Into Marriage - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WPboqG63YIw -
"The founder of Faith For Families exposes the myth of 'soul mates' & explains the basis of a Godly marriage." http://www.joemcgeeministries.com/ + other videos at:
http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=Joe%20McGee&search=tag
or http://www.youtube.com/user/JoeMcGeeMinistries?blend=6&ob=5

McLean, Renny - Eternity Invading Time - www.globalglory.org - Chapter 13 Breakthrough - "Soul ties are bonds with family, associates and other relationships. You (can) know (recognize) you have a soul tie when God has spoken to you, but the people to whom you're tied take priority (1st place) in your life; then God takes 2nd place."
(You prefer not to rock their boat as to what you think they might feel, want, or say.) (When you disobey, disregard or postpone the Lord's promptings) "and go back to the same soulish relationships, the cord wasn't cut from your soul."
"Get to the root of your bondage...cut the soulish ties of intimidation & fear of man's sanctioning; otherwise you will never get your breakthrough...Some (times)...ties were never fully cut. You feel guilty & end up saying,
'I made a mistake'...It was a mistake in your eyes only because you...became discouraged; people manipulated you to come back. When your grace (forgiveness/looking the other way) level falls, you can't tolerate (enable) their errors (evil/ immaturity manipulation/self-interest) anymore. Then you will know God has cut the cords & given you a break-through...It doesn't necessarily mean that God is trying to remove that person out of your life completely (or permanently). He is merely changing the basis of that relationship. If you don't allow Him to change you, those soul ties will sneak in to drag you back to where you started (with God) & your breakthrough (with Him) will not be sustained."

Moore, Beth 11/18/2009 To Know and Be Known http://www.lifetoday.tv/qt/2009/11/91104.htm
Wednesdays with Beth archives - http://www.lifetoday.org/site/PageServer?pagename=bth_media
Life Today archives http://www.lifetoday.org/site/PageServer?pagename=tel_USCalendar - Beth, says, "NO, NO, NO" to cathartically" fessing up" to one's partner of past sexual partners & exploits, as understood or perhaps misunderstood by many counselors and counselees. The bottom line is that once our sins are confessed, they are under the blood and forgotten by Jesus. If one particular area is still full of spiritual or emotional puss then perhaps that part of the soul is broken or fragmented & needs ministry.
See Ana Mendez ministry www.voiceofthelight.com regarding healing of a broken/fragmented heart.

Savard, Liberty - SOUL TIES IN MARRIAGE @ http://www.libertysavard.com/keys_difficult_issues.html +
Keys to Understanding SOUL POWER, SOUL TIES & SOULISH PRAYERS + SOUL TIES FROM FORMER RELATIONSHIPS +

Smith, Alice - Beyond the Lie - http://www.cbn.com/entertainment/Books/BeyondtheLie.aspx - "If you allow Him, the Lord will use what you've experienced, both good and bad, to purify you. When refining gold, the refiner melts & then stirs the gold over heat until all its impurities float to the top. He skims off the impurities & turns up the heat, & then repeats the process, all the while increasing the heat. Molten gold is pure when the refiner can see his reflection in it...
Through holy experiences we can establish spiritual covenants with holy people. Over time, partners in the service of Christ build (healthy safe) lifelong relationships with one another. Consider a pastor & his wife who have served in the same church for many years. Years in relationship with the congregation have woven together the fibers of their lives into a beautiful divine tapestry. The pastor & his wife are part of the congregation, & the congregation is part of them. The godly covenant is made on 2 levels: (1) They have entered into a holy soul tie covenant with the people they have served. (2) They have entered into covenant with God through their years of faithful service. The Lord's anointing rests upon the couple in greater and deeper levels as they continue to surrender to Him in obedience. A scriptural instance of holy covenant is seen in the case of Jacob's parents, who, in keeping with custom, sent him out to find a bride for himself. Along the journey, Jacob stopped to sleep, & while he slept he had a dream in which God told him that the land he was standing on would belong to him and all his descendents. When he awoke, Jacob realized that he'd had a life-altering encounter; he would never be the same. He took a stone on which he had been sleeping, poured oil on it, & made a covenant with God. The promise he received from God forever changed his point of view, his sense of purpose, & his priorities in life (see Genesis 28:12�22).
Unholy contracts are made with unholy people. Through force - violation, assault, abandonment, or cursing, etc. Those who choose evil actions traumatize those who are young &/or weak. From this vulnerable place they cower in fear as victims. Ungodly connections can be formed (for example) through fornication, adultery, homosexuality, bestiality, group sex, and rape; these are not only sins against God but also against our own bodies. Whether we know it or not, when we enter into ungodly and unholy contracts, we enter into covenant on 2 levels. (1st) First, we enter into covenant with the person(s) with whom we've engaged in sin, willingly or unwillingly. This soul tie is an unseen connection that ties our hearts and lives together with evil and can leave doors open to our lives that must be shut. Jehoiada, a priest from the house of Judah, is a biblical example of one determined to break unholy contracts: Jehoiada then made a covenant that he and the people and the king would be the Lord's people. All the people went to the temple of Baal & tore it down. They smashed the altars and idols and killed Mattan the priest of Baal in front of the altars....[Jehoiada] also stationed doorkeepers at the gates of the Lord's temple so that no one who was in any way unclean might enter. (2 Chronicles 23:16�17, 19 NIV)
(2nd) Second, we enter into covenant with spirits of darkness who provoke sin in us and feed on that sin, which often in turn results in some level of demonization. Demons use unholy soul ties to connect their evil activity to a person.
Even unwillingly entering a partnership with evil opens the spiritual gates of your life to further assaults.
This happened to me and thousands of others to whom I've ministered. It's common for a victim to allow & even (knowingly or unknowingly) invite spirits of injustice, evil, & wickedness into his or her life due to the open doors of wrong associations. A(n unholy)covenant (contract/captivity/agreement/legal right) is established in the (demonic) spirit realm until one party breaks it; you will have to (verbally) break the covenant (strong legal hold/grip/oppression/fatal-attraction, in Jesus' name) to see change occur."

Dr. Bern Zumpano, Former Adjunct Assistant Professor of Psychiatry & Professor of Neurosurgery, Oral Roberts University School of Medicine, Tulsa, Oklahoma,USA - 1999 - http://www.walkinginpower.org/books/spiritual_warfare_prayers.pdf -
PRAYER for the BREAKING of SOUL-TIES - "Ties (bindings) are curses, or works of witchcraft imparted to a string, rope, ribbon, or strip of cloth used as a point of contact with a spirit, which is then tied in a knot by a witch.
It is then planted within a church, home, place of business, or other place, in order to carry out a binding against the person to which it is directed. This is different than a soul-tie which is an invisible bond between 2 people which essentially makes them function as one, a bond in which even they have difficulty in breaking, because it is of a sinful nature (I Corinthians 6:16)...
Soul-ties are automatically established between people who commit fornication, for example. Sometimes it becomes difficult for them to stop because of the soul-ties. Soul-ties are frequently the cause behind persistent unhealthy relation-ships of other types, in which an individual has trouble breaking away even though he/she desires to do so.
A soul-tie cannot only be between a person & a person, but can also be between a person and an object.
The disembodied spirits of unsaved deceased people (Isa.8:19; Isa.19:3-4), for instance, can have a soul-tie to their former residence, or to some possession such as a lamp, piece of furniture, or other objects which we, today would consider an antique. There might be a soul-tie to a gun which, then, could create a spiritually dangerous situation.
[The theology regarding disembodied spirits is common among Catholics and Spiritualists! The theology regarding ghosts (evil spirits) &/or disembodied spirits regarding attachment to things or places is also common among Catholics, Spiritualists, South American & African (3rd world) practices & ghost busters. PRAY for DISCERNMENT.]
I was once asked to intervene for a young physician who had developed an unhealthy soul-tie with a young woman who had a powerful spirit of control and spirit of witchcraft, which ministered against the young man. He could not break away.
At the time I was 1,500 miles away, residing in another state. Binding Satan first, a prayer of agreement between the young man�s family members and me, in which we took authority over the soul-tie and broke it in the Name of Christ Jesus, was sufficient to free him. A soul-tie can be reestablished by backsliding & taking an interest, again, in the things, which caused it to develop in the first place. When disembodied spirits have soul-ties to a residence, physical manifestations may occur on the premises. This is essentially what is called a 'haunting', a term commonly used in occult literature. The Christian believer should recognize it for what it is, & bind Satan, the ruler spirits, all demonic spirits & (if discerned) the disembodied spirit (which could be of a witch or occult person traveling with intent of doing harm), and cast them out to a specific destination, commanding them not to return, & break the soul-tie with the residence, all in the Name of Christ Jesus...Remember that repentance should then be prayed for regarding whatever happened on those premises, and you should speak cleansing of its history and cleansing from defilement in Christ Jesus� Name. Pray something like this:
'Lord Jesus Christ, I take authority over the soul-tie between (person's name) & (other person�s name, location or place, or name of object, etc.) and I bind (cut) it, (&) loose him/her from (whatever named) & I BREAK IT ONCE and FOR ALL TIME, all In Your Holy Name, Lord Jesus Christ. I loose (cut/sever) it from (name) & (whatever named place/object/ person) & decree that it cannot return this day or any day to come, binding Satan & the ruler spirits & all evil ministering spirits first, & (next) loosing (name) & (then) binding (separating/forbidding) them off permanently (doing) all in Christ Jesus� Name. I call (name) cleansed of his/her history & of this defilement in Christ Jesus� Name."
It appears the breaking of the soul-tie is possible, even to some degree, in an instance where the person is confused.
By standing in-the-gap for them 1st, such circumstances, which usually meet with resistance in the spiritual realm (increased agitation, for example), indicate the presence of a spell of witchcraft & witchcraft-control or control by soul-power. The latter is likely to be easier to break than the former. Stand in-the-gap for the person first, then decree the soul-tie and witchcraft broken off of them, all in Christ Jesus� Name. Pray it through until a result is seen.
Such persistence is called in the scripture, the 'perseverance of the saints'."

Psalm 116:3-4,8-9,16-17 JNTP - 3The CORDS of death were all around me, Sh'ol's constrictions held me fast;
I was finding only distress and anguish.
4But I called on the name of ADONAI: "Please, ADONAI. Save me."
8Yes, You have rescued me from death, my eyes from tears & my feet from falling.
9I will go on walking in the presence of ADONAI in the lands of the living.
16You have removed my FETTERS. 17I will offer a sacrifice of thanks to You.
Psalm 118:10-12 Stern
10The nations (enemy/demons/troubles) all surrounded me; in the name of Adonai I cut them down.
11They surrounded me on every side; in the name of Adonai I cut them down.
12They surrounded me like bees, but were extinguished (as quickly) as a fire in thorns; in the name of Adonai I cut them down.
Ecclesiastes 4:12 KJV - A 3 fold cord is not quickly broken.
1st Corinthians 6:16 KJV - "Do you not know that he who (fornicates/commits adultery) is joined
to (has sexual relations with) a harlot (prostitute/mistress/concubine) is 1 body with her.
'The 2,' He says (in Genesis 2:24), 'shall become 1 flesh'" (enabling evil spirits to transfer between them: Scriptural insight).

Soul Pieces/Fragmentation

Thorny Relationships - Wives

genesis/3-17.htm 16 To the woman He said, "I will greatly multiply Your pain in childbirth, In pain you will bring forth children; Yet your desire will be for your husband, who will rule over you." 17Then to Adam He said, "Because you have listened to the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree about which I commanded you, saying, 'You shall not eat from it'; Cursed is the ground because of you; In toil you will eat of it All the days of your life.
18"Both thorn & thistle weeds shall infest your gardens + you will eat/harvest both wild & tended plants. (Paraphrased)

proverbs/19-13.htm 13A foolish son is destruction to his father, And the contentions of a wife are a constant dripping (nagging).
14House and wealth are an inheritance from fathers, But a prudent wife is from the LORD.
Proverbs 21:9 - It is better to live in a corner of a roof Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
Proverbs 21:19 - It is better to live in a desert land Than with a contentious & vexing woman.
Proverbs 27:15 - A constant dripping on a day of steady rain & a contentious woman are alike;
16 restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand.
17 As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.

Job-2-9/ - �Then said his wife unto him, Dost thou still retain thine integrity? curse God, and die.�

Thorny Relationships - Husbands

acts/5-9.htm 8�Tell me,� said Peter, �is this the price you and your husband got for the land?� �Yes,� she answered, �that is the price.� 9�How could you (conspire with your mate) agree to test the Spirit of the Lord? Peter replied. �Look, the feet of the men who buried your husband are at the door, and they will carry you out also.� 10At that instant she fell down at his feet & died. Then the young men came in & found her dead. So they carried her out & buried her beside her husband.

Eckert, Beth - Mate's Testimony: http://www.theothersideofdarkness.com/witness-to-a-spiritual-deliverance/
"This head demon also gave specific information on a relationship curse that was over my husband, that caused the breakdown of all relationships. This curse hindered my husband from communicating with people he loved. Wow. That was huge for me, because for so many years I held anger and resentment for time times I felt that my husband was refusing to talk to me or listen to me. This demon also admitted to times when he & his minions tried to kill my husband. Such as causing him to fall asleep while cooking, which led to his stove catching on fire. Or causing him to drive drunk so he would get into an accident...
I know many people do not believe in demons, or the fact that they can indeed reside inside of a Christian. However this is another lie of the enemy. You can indeed have the Holy Spirit indwelling in your own spirit, & still have a demon inside of you as well. If you have the Holy Spirit inside of you, demons cannot go into your (born again) human spirit. They can however come into your physical being; once we give them rights or permission unknowingly, they are allowed to stay. Some may say this is crazy or impossible, but I tell you the truth. There is absolutely nowhere in scripture that says
a Christian cannot have demons inside of them. Christians can NOT be possessed: that is when a demon can be in your very spirit. There is a difference."

Marriage Covenant

Guillerno, Apostle G Maldonado - audio - The Family 3: The Marriage Covenant Part 1 -

Marriage Vows

Sudduth, William - So Free @ http://www.ramministry.org/online_store_s.htm Colorado Springs, Colorado, USA
Chapter 2 - Can a Christian Be Possessed? - "A husband can break a rash vow made by his wife. We asked her husband to repent for his wife, renounce & rebuke Satan & his demons, & break the curse his wife had spoken over herself...
We then commanded the demon to leave; it left."

http://www.themonastery.org/tools/wedding_laws/?gclid=CN6_xKLV-rkCFUTNOgodOjIAug - Laws by state or country -
(The Universal Church is OK as long as one does not get corralled into excessive tithing of assets and time.)

http://www.lightbearerministries.org/media/holy-matrimony-documents/ State License vs God's (Blaine, Minnesota)
http://www.lightbearerministries.com/
files/6313/8300/3224/a_congregational_leader_must_only_have_one_wife_right_wrong.pdf (very odd/weird)

2nd Marriages

Cain, Paula White -
https://jimbakkershow.com/news/dont-stop-believing-watch-journeys-jonathan-cain-paula-white-cain-demand/
Cain, Paula White -https://www.daystar.tv/joni-table-talk/season:1/videos/something-greater-pt-1-paula-white-cain
Cain, Paula White - https://www.daystar.tv/joni-table-talk/season:1/videos/something-greater-pt-2-paula-white-cain

Hill, Scott and Dani - 1/6/2010 testimony using Kenneth Copeland's Prayer, Your Foundation for Success -
http://www.bvov.tv/asx/bvov/100106.asx

http://jesus-comes.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/EBook-Volume-7-Loveletters-from-Jesus-from-2016-01-01-2016-03-10.pdf - 2/7/2016 - "Looking back on it, having 4 children with the wrong man left serious repercussions in our lives. Eventually I would find the right path for my life. He would find his & we would go 2 separate ways. The DNA in our children was divided up in the same way. We were not 1 with the Lord. Neither were our children. Had I married Ezekiel (initially) and had children with him, how blessed they would be, because their genetic makeup would be much more harmonious & inclined towards God. Nevertheless, God is still the victor. Though the road is much rougher, I trust Him to bring them all home. O dear young ones, don�t marry the wrong man or woman. Wait for God�s appointed choice. You will never regret it. Guard your heart closely. Do not give it away in an impetuous moment. The demons always look for the times when you are tired or sick & are not functioning in your normal strength of self-control.
Still, if you cry out to Jesus, He will save you. It is your choice.
Jesus began to speak again, 'Now I will tell you a secret. 9x out of 10, when you feel tempted in this way, it is demonic. They have a way of electronically sending impulses to certain points in your bodies that will cause you to be aroused. They will do the same things to the people around you, setting you up for an occasion of sin. They will, in fact, also give you dreams to try and instigate fornication (&/or adultery). I�m not talking here about the demons that stalk in the night to cause arousal (incubus and succubus)...Rather, I am talking about masquerading demons who appear in your dreams or thoughts looking like someone you know or have an affection for, but in reality it is a demon...Be smarter than the enemy, My Children. Do not allow him to steal your purity or compromise and ruin your lives with the wrong spouse. Wait until I designate a spouse for you. Wait until I reveal a match truly made in Heaven. The repercussions are lifelong and beyond even this generation. Yet know that even now, if you�ve walked into the wrong relationship,
I can and will still do what is necessary to help you lead a fulfilling life. Just remain vigilant, faithful and obedient to Me.
It is not always in your power to win every confrontation with evil, but it is in Mine..."

Kerr, Kat - Kat married a person NOT God's choice & allowed her to divorce, repent & marry His (God's) FIRST choice. No children were conceived until 2nd marriage.

2nd or 3rd Marriages

Kerr, Kat - 7 hours of Kat Kerr describing Heaven, from her many trips (Comp#2)
If you were married to 3 mates who make it to heaven, you are all best friends when you arrive.

2nd or 3rd Marriages
Commentary

During dating, especially during engagement, one or both dates/mates may self-sabotage or act irresponsibly due to a negative self-image, believing Satan's lie that he/she is 2nd-hand junk, used goods. If one has asked the Trinity to forgive past sins, but not yet taken/accepted/appropriated the forgiveness or perhaps not forgiven oneself, this can perpetuate Satan's legal parasitic hold onto the mind & emotions. PRAYER:
I repent for believing the lies of Satan and accepting his thoughts & emotions, which I now reject, in Jesus' name.
I repent for latching onto rather than refusing & rejecting negative emotions & thoughts.
I repent for not refusing any feeling & thought which is contrary to Your nature & heart revealed in Scripture.
I repent for not replacing any self-sabotaging idea with Your Words in Scripture.
I now forgive myself. I also receive Your forgiveness.
I invite You Holy Spirit to indwell & rehabilitate my heart. Thank You Holy Trinity.
I love you dearly. Amen
Find a good concordance & use it often with your Bible. Look up such words as love. Write the verses down.
Recite them often, but add your name to the verses, & speak the scriptures OUT LOUD.
Remember, it is the Lord Who is our sufficiency, & not oneself, nor our mate.
Then we become freer to bless the Lord, ourselves, our mates, & others.
Remember, the most basic unforgivable sin (or nature of Satan) is to reject Jesus as Messiah.
Self-rejection is not part of God�s nature.

Mate Choices

Toledo, Jonathan & Jennifer - http://www.sidroth.ws/2014/01/29/our-guests-jonatan-and-jennifer-toledo/
SID: Holy Spirit said �I�ll bless you if you marry him, but he�s not My best choice.� - She decided at that young age �I�m going for the gold.� I mean how few young women would do this. She was crushed, but she said �God I love you more than anyone or anything.� God honored that faith. Jennifer is now married to Jonatan Toledo.

Remarriage

Hinn, Benny - http://www.bennyhinn.org/resources/email-friend/?link=media/2013-3-11.asx - "3/3/2013, Pastor Benny & Suzanne Hinn stood before over 1,500 family members, Christian leaders, friends & partners to celebrate the restoration of their marriage. The ceremony...at Orlando�s Holy Land Experience, was conducted by Dr. Jack Hayford...Reinhard Bonnke & Suzanne�s father, Dr. Roy Harthern."
http://www.bennyhinn.org/resources/email-friend/?link=media/2013-3-12.asx
http://www.bennyhinn.org/resources/email-friend/?link=media/2013-3-13.asx
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Marriage on the Rock #1
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Marriage on the Rock #2

Lamb, Joni 3/10/2023 introduces her divorced fiance Doug Weiss @ https://www.lightcast.com/embed/player.php?id=33567&type=vod&playlistPos=bottom&width=640&height=710#
@ https://www.daystar.com/shows/jonilamb/

Rafsanjani, Nazanene - Not Your Parents' Parent Trap - Iranian family - radio (secular) autobiography 11/23/2019 @ https://www.thisamericanlife.org/291/reunited-and-it-feels-so-good -
Dad attributes his enlightenment & change due to reading John Gray's book: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Men_Are_from_Mars,_Women_Are_from_Venus -

Savard, Liberty - DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE @ http://www.libertysavard.com/keys_difficult_issues.html +
WHEN IT'S TIME TO STOP STANDING FOR YOUR BROKEN MARRIAGE AND FOCUS ON STANDING FOR GOD'S PLANS AND PURPOSES FOR YOUR LIFE + SOUL TIES FROM FORMER RELATIONSHIPS

Gary Whetstone - http://www.gwwm.com/magazine_article.aspx

Old Testament Scripture

Genesis 1:28 KJVer - God said to them (Adam & Eve), "Be fruitful, multiply and replenish the earth."
Genesis 2:18-25 KJVer - 18God said, "It is not good that man should be alone. I will make him a help meet (helpmate/helper suitable) for him.
19Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field & every fowl of the air. (He) brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. Whatever Adam called every living creature, that was the name.
20Adam gave names to all cattle, fowl of the air, & to every beast of the field.
There was not found a help meet for Adam.
21The Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam & he slept. He took 1 of his ribs & closed up the flesh .
22The rib which the Lord God had taken from man, He made a woman & brought her to the man.
23Adam said, "This is now bone of my bones & flesh of my flesh.
She shall be called woman, as she was taken out of man."
24Therefore shall a man leave his father & his mother & shall cling to his wife. They shall be 1 flesh.
25They were both naked, the man & his wife, & were not ashamed.
Genesis 20:9-12 NKJV Sarah saw the son of Hagar the Egyptian, whom she had born to Abraham, scoffing. Therefore, she said to Abraham, "Cast out this bondwoman & her son; for the son of this bondwoman shall not be heir with my son, mainly with Isaac. The matter was very displeasing in Abraham's sight because of his son.
God said to Abraham, "Do NOT let it be displeasing (an offense) in your sight because of the lad or because of your bondwoman. Whatever Sarah (your mate/prophesied parentage partner) has said to you, listen to her voice; for in Isaac your seed (descendants/heirs) shall be called (both the genetic/blood-line & spiritual/invisible nation of Israel)."
(Spiritual insight: Matthew 19:4-6 KJVer below. Let NO relative create a wedge in your marriage relationship.)
Genesis 38:8-10 KJVer - Judah said to Onan, "Go in to your brother's wife, marry her, & raise up seed (heirs) to (for) your brother. Onan knew that the seed (offspring) should not be his (heirs).
It came to pass when he went in to his brother's wife, that he spilled it (the sperm) on the ground, lest he should give seed (offspring) to his brother. The thing which he did displeased the Lord; therefore He slew him.

Exodus 20:17 - Thou shall not covet (lust/hunger after) thy neighbor's wife.

Deuteronomy 7:3-4 KJVer - Neither shall you make marriages with them (the Gentiles who have other gods). Your daughter you shall not give to his son; nor his daughter shall you take to your son, for they will turn away your son from following Me that they may serve other gods.
The anger of the Lord will be kindled against you & suddenly destroy you.
Deuteronomy 22:30 KJVer -
A man shall not take his father's wife, nor discover (uncover) his father's skirt (nakedness).
Deuteronomy 23:10 KJVer - Any man that is not clean by reason of uncleanness (nocturnal emission/wet dreams) that chances him by night, then shall he go abroad out of the camp. He shall not come inside the camp. When evening comes on, he shall wash himself with water.
When the sun is down, he shall come into the camp again. (Spiritual insight = Man's sperm is sacred to God.)
Deuteronomy 25:5-10 KJVer - 5If brethren dwell together (live as a couple) & 1 of them die & have no child, the wife of the dead shall not marry a stranger.
Her husband's brother shall go in to her, take her as a wife, & perform the duty of a husband.
6The firstborn which she bears shall succeed in the name of his brother who is dead, that his name be not put out of Israel.
7If the man not take (refuses) his brother's wife, then his brother's wife shall come to him in the presence of the elders & say, "My husband's brother refuses to raise up to his brother a name in Israel.
He will not perform the (conjugal) duty of my husband's brother."
8Then the elders of his city shall call & speak to him (to see) if he (continues) to stand to it and say, "I like not to take her."
9Then the brother's wife (may) come to him in the presence of the elders, loose his shoe from off his foot, spit in his face, and say, "So shall it be done to that man who will not build up his brother's house."
10His (blemished) name shall be called (known in) Israel (as), the house of him (the family) that has his shoe (sandal) loosed. the occasion and because of the rain.

Ezra 9:1-2 NIV - 1The leaders came to me (Ezra) and said, "The (exiled/deported) people of Israel, including the priests & the Levites, have not kept themselves separate from the neighboring peoples with their detestable practices, like those of the Canaanites, Hittites, Perizzites, Jebusites, Ammonites, Moabites, Egyptians, & Amorites.
2They have taken some of their daughters as wives for themselves & their sons, & have mingled the holy race with the peoples around them. The leaders and officials have led the way in this unfaithfulness."
(Spiritual insight: Some of these tribes are believed to include the offspring/seed/giants of demons who had relations with women according to Genesis 6:4. Additionally, some authors spiritualize these tribes to represent the 'ites'/sins/demons/ problems in our own lives. The New Testament does remind born-again Judeo-Christians NOT to be unequally yoked with mates who do NOT believe in the Messiah, meaning not to enter into a marriage with an unbeliever; however the New Testament does NOT advocate divorce.)
Ezra 10:2-3 NIV - 2Shecaniah, son of Jehiel, one of the descendants of Elam, said to Ezra, "We have been unfaithful to lour god by marring foreign women from the peoples around us.
But in spite of this, there is still hope for Israel.
3Now let us make a covenant before our God to send away all these women & their children, in accordance with the counsel of my lord & of those who fear the commands of our God.
Let it be done according to the (Torah) Law."
Ezra 10:9-12 NIV - 9All the (Jewish) men of Judah and Benjamin had gathered in Jerusalem.
On the 20th day of the 9th month, all the people were sitting in the square before the (temple/synagogue) house of God, greatly distressed by by the occasion & because of the rain.
10then Ezra the priest stood up & said to them, "You have been unfaithful; you have married foreign women, adding to Israel's guilt. Now make confession to the Lord, the God of your fathers, & do His will.
Separate yourselves from the peoples around you & from your foreign wives."
12The whole assembly responded with a loud voice, "You re right. We must do as you say."

Psalm 55:20-21 KJVer - He has broken his covenant. The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart. His words were softer than oil, yet they were drawn swords (ready to wound).

proverbs/25-24.htm - It's better to live in a corner ~~on the roof~~ (in a basement) than in a house with a contentious/ brawling woman.
[This might b the right time to read the entire book of proverbs/ not to finger point, but to get one�s own self into alignment with God 1^st as each of us has his own soul wounds needing 1^st aid , before addressing family issues.].

Hosea 1:2-3 NKJV - The Lord said to Hosea, "Go take yourself a wife of harlotry and children of harlotry, for the land has committed great harlotry by departing from the Lord." So he went & took Gomer the daughter of Diblaim.
Hosea 2:2-5 NKJV - Bring charges, for she is not (acting as) My wife, nor am I (able to be) her Husband.
Let her put away her harlotries from her sight, & her adulteries from between her breasts; lest I strip her naked and expose her, as in the day she was born, and make her like a wilderness, & set her like a dry land, & slay her with thirst. I will not have mercy on her children, for they are the children of harlotry. Their mother has played the harlot. She who conceived them has behaved shamefully, for she said, 'I will go after my lovers.'
Hosea 2:23 NKJV - (Nevertheless,) I will have mercy on her who had not obtained mercy;
then I will say to those who were not My people (and those who were not acting as My people/bride),
'You are My people!'   They shall say, 'You are my God!'
Hosea 2:16 NKJV - Says the Lord, "In that day you will call Me, 'My Husband,' & no longer call Me, 'My Master.'"
Hosea 2:18 NKJV - In that (coming) day I will make a covenant for them.
Hosea 2:19-20 NKJV  - I will betroth you to Me forever. Yes, I will betroth you to Me in righteousness and justice, in loving kindness and mercy. I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness.
You shall know the Lord. (This is a daily prayer for the observant Jewish man.)
Hosea 3 NKJV - Then the Lord said to me, "Go again, love a woman (Gomer) who is loved by a lover and is committing adultery, just like the love of the Lord for the children of Israel, who look to other gods & love the raisin cakes of the pagans." So I bought her for myself for 15 shekels of silver, & 1.5 homers of barley.
I said to her, "You shall stay with me many days.
You shall not play the harlot, nor shall you have a man - so too, will I be toward you."
For the children of Israel shall abide many days without king or prince, without sacrifice or sacred pillar, without ephod or teraphim. Afterward the children of Israel shall return & seek the Lord their God & David their king.
They shall fear the Lord & His goodness in the latter days. (Spiritual insight: Hosea is commanded to live out as a word picture the love of God towards us His bride & Israel.
Hosea role-played the prophecy of what Jesus Christ would do for the nation of Israel & all who believe in Him. Additionally, Jesus is our role model, example in marriage.)

Malachi 2:13a Amplified - This you do with double guilt.
Malachi 2:13b-14 NIV - You (husband) flood the Lord's altar with tears. You weep and wail because He no longer pays attention to your offerings or accept them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, "Why?"
It is because the Lord is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.
Malachi 2:15-16 Amplified - Did not God make (you and your wife) one (flesh)?
Did not One (God) make you and preserve your spirit alive? Why did God make you two (become) one?
Because He sought a godly offspring (from your union). Therefore, take heed to (of) yourselves.
Let no one deal treacherously and be faithless to the wife of his youth.
The Lord, God of Israel, says, "I hate divorce, marital separation, & he who covers his garment (wife) with violence. Therefore, keep a watch upon your spirit (that it may be controlled by My Spirit), that you deal not treacherously and faithlessly (with your marriage mate).

Tobit 6:18 NAB (Catholic) Do not be afraid, for she was set apart for you before the world existed.
Tobit 7:11 NAB (Catholic) Your marriage to her has been decided in heaven.

New Testament Scriptue

Matthew 1:18 TPNT (The Power New Testament) While His mother Mary was betrothed* (engaged) to Joseph, before they came together she was found to have been made pregnant by the Holy Spirit.
*(Footnote says, "The Jewish marriage began when the ketubah, the marriage contract was signed.
Later the ceremony would be performed and the marriage consummated.
In Jewish law they were married, not betrothed, at the signing of the ketubah.)
Matthew 18:19 NASV - If 2 of you agree on earth abut anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father Who is in heaven.
Matthew 19:4-6 KJVer - He answered, "Have you not read, that He Who made them at the beginning made them male & female and said, 'For this cause shall a man leave father & mother & shall cling to his wife; the 2 shall become 1 flesh?' They are no more 2 but 1 flesh.
What God has joined together, let no man put asunder!"
Matthew 19:8-9 KJVer - 8.He (Jesus) says, "Moses because of the hardness of your hearts permitted you to put away (legally divorce/shrita) your wives; but from the beginning it was not so."
9.I say to you, "Whoever shall put away (legally divorce/shrita) his wife, except for fornication, and shall marry another, commits adultery.
(Additionally,) whoever marries her who is (not legally) put away (undivorced/shvikta/without legal
divorce papers), commits adultery." Healing Scripture Idioms from Aramaic New Testament

Luke 6:37-38 NIV - "Do not judge and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, & you will not be condemned.
Forgive, & you will be forgiven. Give, & it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap; for with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."
Luke 18:4 KJV Everyone who exalts himself shall be abased.

John 2:1-11 KJVer - There was a marriage in Cana of Galilee. The mother of Jesus was there.
Both Jesus & His disciples were called to the marriage.
When they wanted wine, the mother of Jesus said to Him, "They have no wine."
Jesus said, "Woman, what have I to do with you? My hour has not yet come." His mother said to the servants, "Do what He says." There 6 water pots of stone, after the manner of (for the purpose of) purifying the Jews, containing 2-3 firkins (gallons) apiece (each). Jesus said, "Fill the water pots with water." The filled them up to the brim. He said to them, "Draw (it) out now & bear (it) to the governor (manager) of the feast."
They bore (took) it. When the ruler of the feast had tasted the water that was made wine, he knew not where it was (came from). The servants which drew the water knew.
The governor of the feast called the bride-groom saying, "Every man at the beginning sets forth good wine.
When the men have drunk well (a lot), then (he serves) the worse (wine). But you have get the good wine until now (last). This beginning (1st) of miracles Jesus did in Cana of Galilee & manifested forth His glory.
His disciples believed on Him.
John 8:4,7,10-11 KJVer - 4"Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act. Moses in the law commanded that such should be stoned. What do you say?"
7when they continued asking Him, He lifted up Himself and said, "He that is without sin among you, let him 1st cast a stone at her."
10When Jesus had lifted up Himself and saw none but the woman, He said, "Woman, where are your accusers? Has no man condemned you?"
11she said, "No man, Lord." Jesus said, "Neither do I condemn you. Go and sin no more."
John 20:23 NASV - If you forgive the sins of any, their sins have been forgiven.
(However, God forbid) If you retain the sins of any, they have been retained.

Acts 5:1-9 KJVer - A certain man named Ananias with Sapphira his wife sold a possession, kept back part of the price (his wife also being privy to it) brought a certain part, & laid it at the apostles' feet.
Peter said, "Ananias, why has Satan filled your heart to lie to the Holy Ghost to keep back part of the land price? While it remained, was it not your own? After it was sold, was it not in your own power?
Why have you conceived this thing in your heart? You have not lied to men, but to God."
Ananias hearing these words fell down & gave up the ghost (died).
The young men arose, wound him up, carried him out & buried him.
It was about 3 hours after when his wife, not knowing what was done, come in.
Peter answered to (asked) her, "Tell me whether you sold the land for so much?" She said, "Yes."
Peter said, "How is it that you have agreed together (with your mate) to tempt the (Holy) Spirit of the Lord?
Behold, the feet of them who have buried your husband are at the door & shall carry you out (dead too).
Acts 5:29 KJVer - Peter and the other apostles said, "We ought to obey God rather than men."

Romans 1:24,26-28 KJVer - 24God gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts to dishonor their own bodies between themselves.
26God gave them up to vile affections, for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature.
27Likewise, the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another, men with men working that which is unseemly, receiving in themselves that recompense of their error.
28Even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind to do those things which are not convenient.
Romans 3:24-32 KJVer - 24God gave them up to uncleanness through lusts of their own hearts to dishonor their own bodies between themselves...
26for this cause God gave them up to vile affections.
Even their women did change the natural use (of sex) into that which is against nature.
27Likewise men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one (man) toward another.
Men with men working that which is unseemly, receiving in themselves that recompense of their error...
28God gave them over to a reprobate mind to do those things which are not convenient,
29 being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness, full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity, whisperer,
30backbiters, haters of God, spiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
31without understanding, covenant breakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful,
32 who knowing the judgment of God...commit such things worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them.
Romans 14:19 NASV - Let us pursue the things which make for peace & the building up of one another.

1st Corinthians 5:1 KJVer - There is fornication among you. Such fornication (adultery/incest) as is not so much as (even named) among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife.
1st Corinthians 6:17 NASV - One who joins himself to the Lord is one spirit with Him.
1st Corinthians 7 NIV - "It is good for a man not to marry, but since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife & likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone, but also to her husband.
In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone, but also to his wife.
Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
I (Paul) say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all men were as I am.
But each man has his own gift from God. One has this gift. Another has that."
Now to the unmarried & widows, I say, "It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am.
But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry. It is better to marry than to burn with passion."
10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord), "A wife must not separate from her husband.
11If she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband.
A husband must not divorce his wife."
To the rest I say this (I, NOT the Lord), "If any brother has a wife who is not a believer & she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. If a woman has a husband who is not a believer & he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. The unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, & the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean.
As it is; they are holy. If the unbeliever leaves, let him do so.
A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances. God has called us to live in peace.
How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband?
How do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. Was a man already circumcised when he was called (to Jesus)? He should not become circumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised. Circumcision is nothing and un-circumcision is nothing. Keeping God's commands is what counts. Each one should remain in the situation which he was in when God called him. Were you a slave when you were called? Don't let it trouble you; although if you can gain your freedom, do so. He who was a slave when he was called by the Lord is the Lord's freedman. Similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ's slave...You were bought at a price. Do not become slaves of men. Brother, Each man, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation God called him to...Now about virgins. I have no command from the Lord, but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord's mercy is trustworthy. Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for you to remain as you are. Are you married? do not seek a divorce. Are you unmarried? do not look for a wife.
If you do marry, you have not sinned. If a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Those who marry will face many troubles in this life. I want to pare you this. What I mean, brothers, is that the time is short.
From now on those who have wives should live as if they had none. Those who mourn, (live) as if they did not. Those who are happy, (live) as if they were not. Those who buy something, (live) as if they were not theirs to keep. Those who use the things of the world, (live) as if not engrossed in them.
This world in its present form is passing away...I would like you to be free from concern.
An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs - how he can please the Lord. A married man is concerned about the affairs of this world - how he can please his wife. His interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs. Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body & spirit.
A married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world - how she can please her husband.
I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live a in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord. If anyone thinks he is acting improperly toward the virgin he is engaged to, & if she is getting along in years, & he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants.
He is not sinning. They should get married. The man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion, but has control over his own will, & who had made up his mind not to marry the virgin - this man also does the right thing. So then, he who marries the virgin does the right thing, but he who does not marry her does even better.
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. If her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. It is my judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is.
I think that I too have the Spirit of God.
1st Corinthians 11:3 NASV - Christ is (expected by God to be) the head of every man.
1st Corinthians 11:9 KJVer - Neither was the man created for the woman, but the woman for the man.
1st Corinthians 13:1-10 NKJV - 1Though I speak with the tongues of men & of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal.
2Though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge.
Though I have all faith, so that I would remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
3Though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.
4Love suffers long and is kind. Love does not envy. Love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
5does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;
6does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
7bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8Love never fails. Whether there are prophecies, they will fail. Whether there are tongues, they will cease.
Whether there is knowledge, it will vanish.
9We know in part and we prophesy in part,
10When that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.
1st Corinthians 13:13 NIV - These 3 remain: faith, hope & love, but the greatest of these is love.
2nd Corinthians 6:14 KJV - Be not unequally yoked (bound) together (engaged/promised/wed/go steady) with (to) unbelievers. What fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness?
What communion has light with darkness?

Galatians 3:26-28 NASV - For you are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus...
There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free man, male nor female. You are all 1 in Christ Jesus.
Galatians 5:19-21 KJVer - The works of the flesh are manifest, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, reveling, & the like, of which I told you before.
They who do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

Ephesians 4:26-27 KJVer - Be angry and sin not. Do not let the sun down down upon your wrath.
Neither give place to the devil.
Ephesians 4:31-32 KJVer - Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, malice, clamor & evil speaking be put away from you. Be tenderhearted, kind, & forgiving to one another, even as God for Christ's sake has forgiven you.
Ephesians 5:3 KJVer - Fornication, all uncleanness or covetousness be not once named among you.
Ephesians 5:22 KJVer - Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
Ephesians 5:23-33 KJV - The husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church.
He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church & gave Himself 26for it that He might sanctify & cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, that He might present to Himself a glorious church, not having spot (sin),
wrinkle (of the flesh/selfish), or any such thing. I should be holy & without blemish.
28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife loves himself, for no man ever yet hated his own flesh. He nourishes & cherishes it, even as (does) the Lord (nourish and cherish) the church.
We are members of His body, flesh and bones.
For this cause shall a man leave his father & mother & be joined to his wife.
The 2 shall become 1 flesh. This is a great mystery; I speak concerning the church. Nevertheless, let everyone of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; wife see that you reverence your husband.
(Spiritual insight: Marriage is a triangle, with the Lord above as the head.)

Philippians 2:2-4 ASV - Be of the same mind; maintain the same love, united in spirit, intent on 1 purpose.
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself. Do not merely look out for your your own personal interests, but also for the interest of others.
Philippians 3:13-14 NAS - One thing I do - forgetting what lies behind & reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.

1st Thessalonians 4:3 KJVer -
This is the will of God, even your sanctification, that you should abstain from fornication (porneia).

Hebrews 12:15 NIV -
See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble & defile many.
Hebrews 13:4 KJVer -
The undefiled marriage bed is honorable, but whoremongers (fornicators) and adulterers God will judge.

1st Peter 3:7 KJVer - You husbands...give honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, as being hers together of the grace of life, that your prayers be not hindered.

1st John 1:9 KJVer - If we confess our sins, He is faithful & just to forgive our sins
& to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Revelation 22:14-15 KJVer - Blessed are they that do His commandments, that they may have right to the tree of life & may enter in through the gates into the city. Outside are the dogs (sodomites), sorcerers, whoremongers, murderers, idolaters, & whosoever loves & makes a lie (sexual perverts).

Books

Bevere, John - The Bait of Satan - book, audio or DVD - www.johnbebere.org -
Chapter 7 The Sure Foundation shares the author's 5 year marriage struggle & commitment to stay the course, not to divorce, not to be offended, & to allow God to fix his character flaws exposed in the intimacy of marriage.
Running away, escaping, does not allow God the opportunity to increase our spiritual maturity/muscle.

Bubeck, Mark I. - The Adversary - the Christian Versus Demon Activity www.deeperwalkinternational.org/ -
Bubeck implores us to daily pray aggressively for our mates and our marriages, + to pray aloud together.

Carothers, Merlin - Secret Sins - http://www.foundationofpraise.org/secretsins.html

Chapman, Gary D - The 5 Love Languages - book, audio, or CD - www.garychapman.org - If your love tank is full, you can work out any problems. Each person has one of 5 languages as his primary love language, which is the way he/she relates to others. He/she needs to learn his/her mate's primary love language.  Read this Amazon book
Chapman, Gary D - Covenant Marriage: Building Communication & Intimacy - Read this Amazon book
Chapman, Gary D - Now You're Speaking My Language
Subtitle = Honest Communication and Deeper Intimacy for a Stronger Marriage Read this Amazon book

Cho, Rev David Yonggi of Korea   http://english.fgtv.com/drcho/main.asp - http://english.fgtv.com/yfgc.pdf - Books = Successful Home Cell Groups in chapter 2 - God's Reeducation Program says that God explained to Cho, "Think of a marriage...When a man marries a woman, he...loves her & shares his life with her - intimately. That is the kind of relationship you are to have with the Holy Spirit." Chapter 12 Importance of Fellowship with the Holy Spirit shares "that the Holy Spirit is more than the Spirit of being born again, more than the Spirit of power.
He's a person, but a person who lives inside me. To live with a person means to have (daily/continual intimate) fellowship with that person." God also told Cho to make Him #1, self #2, mate #3, children #4, church/ministry/work #5, in that order.
Chapter 13 Motivating Lay Leadership shares that "to have a loving home, the husband & wife need to touch each other very often." Additionally, each mate needs to recognize, appreciate, praise & celebrate the other's accomplishments, at least weekly. Look for the good points and overlook the faults. Cho will not even eat supper without his wife, out of love/deference to her. An appreciated/recognized mate seldom will stray.
Cho, Rev David Yonggi - The 4th Dimension - www.bridgelogos.com publisher
Chapter 3 The Creative Power of the Spoken Word shares how Cho prayed for a couple who decided to divorce, "In the name of Jesus Christ, I command Satan to loose his hold of hatred on this couple.
An in this moment, in the mighty name of Jesus Christ I command that these 2 be melted together.
Let them be tender & rejoined."
Just prior to this Cho had visualized the couple reunited and in love, through the cross of Jesus Christ, by the help of the Holy Spirit. He prayed, "Oh, God, make it like that." The Holy Spirit did knit the marriage back together.

Crosse, Clay - I Surrender All Clay and Renee Crosse: Broken by pornography (9/11/05)

D'Andrea, Molly - Set Free - www.setfreeif.org - Chapter 12 Betrayed by Man, Restored by God shares a mate's challenge, "Enough is enough. Satan wants to destroy our family & I am not going to let him do it...
You are my husband until death. That's final." Yes, she won.

Davisson, Joel and Kathy - The Man of Her Dreams The Woman of His

DeMoss, Bob, and Rainey - Rekindling the Romance - Loving the Love of Your Life # 0785285563

Dickerman, Don - When Pigs Move In - http://www.dondickerman.net - Dickerman in Appendix lists 37 Biblical Curses, Grouping of Various Evil Spirits by function/assignment, and 60 Symptoms of Demonic Attack.
Chapter 4 How Do Demons Access Believers? "Sex outside of (or before) marriage cannot only open doors for demons, but it can also create a soul tie that gives them permission to stay until that curse is broken." This soul tie affects the individual, his mate, plus his seed, until broken, because it concerns both a demon and a curse."

Eggerich, Emmerson & Sarah - chapter 1 - http://www.amazon.com/Love-Respect-Desires-Desperately-Needs/dp/1594153205#reader_1594153205 - http://loveandrespect.com/ - http://emersonandsarah.blogspot.com/

Ferrell, Ana - Seated in Heavenly Places - www.voiceofthelight.com - Chapter 4 Christ a Kingdom of Love
Section A Trip Inside the Heart of God - "He who perverts the marriage bed, touches the holy of holies."
Section The Spouse of Christ - "Jesus...greatest manifestation is as 'Groom'...to become His spouse...entering into a covenant and marital unity with Him...now, as we are alive on earth...When we get married on earth we become 'one flesh.' When we get married to Jesus, we become '1 Spirit'...We don't see a wedding ceremony in Revelation Chapter 19, but a supper...the communion table in which we partake of His flesh & His blood.
As we partake of these elements, the fusion takes place between His Spirit & ours....
There are different levels of relationship with the Lord...of a son...of servant...of the bride...
His 'bride' is not seeking inheritance or rewards or position or fame; she wants Him...
This is His cry, 'That they all may be 1, as Thou, Father art in Me and I in Thee.'
John 17:21...This is what fills My heart with fullness, the true and sincere worship of My beloved'...
It is to the bride that the intimate secrets of the Groom are revealed...
This kind of love kills (self)...It costs to truly love...'I am choosing from among My people those who will be My bride...& I am going to transfigure Myself into them...because I honor those who honor Me....and are (not) more afraid of man than of Me.'"

Feldhahn, Shaunti - For Women Only - www.family.org/resources/itempg.cfm?itemid=5151 - Intimacy issues.

Francis, John & Penny - What Do You Do When You�re Left Alone? - www.johnfrancis.org.uk/biography.html
Ruach Ministries, 122 Brixton Hill, London, SW2 1RS, UK (England)

Francis, John & Penny - John's wife shares her insight on how the Jewish prayer shawl relates to prayer.
Bishop Francis 2006 TV appearance with Benny Hinn

Garlington, Joseph - Right or Reconciled: God's Heart for Reconciliation

Gedamu, Rabbi Kokeb - After the Honeymoon - http://www.hoisrael.org/After%20The%20Honeymoon_C.pdf

Gray, John - Mars and Venus on a Date - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John - Mars and Venus in Love - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John - Mars and Venus - Connecting with Your Soul-Mate - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John - Mars and Venus in the Bedroom - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John - Mars and Venus Together Forever - Understanding the Cycles of Intimacy - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John - Men are from Mars - Women are from Venus - A Guide to Lasting Romance and Passion - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John & Amen, Daniel G -
The Mars & Venus Diet & Exercise Solution - Crease the Brain Chemistry of Health, Happiness & Lasting Romance
Gray, John - What You Feel, You Can Heal - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John - A Guide to Enriching Relationships - A guide to communication - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John - Practical Miracles for Mars & Venus - 9 Principles for Lasting Love, Increasing Success & Vibrant Health in the 21st Century - www.marsvenus.com
1 - Believe - as if miracles are possible.
2 - Live - as if you are free to do what you want.
3 - Learn - as if you are a beginner.
4 - Love - as if for the 1st time.
5 - Give - as if you already have what you need.
6 - Work - as if money does not matter.
7 - Relax - as if everything will be OK.
8 - Talk to God - as if you are being heard.
9 - Feast - as if you can have whatever you want.
Gray, John - Mars and Venus Starting Over - www.marsvenus.com

Hagin, Kenneth E (senior) - Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage @ www.rhema.org
13 page print out Read an Excerpt or a man to whom God spoke personally on numerous occasions.
If still available, find @ http://www.faithlibrary.com/resources/bm536_exerpt.pdf

Hammond, Frank D - The Marriage Bed - www.thechildrensbread.net - Webster's dictionary definition of sodomy is "carnal copulation with a member of the same sex or animal, or unnatural carnal copulation with the member of the opposite sex". Marital oral or anal sex can be an open door to lesbianism or homosexuality & to the spreading of sexually transmitted disease such as herpes. There are oral sex and lesbian spirits.
Hammond, Frank & Ida Mae - Kingdom Living for the Family - www.thechildrensbread.net -
A wrong reaction is a wrong action. When a husband reacts wrongly to his wife, then he also has a problem.
We cannot justify our own sin, because another has done wrong.

Harley, Dr. Willard, Christian psychologist, marriage counselor, and co-author of Surviving an Affair - www.marriagebuilders.com - http://www.cbn.com/family/marriage/affairproof.aspx
Harley, Dr. Willard His Needs Her Needs - Building an Affair Free Marriage -
Chapter 1 - How Affair Proof is Your Marriage?
Chapter 2 - Why Your Love Bank Never Closes http://www.worldcat.org/wcpa/servlet/DCARead?standardNo
=0800717880&standardNoType=1&excerpt=true (Copyright � 2001 by Willard F. Harley, Jr.. Excerpted by permission.
All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
Excerpts are provided by Dial-A-Book Inc.solely for the personal use of visitors to this web site.)
Harley, Dr. Willard - Cultivating Affection in Your Marriage - http://www.textfiles.com/sex/affectio.txt (Material is excerpted from Dr. Harley's book HIS NEEDS, HER NEEDS (c)1986 by William F. Harley Jr., and was used with permission of Fleming H. Revell Company)
Harley, Dr. Willard - Can't We Just Forgive and Forget? Dr. Harley requires "just compensation" + forgiveness for adultery. http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5042_qa.html or printer version

Hayes, Norvel - How to Live and NOT Die - www.nhm.cc - Chapter 13 Be the Head of Your House "When you're married, you can get a healing for your husband or wife, because the 2 of you are 1...The Lord spoke to me (Norvel) and said, 'Mark 11:23 will heal him (the husband) if it was obeyed'...The way to get the Holy Spirit to perform Mark 11:23 is to quote it. It says, 'You can have what you say'...'Believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have what-soever he saith. Mark 11:23. (Norvel instructed the wife,) 'Sit here and obey it. Look at your husband straight and say, "My husband will live and not die, in Jesus' name. My husband will live and not die, in Jesus' name." Say it strongly all the time...Don't stop saying it, and he will live and not die'...That's what I call attending to God's Word and NOT letting it depart from your eyes. (Proverbs 4:20-22)...WHEN you CONFESS God's Word, it WILL be performed by the Holy Spirit." Indeed, the husband did recover, to the doctors' surprise.

Hegstrom, Paul - Broken Children, Grown Up Pain - Understanding the Effects of Your Wounded Past www.lifeskillsinstl.org - Chapter 7 I'm Single, On My Own - Is This All There Is? "God showed me that I had to identify my needs, so that the people in my live would have a 'finish line'." Clearly define "a need and then identify whether that need can be met by ourselves, our partners, or jointly. By establishing a finish line, we can face the need as a couple...
We can also bring them to God...determining a finishing line for our need is crucial."

Hill, Craig - 2 Fleas - No Dog - Transform Your Marriage from Fleadom to Freedom - http://www.familyfoundations.com/ - Littleton, Colorado, USA - Covenant weekends or functions - http://www.familyfoundations.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=category&layout=blog&id=45&Itemid=140&lang=en
in your area http://www.familyfoundations.com/index.php?option=com_wrapper&view=wrapper&Itemid=195&lang=en

Hinson, Michael - To Heal the Heart - Live Life to the Fullest - www.tohealtheheart.com www.hinsonministries.com
Chapter 9 The Truth about Covenants In addition to the Passover covenant, Hinson contends there are only 3 blood covenants - (1) Old Testament covenant sealed with circumcision (and regular sacramental blood sacrifices), (2) New Testament covenant sealed with the blood of Christ on the cross (and regular sacramental wine/communion), (3) and the marriage contract (sealed with the hymen being torn during intercourse). The marriage contract is the only one representing the union between Christ and His bride. Matthew 19:4-6 NIV "Haven't you read, that at the beginning, the Creator made them male and female and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife; the 2 will become 1 flesh'? So they are no longer 2, but 1. Therefore, what God has joined together, let man not separate." 1st Corinthians 6:16 "Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The 2 will become 1 flesh." Any sexual violation of the marriage contract results in harm to 3+ people. Because sexual intercourse/intimacy results in 2 becoming 1 flesh, violation of the marriage contract can result in sexually transmitted disease, demons (nightmares/fears/ terrors) being transferred, and even stronghold (character defects/new traits not normal to your own previous identity/hang-ups) transference between individuals; the same issues/ dangers that one would have with a blood transfusion or organ transplant.

Jefferson, MB of Tampa, Florida - And They Shall Become One - www.mbministries.org

Keesee, Gary - The Best of the Marriage Makeover - www.fflc.info www.faithlifechurch.org Family of Faith Open Bible Church, New Albany, Ohio, USA

Kelley, Earthquake - Order book #1122 "Bound to Lose, Destined to Win" http://earthquakekelleyministries.org/books/ - Chapter 2 - A Curse of Voodoo - There are "names and assigned duties of the spirits that attach themselves to people
who engage in sexual relationships outside of marriage." "Erzulie" is "the main principality that rules over any king of sexual perversion...Some voodoo practitioners pray to this spirit, beat drums, go into a trance, and have sexual relations with people all night long - and sometimes all week long." "The Fox spirit...causes separation and division."
Chapter 4 A Trip to Hell - "My pastor finally said to me, 'You don't have to stay with a woman who is committing adultery, living with another man, and trying to have you killed every other week. If she doesn't kill you with a gun, she's going to kill you with a disease. You are biblically free to divorce the woman.'"

Klaus, Rita - Rita's Story - Paraclete Press - Chapter 19 Pieces shares priestly counsel. "I really doubt the (religious) vows you made were even valid. 18 is too young for a person to make such a commitment. That's why we've closed most of our minor seminaries (for the clergy) and why we do not encourage our young people to marry at that age. They simply do not have the wisdom to make a responsible decision that will affect the rest of their lives."

Ladas, Whipple, and Perry - The G Spot and Other Discoveries About Sexuality - www.amazon.com - A secular book recommended for those who feel there is a sexual dysfunction in their physical relationships or in their own body (perhaps due to such as birth control, menopause or other hormone issues). Especially recommended for women. Book explains both the clitoris/vulval and vagina/uterine organisms, the female ejaculation, plus both the male penis and prostate erotic arousal areas. Sexuality issues are presented as neutral/optional in this and many textbooks. One area of concern is imagery/fantasy, which can lead Christians into demonic sexual spirit interference/molestation/kidnapping of thought, thought life sin - pornography/adultery/fornication/digging up the past, plus self gratification rather than mate gratification. Achieving an organism through self gratification can violate the sexual partner. One also needs to take into consideration sexually transmitted diseases from the mate's mouth being in the partner's private areas (vagina/anus) or penis in another's mouth, plus the danger of disease (cancer/aids/HIV) from having anal sex.

Lew, Mike - Victims No Longer - Men Recovering from Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse - Mike Lew is a secular psychotherapist, co-director of The Next Step Counseling and Training Center, Newton Centre, Massachusetts, USA

Madison, Richard - Raised from the Dead - www.rickmadison.org - Chapter 9 Dreams and Visions "The Lord gave me a dream of my wife before we were married...She came up to me and told me that God had revealed to her that we would
be married." (Never jump into a marriage. WAIT on the Lord's direction! Of supreme significance in one's life is 1st one's consecration to Christ, followed by one's consecration to his/her mate. When 2 become 1 flesh, it is actually all past sexual partners becoming 1 flesh, for beginners.)

MacNutt, Francis - Deliverance from Evil Spirits - www.christianhealingmin.org
Chapter 8 Curse-like Judgments and Ties that Bind section Sexual Ties insist that premarital counseling (pre-cana classes) needs to incorporate repentance, rejection, and breaking of each premarital full sexual/physical/psychological relationship/ bond/tie. Pray to be set free of all past lovers; pray for God to bless them. Then pray for God's Holy Spirit to bless you individually and to bless your marriage. 1st Corinthians 6:16 KJV - "Do you not know that he who (fornicates/commits adultery) is joined to a harlot (prostitute) is 1 body with her. 'The 2,' He says, 'shall become 1 flesh.'" MacNutt cites Tommy Tyson stating that Jesus needs to sever each previous sexual liaison, or a permanent bond will remain until it is broken by some sort of deliverance prayer. These uncut bonds will create spiritual confusion and marriage bedfellows.
Chapter 11 Selecting a Team notes that the example of Billy Graham is imperative. He never allows himself to be alone in a room with a woman, other than his wife. Spirits of lust find much opportunity in a demonized person who needs ministry.

Meyer, Joyce - Walking in Love - book or audio - www.joycemeyer.org - THE TRIUMPHANT MARRIAGE - Joyce Meyer Ministries or
http://www.jmmindia.org/JMMSITE/jmm/ministries/Teaching%20Notes/TN35%20-%20THE%20TRIUMPHANT%20MARRIAGE.pdf

Meisner, Bob and Audrey - Marriage Under Cover - book/CD/DVD - www.bobandaudrey.com - Autobiography of pastor's wife who did not have any boundaries due to her need for danger and self worth, committed adultery which resulted in a pregnancy, and was forgiven and rescued by her husband. They both learned how to view themselves and each other through God's eyes...Often we do not forgive ourselves, after God has forgiven us, the first time we asked. Additionally we often do not accept God's forgiveness. 5/21-22/2006 www.daystar.com/joni

Omartian, Stormie - The Power of a Praying Husband - www.harvesthousepublishers.com
Omartian, Stormie - The Power of a Praying Wife - www.harvesthousepublishers.com

Prince, Derek - The Marriage Covenant - www.derekprince.com
Prince, Derek - God is a Matchmaker - (for singles) www.derekprince.com - Shares that God chose Ruth for Derek's mate.
Look inside book @ http://www.amazon.com/God-Matchmaker-Derek-Prince/dp/0800790588#reader_0800790588
Prince, Derek - Rules of Engagement - www.derekprince.com - Prince illustrates our oneness with the Holy Spirit to our marriage. It is not what we do, but who/Who we are married to that affects our relationship/fruit.
Chapter 16 Angelic Intervention in Human Lives warns wives. "The woman ought to have a symbol of authority on her head (in church), because of the (nephilim/fallen) angels (evil spirits who rape wives and daughters)." 1st Corinthians 11:10
Note. The Jewish community wear skull caps to synagogue, as do a number of Catholic clergy, showing that God is their covering, as is a husband/dad the covering to a woman. Refer to 1st Corinthians 11:3 The head of every man is Christ, the (spiritual) head of every woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.

Rainey, Dennis & Barbara - Moments Together for Couples - Devotions for Drawing Near to God & One Another - www.familylife.com - Excellent for couples contemplating separation/divorce.
This is a daily devotional, designed for couples. Similar to the Upper Room devotional. Quick read. Sampling =
Day 24 Believing the Lie "He commented, 'He's believing the lie (thought from Satan).
He thinks that the most important thing is to feel good. But what really feels good is working through the problems.'"
Rainey, Dennis & Barbara - The Cord of 3 Strands Is Not Quickly Broken - You, me and God.
Radio broadcasts - http://www.familylife.com/site/c.dnJHKLNnFoG/b.3843443//
Troubled Marriage - http://www.familylife.com/site/c.dnJHKLNnFoG/b.3204389/
Healthy Marriage - http://www.familylife.com/site/c.dnJHKLNnFoG/b.3204381/
Romance & Sex - http://www.familylife.com/site/c.dnJHKLNnFoG/b.3204387/
Rainey, Dennis - http://www.familylife.com/site/c.dnJHKLNnFoG/b.3812891/

Roberson, Dave - Dave Robertson Ministries, Tulsa, Oklahoma, USA - The Walk of the Spirit - The Walk of Power http://www.daveroberson.org/ - [PDF] The Walk of the Spirit � The Walk of Power - www.daveroberson.org/Portals/0/WOSWOP.pdf + Printer Friendly Version - Book is for personal NOT commercial use.
Is copyrighted. - 6/12-16/2006 RADIO @ www.sidroth.org
Chapter 10 Purging and Mortification reminds us that without the Holy Spirit exposing and pulling out the marriage root issues/problems, no counselor and no heroic effort on the part of either mate will solve a marriage problem. Consistently praying in tongues allows the Holy Spirit to get at those root problems. (Dave believes that the heavenly tongues language is available to every believer when he is prayed over for the baptism of the Holy Spirit, immediately after he has received/accepted Jesus as his personal savior/Lord.)
Chapter 15 The Divine Progression to Agape Love - warns/reminds us that love is NOT a feeling or attitude, but a commitment

Roberts, Oral - When You See the Invisible, You Can do the Impossible - www.orm.cc - Chapter 11 Seven Keys I Learned for a Successful Marriage shares that the most excellent way is to wait/look for God's first choice of a mate -
There is no substitute for marrying in God's will.
Marry in God's time.
Marry for life (a born-again, spirit filled mate).
Practice sex often (instead of grabbing a beer, grab your wife!)
Pray (in tongues/interpretation) together.
Read scripture together.
Never place self in the path of temptation.
Communicate.
Roberts, Evelyn (Mrs. Oral Roberts) - His Darling Wife, Evelyn - www.orm.cc

Rooks, Linda W - Broken Heart on Hold - Surviving Separation - www.cookministries.com/lifejourney - www.kingsway.co.uk - Useful for either mate/sex during marriage separation. Book points out that there are usually 2 sides to what/whose personality problems contribute to a separation. Separation/ time-out is a good time/opportunity to grow up emotionally, spiritually, financially, etc. If I am a fat slob, then now is a perfect time to do something about it. For beginners, mow that lawn instead of hiring/asking/expecting someone else to do it for you. Exercise helps with depression, finances, and fat elimination.

Savard, Liberty - Now, It's Time to Begin Producing the Promise http://www.libertysavard.com - Savard's doctrine contends that the majority of our failures are due to me/myself/I, the soul/old self/nature. Per Chapter 7 Casting Off Soul Power and Soul Ties, Savard is a disciple of Watchman Nee, who teaches on soul and spirit (where the human soul has much latent parapsychology power and can falsify the Holy Spirit). Savard does apply the principle of loosing problems and binding blessings. In the area of marriage she warns of the dangers of soul ties to one's mate and children. Soul ties are an unhealthy attempt to meet/fix unmet needs rather than relying on God to meet/heal those needs. It can also be an attempt to control/fix/rule another. Savard includes a few loosing/binding prayers to help remedy these issues.

Shu Zen Duan, Irene - Our God is Real - Testimonies from My Life - Family tales from China - Section 1 Women in Old China Part 3 No Freedom in Marriage notes that on the wedding night "when the guests and relatives left. Only then the groom could take off her veil. At that moment, in some cases, the bride discovered her husband was physically handicapped, mentally retarded or a little body who was 10 - 15 years younger than her, and she became his baby sitter...On the night of the wedding, the bride (sometimes) discovered her husband was a piece of wood with his name carved on it...The woman would be (thus condemned to) living as widow her whole life.."

Sumrall, Lester - Two become one: A Christian wedding celebration - www.sumrallpublications.com
Sumrall, Lester - The Mystery of Immortality - www.sumrallpublications.com - Chapter 3 Why Is Adultery Involved in Immortality? - "Adultery or any immoral perversion touches the fountain of life and corrupts it...
God finds it difficult to forgive him, and his fellow man finds it nearly impossible (even generations after)...Because of this (or any other immoral sexual) sin...there are millions...who are deformed and insane, who possess strange lusts that no psychiatrist can understand...Repentance and conversion restores (the sinner to God)."
"Angels cannot produce children (nor)...angels. This (procreation) privilege is so sacred to God that the person who violates this great principle of immortality becomes a marked person. [Begetting immortality means that the offspring a couple creates will live forever in heaven with God (or forever in hell with Satan, if they do not repent for their own and their family sins, and if they do not accept Yeshua as savior and lord). This ability to create immortal beings is one aspect of divinity granted to men and women - not to angels.]

Thomas, C - Making Your Marriage a Love Story - Read this Amazon book

Walters, Kathie - Columba - The Celtic Dove - www.goodnews.netministries.org - Part 2 - Miracles - Irish Catholic Saint Columba was beseeched by a Rechrean island peasant to pray for his marriage, as the wife would not consent to being intimate with him. Columba entreated the wife, "Why, woman, do you try to drive your own flesh away from you, when the Lord says, 'They 2 shall be 1 flesh?'...That (legal/physical/sexual separation of) which you speak cannot rightly be done, for you are bound by the law (marriage/religious contracts you signed) to your husband as long as he lives. For those whom God has lawfully joined, it is a sin to separate.' Having said this, he added, 'This day let us 3 pray and fast to the Lord.'" Subsequently she testified, "'Your prayer to God for me is heard, for him whom I hated yesterday, I love today, for my heart this night past has been changed.'" per Book 2, chapter 42 of Medieval sourcebook - Adamnan's Life of St Columba - http://www.fordham.edu/halsall/basis/columba-e.html

Weiss, Doug of Santa Ana, California, USA - Intimacy - www.winning@marriage.com
Weiss, Doug - Weekly Newsletters - http://www.winningatmarriage.com/

Articles/Editorials/Newsletters/Periodicals/Transcripts

Bevere, Lisa - http://www.cfaith.com/index.php/index.php/article-display?id=27245 - The Power of Forgiveness (in marriage) @ Joel Osteen Ministries http://www.cfaith.com/index.php
"At the time, I didn�t understand how important it was for me to forgive John.
I later realized that my bitterness toward my husband was warring against his ability to change, for Jesus said, 'If you forgive anyone�s sins, they are forgiven. If you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.' (John 20:23)"

Boardman, LS - http://www.enterhisrest.org/articles/divorce_remarriage.pdf

Brown, Rebecca - http://www.harvestwarriors.com/newsletters/July%20and%20August%202004%20-%20Ghosts%20from%20the%20Past.pdf - "In the case of sexual sin or molestation, rape, etc., the scripture says that the '2 become one flesh.' There is a joining of the 2 people through sex. I do not know what to call it, some people call it a 'soul-tie.' Since I have been married, I think this joining goes even deeper than that. This tie needs to be broken. So, for every person with whom you have sinned sexually, been molested or raped by, or were married to and then divorced, you need to pray like this:
Prayer: Father, in the name of Jesus, I now ask you to totally sever between me and ________ (give the name), body, soul, and spirit. I ask you for it, and thank you for it.
** Marriage also involves the complete union of 2 people. There is no sin in the sexual relations of marriage, but demons are free to pass from one person to another. Thus, you need to cleanse yourself from this possible source of demons and then ask the Lord to seal you so that you can no longer receive demons from this source. If you have been married and then divorced, you need also to command any demons out that came into you through previous marriages. Pray and command as follows: Prayer: Father, in the name of Jesus,
I ask you to completely cleanse me from any uncleanness in my marriage bed. I stand on your promise, and ask you to sanctify my marriage bed and seal me so that I can never again receive any spirits from my spouse. I thank you for it.
Command: In the name of Jesus Christ, I command any demons that came into my life through my sexual relations with my spouse to get out right now and forever.
** In the case of those who have been involved in homosexual relationships of any sort, they need to pray fervently asking the Lord to literally recreate their minds. Romans 1:2628 tells us that when people become involved in homosexual sin, that God literally gives them a 'debased mind.' This is a mind that is only capable of thinking evil and depraved and sinful thoughts all the time. God does (allows) this, so only God can change it. It is vitally important that after cleansing their life, anyone coming out of this particular area of sin seek the Lord to give them a new mind, and that they assist in that process through saturating their life with scripture memory and praise and worship."

Eggerichs, Emerson and Sarah - http://loveandrespect.com/blog/ - 3 Ways to Murder Your Marriage + Disrespect 2015

Haywood, Leilani - Did You Marry the Wrong Guy? by Leilani Haywood - "The Lord revealed the agenda in my heart that was a stumbling block to our becoming one. He assured me that I had married the right person. I just needed to get rid of the agenda and become the right person for him. The Lord made it clear that my attitude toward Jerome would either facilitate the move of God in our marriage or shut it out. I decided to give up my hidden agenda and concentrate on being the right mate for him. As I shifted my focus from Jerome's becoming what I thought God had called him to be to my becoming who God wanted me to be, my husband and I have become best friends" 2/25/2016

J. John - http://www.philotrust.com/blog/category/articles - Kings Gate Community Church, 2 Staplee Way, Parnwell, Peterborough, ENGLAND PE1 4YT

Daniel Olukoya - The Soul Traders - (CAUTION. Invite the Holy Spirit to counsel your insights.) "Soul traders are those who buy and sell the souls of men."
Ezekiel 13:18 says, 'Say, Thus saith the Lord God; Woe to the women that sew pillows to all armholes, and mak Read Full Sermon - WAYS to RECOGNIZE THOSE WHOSE SOULS (may) HAVE BEEN TRADED OFF:
5. If you discover that you have a double personality or unpredictable personality traits, or you walk about feeling lifeless as if all your energy have been drained off, or you are married but cannot detach your mind from your former girlfriend or boyfriend. Then your soul (possibly) has been traded off.
6. When you discover that your mind cannot focus on one thing for a long time, and you also find it difficult to concentrate in thinking through solutions to a problem without digressing, or in your dream you always see 2-3 people, or somebody looking exactly like your figure just starring at you....
When a person�s (soul:) real emotion and intellect are polluted, he has a great problem.
That is why you find some zombie (robot) wives and husbands who can hardly take independent decisions.
Their (fragmented/fractured) souls (soul pieces) need to be called back and healed completely through the divine intervention of the Lord Jesus Christ.
Dr. D. K. Olukoya - http://www.amazon.com/The-Deep-Truth-About-Marriage-ebook/dp/B009GSX0WM/ref=pd_sim_kstore_76?ie=UTF8&refRID=0999EKA2DJ1YK0SPMZCK#reader_B009GSX0WM
Read Chapter 1 online regarding adultery.

Proverbs 5 and 7 NASB "describe the portal to Hell is illustrated by a wicked adulterous woman (or man) who is very cunning and tempting." http://earlymorningmanna.com/blasts/11qYesJu3R/11Apr01.html
⁵Her feet ^(J)go down to death, Her (or his) steps take hold of Sheol. http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Proverbs%205,7;&version=NASB;

Savard, Liberty - http://www.libertysavard.com/keys_difficult_issues.html

The Epoch Times 12/12-18/05 editorial Love Hurts? So Does a Wounded Marriage from Chicago Reuters news cites a December Archives of General Psychiatry report that fighting weakens both mate's immune systems by triggering the white blood cells to increase production of protein proinflammatory cytokines, which can contribute to early healing,
but can also trigger/contribute to age-related disease (cardiovascular, osteoporosis, arthritis, depression). www.epochtimes.com

The Boston Herald - 4/14/2007 - www.betsyhart.net shares that studies have rediscovered that the more women friends a wife has the less need a wife has to depend on the emotional support of her mate. This female mentoring can reduce the neediness of a wife. (Obviously, this was the typical lifestyle for centuries before modernization, independency and self sufficiency. Many tribal cultures still operate this way as well as some religious lifestyles.) Men on the other hand were not found to significantly benefit emotionally (in regards to their marriages) from this degree/type of male comradeship.

Watson, Wilma - http://ydyc.org/tips-for-marriage-success/ - Were any of the 12 apostles married? Yes. Peter was a married man per Matthew 8:14, 4:18. - http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Were_the_twelve_apostles_from_the_12_tribes_of_israel - NO

Radio/CD/DVD

Rebecca Brown - Prepare for War - www.harvestwarriors.com -
Chapter 15 The Double Minded Man teaches mates to declare in the NAME of JESUS and to:
(1) anoint mate with olive oil
(2) command any demons of inheritance to leave
(3) close and seal with blood of Jesus all doorways in which demons entered.
This approach may be needed when couple is aware that mate has same negative characteristics as does parent/ancestor.
The results can be instantaneous. Can also anoint descendents/grandchildren/children.

Dobbins, Dr Richard - (Christian psychiatrist, Naples, Florida, USA) - http://www.drdobbins.com -

Dr. Dobson Husbands and Wives - 2 Therapists Talk About Pornography
Focus on the Family - RADIO www.family.org/married/perspectives/aoo30345.cfm
AUDIO at http://www.drdobbins.com/products.asp?CatID=55
RADIO https://www.dobsonlibrary.com/resource/audio/93a52a7b-4302-4f68-8751-77e7d69cd68a
from https://www.dobsonlibrary.com/resources/marriage/
from https://www.dobsonlibrary.com/

Feldhahn, Shaunti - What Women Should Know About Men - radio/CD www.family.org/resources/itempg.cfm?itemid=5238

Frankena, Martin - Free Indeed - Healing & Deliverance seminar CD 4/21/2007 session 2 - www.revivalconnections.org
Emphasis on spiritually terminating/cutting/loosing unholy soul ties, especially from each prior sexual relationship prior to marriage. Each sexual relationship is a covenant relationship, legal or not, right or wrong. It is a spiritual law that the 2 become 1 flesh during intercourse. That is why it is imperative for each person to repent and put under the blood of Christ all prior relationships, especially those forbidden by God in the Bible. Ask God to remove permanently from you anything deposited from another during any/each prior relationship. Never recite pornographic details; God already knows the particulars. Ask God to redeposit [back into you (or if bad then under the feet of Jesus)] anything taken from you during any prior relationship. It might be innocence, virginity, trust, freedom to love, which one can name, if one is aware. Such transparency/repentance/prayers/ proclamations free one to pursue intimacy in his/her marriage. One can also pray for God to bless his/her marriage.

Gray, John - Mars and Venus on a Date - audio/video - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John - Men, Women & Relationships - audio - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John - Mars and Venus in Love - audio - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John - Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Book of Days - audio - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John - Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus - video - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John - Mars and Venus in the Bedroom - video - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John - Mars and Venus Together Forever - video - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John - What You Feel, You Can Heal - audio - www.marsvenus.com
Gray, John - Mars and Venus Starting Over - audio/video - www.marsvenus.com

Griffith, Theresa - Lover of My Soul - music CD - www.somebodycaresministries.org
God did allow her to remarry after 25 years of verbal abuse.
God gave her a supernatural gift of playing various flutes.
She plays them like one would speak in tongues - through the Holy Spirit.
She also downloads songs from heaven which she sings to the wounded.
Both ways she ministers healing to many.
Both mental and physical wounds are super-naturally removed by Jesus as she ministers to individuals. Even special needs children are ministered to through her music in the school room setting. Milking cows are known to be calmer during Mozart concerts, so likely Theresa's music would calm them also.
Griffith-Hulbert, Jeff and Theresa - 1/29/2007-2/11/2007 http://www.sidroth.org/tvbroadcasts.htm

BECOMING ONE FLESH - CD - http://www.revival.com/www/r.aspx - Rodney Howard-Browne Ministry

Jakes, TD - Fighting Back from Fight for the Family - audio - Dallas Texas - www.tdjakes.org - TD Jakes contends that there is a "spirit of di-vision" (loss of vision) and implies there may also be a "spirit of dis-couragement" (loss of courage).
Jakes, TD - The Sell Breaker - 8/8/2007 TV broadcast - https://tdjakes.org/ -
The Spellbreaker DVD # DV-0802 - The Spellbreaker CD # CD-0802 - Teaching and prayer for the breaking off of family curses, including curses into which one marries. Highly recommended.

MacNutt, Francis - Deepening Marriage Relationships - (2003) - CD - Healing of Relationships - (1990) - CD

Tolleson, Kathleen - 1 hr DVD - Restoring Sexuality - http://stores.rtfresources.org/-strse-155/Restoring-Sexuality/Detail.bok - "You can be healed from sexual abuse, pornography addiction, sexual addiction, sexual deviance and frigidity." http://rtfi.org/?q=content/about-us

Weiss, Douglas - Intimacy; A 100 Day Guide to Lasting Relationships - http://www.drdougweiss.com - One of the major purposes of marriage is to make a couple/individual into the image of God; do not be surprised at the conflict/friction between so many couples who appear to be unlike/opposite to each other.

Whetstone, Dr Gary V - What God Has Jointed Together - God's Plan for a Fulfilled Marriage - www.gwwm.com - CD with booklet showing back up scripture

Wright, Henry - 11/2005 audio Sid Roth radio broadcast - www.sidroth.org/radio - Georgia, USA - According to Romans 8:3 God sent His own Son for sin offering; He condemned sin in the flesh. Sin infects the spirit, the mind and the body. In the body sin manifests as disease/illness/infirmity. When a wife is not covered by her husband or a child is not protected by his parent, the unprotected person may unwittingly take on the husband's/parent's sin/abuse/condemnation/rejection into his own body/flesh and thus acquire a disease. This is often seen in fibromyalgia.
Wright in his book - A More Excellent Way - www.pleasantvalleychurch.net - shares that the remedy is to repent of the taking on/owning/internalizing/accepting of another's sin/mistake/failure/omission/negligence + to reject the sin/disease/ infirmity, in the name of Jesus. One can even do this silently during communion at church. God desired only one human to take on another's sins in His flesh; yes, it was His son Jesus.

Internet

Anderson, Neil T + Mylander, Charles Experiencing Christ Together - Finding Freedom & Fulfillment in Marriage
RADIO - http://www.oneplace.com/ministries/Songtime/archives.asp?bcd=2007-5-1
Anderson shares concept that marriage does not necessarily fix/solve a problem, but rather expose it!
Read an excerpt Hear Neil Anderson on Experiencing Christ compliments http://www.gospellight.com
Anderson is founder of Freedom In Christ Ministries http://www.ficm.org/newsite/index.php
and president of Discipleship Counseling Ministries http://discipleshipcounselingministries.org/

Bevere, John & Lisa - http://sidroth.org/television/tv-archives/john-lisa-bevere?src=weeklybroadcastemail_062915 6/29/2015

Mel Bond - Discerning of Spirits - 8/30-31/2010 9/3/2010 - TV Broadcast (edited) http://www.sidroth.org/site/News2?abbr=tv_&page=NewsArticle&id=9519 + transcript - http://www.sidroth.org/site/DocServer/IS567Transcript_Bond.pdf?docID=2861 -
"In the middle of the night because I heard some footsteps in my house. They started walking down the hallway. They walked into the bedroom. I jumped up and started swinging at them with my fist to protect my household. They just began to laugh. It was pretty obvious that these were spirits, even though it was in living color.
They looked like they were physical. So immediately faster than machine gun bullets the Lord spoke to me & said, 'Mel, this person that you�ve praying for that has a problem with adultery, has a problem with alcohol that.'
I had been working with them for a long time trying to share the scriptures and things weren�t getting any better. He says, 'This is the root of the problem. The one (demon) the right is the spirit of adultery and the one (demon) on the left is a spirit of alcohol. Deal with the root of the problem, not the person.'
I did. Ever since that they�ve broken off of that person."

Brooks, Steven - Having A Loyal Heart 11/5/2009 - http://www.openheaven.com/forums/printer_friendly_posts.asp?TID=29633#
Spiritual adultery and jealousy. How God feels, sometimes. @ www.stevenbrooks.org

Burns, John and Helen - www.johnandhelenburns.com - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X7OHjxPMgTw +
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OdcQkWmHZGI + www.familyvictory.com/ +
http://www.pluggd.tv/audio/channels/john_and_helen_burns_audio_sermons

Craig Hill 1/18-24/2010 TV broadcast http://www.sidroth.org/site/News2?abbr=tv_&page=NewsArticle&id=8937&security=1041&news_iv_ctrl=-1 + book 2 Fleas - No Dog - TV transcript or http://www.sidroth.org/site/DocServer/IS536Transcript_Hill.pdf?docID=2181
Chapter 6 Miscommunication - Schemes of the Devil Many of the problems in marriage and other relationships are due to miscommunication, purposely perpetrated &/or enhanced by our enemy Satan. We need to relate both on the intellectual level, but also on the emotional level. To conceal/not acknowledge/ share at both levels is to be both vulnerable to hurt but also to be deceitful. (On the other hand, one must not be so verbal or emotional as to be manipulative of mate or to allow mate to manipulate you.)
Chapter 7 Transparency and Intimacy It is therefore necessary for us to go the extra mile to do preventative and/or redemptive/ remedial work. "Transparency is the Key to Intimacy." Beware of the "danger of soulical (emotional) adultery." If I or my mate has "stopped communicating in intimacy with" our spouse/each other and begun to do so with another individual, especially of the opposite sex, then emotional adultery may have begun, leading to physical & spiritual adultery. When we prefer to discuss exciting/good news, fears, inspirations, frustrations, or aspirations with others, then our fantasies and intimate times will be polluted with a trespasser. (That is sin. Sin begins in the heart & infects the mind, emotions, body & spirit. Confession to God & immediate rectification is necessary.)

Evans, Jimmy @ https://marriagetoday.com/latest-tv-episodes/
Evans, Jimmy @ https://xomarriage.com/blog/five-steps-to-forgiveness-in-marriage
Evans, Jimmy @ https://now.xomarriage.com/programs/21-day-total-freedom-journey

Gungor, Mark - Monday, July 6, 2015 + Monday, July 6, 2015 + Tuesday, July 7, 2015
from http://lifetoday.org/video/the-bead-system-for-sex-bonus-interview/ shows archives

Hinn, Benny 7/29/2008 - Toronto Miracle Service Highlights #1 http://www.bennyhinn.org/media/2008-7-29.asx - A woman is healed of 3 slipped disks. Her x-husband (whom she divorced 26 years ago) is in the audience. Benny reads scripture to them regarding divorce. Then her x-husband asks Jesus to be his savior, so the wife agrees to remarry him.
Benny promises to do the ceremony. 1st Corinthians 7:10-11 10To the married (Christian/Messianic Jew) I give this command [not I (Paul, Jesus' disciple), but the Lord], "A wife must NOT separate from (divorce/abandon/flee from) her (perhaps excepting an abusive/insane/unsafe?) husband. 11If she does (separate), she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. A husband must not divorce his wife."

Hutton, Larry 5/6/2011 - http://www.ustream.tv/recorded/14531605 - Our expectation is His invitation.

Evans, Jimmy & Karen - 5/2015 When Life Hurts - #1 http://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=2767769103001 -
#2 http://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=2767769101001 - When marriage hurts it could be old life wounds stabbing you. @ http://www.daystar.com/shows/daystar-original-programs/jonilamb/
Resources: www.ourdreammarriage.com - www.marriagetoday.org - Dallas, Texas, USA - What a husband needs/wants most from his mate is honor and respect. Sometimes even sticky notes will help do the job in the area of gratitude, thanks &/or praise.
Evans, Jimmy & Karen - audio or video broadcast archives - http://www.marriagetoday.org/rss/mt_feed.xml

www.family.org

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage -
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting -
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/lifechallenges etc

Frangipane, Francis - Purity and Commitment - http://www.frangipane.org/ - "The fragrance continued in the room, I understood that this was what the Lord inhaled when His children stayed committed to Him during battle. I realized that, when we purpose to stay pure in spite of temptation, we literally become �a fragrance of Christ to God.�
(2nd Corinthians 2:15).

Gungor, Mark - http://www.laughyourway.com/pdf/BeAttitudes_Preview.pdf&chrome=true - Humor heals.

Hunter, Joan - 10/28/2016 - TV interview with Joan and Sarah Hickey - A testimony: Having been healed from mate's physical violence, all the symptoms returned the following morning. God revealed that she was still bitter at mother-in-law for allowing and creating such evil behavior in her son, mate of this victim. After forgiving her mother-in law, her healing returned and stayed.

http://www.lifefocus.tv/ - Betrayal of the Heart - 10/25/2007 broadcast - The enticing and dangerous roller coaster ride of adultery. Also see My Husband's Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me by Anne Bercht - TV show Oprah and 7 Cheating Husbands - Book excerpts at www.trafford.com/robots/04-1147.html

Jakes, TD - Potter�s House pastor, Dallas, Texas http://www.lightsource.com/ministry/the_potters_house/
Conferences his organization has produced, include ManPower, Woman, Thou Art Loosed, and MegaFest. A must read before getting engaged. Before You Do - Making Great Decisions You Won't Regret or WATCH
Living Your Life Without Limits #1    http://www.bennyhinn.org/media/2008-9-2.asx
1 free 9/2/2008 CD from Benny Hinn Ministry by requesting by mail
Living Your Life Without Limits #2    http://www.bennyhinn.org/media/2008-9-3.asx
Living Your Life Without Limits #3    http://www.bennyhinn.org/media/2008-9-4.asx
Living Your Life Without Limits #4    http://www.bennyhinn.org/media/2008-9-5.asx
Jakes, TD - 2/7/2016
http://www.lightsource.com/ministry/the-potters-house/video-player/love-has-no-loopholes-513776.html
Matthew 26:42 - Jesus went away a 2nd time and prayed, "My Father, if it is not possible for this cup to be taken away unless I drink it, may Your will be done."
@ http://www.lightsource.com/ministry/the-potters-house/broadcast-archives.html

Kat Kerr � Passionate Power / God Gave Gifts to Men / Mantle of Humility @ http://jesusstories.info 1st Part -
Married love is warfare against Satan; separation or sex outside of marriage is warring with Satan against God.
Kerr, Kat - Passionate Power @ http://www.katkerr.com/category/videos-showtime/
The Kat Kerr - Elijah List Event: Friday evening session 8/26/2016 recommended
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rlcVAKa5SMA Whatever (place/relationship/addiction) you enter into, will enter into and begin to control you. (Weekly) LOOSE from your soul/ heart all that soul clutter (deposit/litter/contamination/junk/ unforgiveness/bitterness/ demons due to actions which you in error have done/read/watched/listened-to/
participated-in/neglected/received/attracted, in Jesus' name.) A primary question in heaven will be what have you done with/to/for your family and mate, rather than what have you done for/with/through Me (mainly applying to healthy marriages, where there was no abuse from your mate; such a dysfunctional union may not always be considered a covenant marriage, sometimes allowing separation/divorce/remarriage).
The husband is suppose to be the bride's covering/ protection, spiritually and physically.
(Nonetheless, scripturally, for those who remain married/faithful, the born-again/Holy-Spirit baptized mate is the spiritual covering for the mate not or not yet saved/healed/mature.)

Lamb, Joni - Marriage Programs at http://www.daystar.com/?s=marriage

Landry, Curt & Chris - #1 - https://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=6099503147001 - 10/30/2019 - Do NOT be your mate's Holy Spirit. Instead, your praise will enable God to intervene on mates behalf (via His angels/host/Spirit/ways).
Landry, Curt & Chris - #2 https://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=6105490654001 11/19/2019 - Men in the business world need emotional intelligence.

Leaf, Dr Caroline - Who Switched Off Your Husband's Brain? -
http://www.godtube.com/view_video.php?viewkey=94076b635e58ff5b5dad
Marriage biological communication differences and guidelines

Leman, Kevin (Christian psychologist & comedian) How to Have a New Husband by Friday
A wife saying, "We need to talk, does not mean anything is required of you." Wife, if you
need him to talk, touch him. - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dsky8MJZ23s&feature=related
Understanding the Man Code - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=84KPEEg63os&feature=related
7 Things He'll Never Tell You - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8sqYiTVb674&feature=related

Meberg, Marilyn - What to do when the Roof Caves In book 7 3/31/2009 or 4/6/2009 TV
http://www.lifetoday.org/site/PageServer?pagename=tel_USCalendar www.womenoffaith.org - Marilyn, comedian, believes that the best divorce buster is premarital counseling. refreshing (We recommend one shop for counselors the same way one shops for a car, house, etc. If the counselor has been baptized in the Holy Spirit and has the gift of knowledge, God may have more opportunity to work through that individual. Regardless, pray before each counseling secession that He will have the liberty to do what He wants to do during that time.)

Mintle, Dr Linda - http://www.joycemeyer.org/OurMinistries/Broadcast/TV/Archive/20080114.htm
Never accept your automatic thoughts. Align your own thoughts with His thoughts.
Agree with His thoughts. Reject/cast down/cast out unproductive thoughts.
Then replace the rejected thoughts with positive/helpful/God's thoughts. Critical words/ thoughts lead to negative feelings, which lead to being defensive, which leads to building walls.
Pray together with your mate; it is difficult to stay angry with your prayer partner.
Give your partner 5 affirmations for each critical word spoken. Emotional distance is greatest divorce trigger.
Do NOT allow yourself to be tormented by stinking thinking.
View thoughts as entering a computer mailbox. Many thoughts are junk mail/spam and need to be NOT opened/deleted; we should only click onto those thoughts which align with the Word of God. In fact one can even trigger good behavior by placing/speaking positive ideas into others heads. A test was done; hotel cleaners/chamber maids were told they were getting the government regulated needed/adequate/sufficient exercise to maintain/ benefit their health. This group performed better than another group not told this.

Marriage Breaking Spirits Win Worley message - http://www.jesusdelivers.com/promised/deliverance.html

www.marriagebuilders.com

www.marriagesavers.org

Murdock, Cindy - https://www.daystar.tv/joni-table-talk/season:1/videos/her-story-pt-1-cindy-murdock 5/21/2020
Murdock, Cindy - https://www.daystar.tv/joni-table-talk/season:1/videos/her-story-pt-2-cindy-murdock 5/22/2020

O'Brien, Michael - Pornography Testimony: Read Michael O'Brien's story here - Watch video now @ website: Something About Us - Billy Graham TV: http://billygraham.org/TV_Index.asp?QR=163

Omartian, Michael & Stormie Praying through deep marital issues www.lifetoday.org
12/31/2008 Webcast: Quicktime, Flash, MP3, Download, Transcript

Oyedepo, David - Nigeria - http://davidoyedepoministries.org - SEPTEMBER 2010 -

The Secret Of Marital Success

The Secret Of Marital Success (2)

The Secret Of Marital Success (3)

The Secret Of Marital Success (4)

The Secret Of Marital Success (5)

Principles For A fulfilling Marriage

Principles For A fulfilling Marriage (2)

Principles For A fulfilling Marriage (3)

Principles For A fulfilling Marriage (4)

Principles For A fulfilling Marriage (5)

Parrott, Les and Leslie - http://www.realrelationships.com/ -
2 of the most important daily things to help/maintain a good marriage are to:
1- Greet mate affectionately immediately when he/she returns home from work, &
2- Relate positively/affectionately to mate just before he/she falls asleep.

JN428-2. PRAYER FOCUS: Christian marriages and covenant relationships 2/4/2003 - http://www.joelnews.org/news-en/jn428.htm - July 2002 Canadian prophet Pat Cocking shared a vision of a council of high ranking demons meeting in what appeared to be the 2nd heaven, that were discussing in detail how to sabotage and destroy marriages and covenant relationships in the earth, especially those within the Christian community.
These relationships included marriages, family, friendships, ministry, & business.
Special assignments were being launched against leaders.
Stand and fight in this battle. The Lord revealed that for many it will be easy to give in and let relationships fail and fall due to the pressures, but He is calling us to stand and resist through the power of His love and faith. It is also vital that we do not take a defensive stand. An aggressive and offensive posture is necessary. Fear is NOT to grip our hearts. Tenacious love and faith towards the victory will motivate a plunge forward into establishing even stronger relationships than before this planned assault.

Reconciling God's Way - Reconciling your marriage - www.reconcilinggodsway.org

Retrouvaille - Reconciling your marriage - www.retrouvaille.org

Robison, James - 6/23/2011 Guest: Robert Morris , Jill Monaco from http://www.lightsource.com/ministry/life-today/ - After deliverance we get freedom not from the fight but empowerment to fight bondages and root issues like rejection.

Scott, Steven - The Richest Man Who Ever Lived, with Steven Scott - marriage insights for couples 2/18/2016

Smalley, Gary Smalley Relationship Center http://garysmalley.com/
http://www.zimbio.com/Gary+Smalley/articles/AseXpnsX6lO/Gary+Smalley
+Personality+Test+Classifies+Otter

Advocacy to legislate for marriage to remain only between male and female
HRC | Testimony of Rev. Dr. Ray Hammond , senior pastor of Bethel African Methodist
Episcopal Church in Boston, and graduate of Harvard College, Harvard Medical School,
and Harvard Graduate School www.hrc.org/Template.cfm?Section=Home&Template=/ContentManagement/ContentDisplay.cfm&ContentID=13285 - 35k
View the webcast of the Sept. 4 hearing.

Worley, Win - Demolishing the Hosts of Hell - Every Christian's Job - pg 61 gives deliverance suggestions Regarding marriage braking evil spirits pages 5-8 are as follow: http://www.jesusdelivers.com/index.php/marriage-breaking-spirits

XO Now marriage conferences - https://www.daystar.com/ondemand/search/?search=xo recommended
XO - https://xomarriage.com/speakers/jimmyevans

Gender Identity Issues

Foster, David Kyle http://www.daystar.com/ondemand/search/?search=david+kyle+foster - End of program - shares we are to name - problem/addiction/demon/temptation/compulsion/addiction/thought/voice/self-talk/anxiety/fix/cigarette/candy
by what it is attempting to do (murder/rape/drink/drug/suicide/numb-pain) Then to command it to go - to the place that Jesus will send it, in Jesus� name (and not return) (and to replace-with/bind-to our soul the opposite virtue: His lover for lust, His peace for fear, etc. in Jesus� name)
Foster, David Kyle - www.Purepassion.us

Kits

Sansby, Betsy - a Minnesota, USA family therapist - The Ouch Kit - www.theouchkit.com
Couples Therapy in a Box. Cards are used in time out period when there is no strife.
10/26/04 Lifestyles www.thenews-press.com

DANGER

Holliday, Pat - Under Sea Mysteries Listen! http://patholliday.com/channelz.m3u

Daniel Olukoya - The Soul Traders - (CAUTION: Invite Holy Spirit to counsel/test your insights.)
"Soul traders are those who buy and sell the souls of men." Ezekiel 13:18 says, 'Say, Thus saith the Lord God: "Woe to the women that sew pillows to all armholes": Read Full Sermon - "The soul of somebody�s spouse could be sold and the partner would be wondering what happened to his wife or her husband. Many soul traders come to wedding ceremonies."

Spas

Miraval sex spa and inn, Tucson, Arizona, USA - Couples workshops by Dr David Taylor & Dr Lana Holstein are NOT what Ophra Winfrey sells them to be, because of numerous secular/demonic origins/teachings.
DANGER: The "yab yum" sexual position is a Buddhist sexual position. -
The Secret Teaching of Urgyen Sangharakshita - http://www.fwbo-files.com/satires/sec_teach.htm
The "puja" love/sex/energy connection is a synonym for sacramental worship, NOT of the God of the Jews/Christians/Arabs, but rather Avatar Adi Da Samraj and other deities who claim that word. http://www.adidam.org/adida/religion/dhome.htm?go=puja.htm
Rule #1 - Always check out the root religion of ANY thing which has a rave review.
This is especially true with ANY spa treatment. Satan is NO respecter of ignorance.
www.holsteinandtaylor.com/couples.lasso - www.miravalresort.com/spa.php

Christian Aerobotics & Other Dangerous Alternative Modalities.
One Demon Is One Too Many.

Israeli, Yohai - http://www.israel21c.org/headlines/yohai-israeli-opens-the-gate-to-emotional-healing/?utm_source=Israel21c+Weekly+Newsletter&utm_campaign=db389e5e71-2014_09_10&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_a2ed5ed71b-db389e5e71-250424805 - 49% correct regarding -"Yohai Israeli�s method aims to root out causes of distress symptoms & subconscious blocks to fulfill a desired reality, without identifying them or talking about them. He says the sessions bring out 'the automatic feeling-thinking-response patterns that do not serve us, and while the patterns are active, systematic work is done to make their roots disappear. A constant and accurate body-mind feedback guides us until the process is complete.' During a session, 'every relevant force from the subconscious will surface, and then we systematically weaken those forces and eliminate them, and create new forces and patterns to support the process,' Israeli says." NO-NO regarding, "He started developing The Gate when he was 37, along the way earning his master�s degree and learning a bit of (DEMONIC) kabala, reiki and shamanism to help clients. 'I almost gave it up because it was too complex,' he recalls. 'And then on Dec. 24, 2010, every-thing came together. It was a quarter to 9 on a Friday. I had an "aha" moment. All my clients that day received The Gate and it�s kept on evolving ever since but the core is the same and it�s simple to use.' The name comes from his belief that the body is the gate to spiritual evolution, and that the physical and emotional system provides constant biofeed-back one can be trained to recognize.
'So many people in Western society are detached from their emotions,' he says, 'so the 1st thing is to connect to your body & feelings. 'Then you reach a point I call "the opening," where a gate opens & you feel you�re floating out of your body. Some describe it as being in outer space or being touched by angels. There�s a tremendous flow of energy and you feel blissful. This is a crucial part of the healing process.' Israeli is married to a marketing manager he met 8 years ago at a workshop on shamanism. She is also a practitioner of modalities including The Gate. Israeli only agreed to give facilitator training in the New York area, upon request."

Phillips, Theresa - http://www.pmigloryinstitute.com/ St. Charles, Illinois, USA

http://www.theaustralian.com.au/news/features/deliver-us-from-evil/story-e6frg8h6-1225967837921 Deliver Us From Evil - 12/8/2010
"Bishop Porteous sees a link between the growing demand for exorcisms & the spiritual adventurism of young Australians. He says the growth of non-Christian alternative relaxation techniques such as yoga and reiki, as well as forms of divination such as tarot cards, fortune-telling & s�ances, pose temptations that could invite demonic trouble.
He also points his finger at popular culture, saying the Harry Potter books & films, & the vampire-themed Twilight series, have revived curiosity with the supernatural. 'While Twilight & Harry Potter are not (necessarily) in them-selves demonic, they can lead to a fascination in this world & young people can be drawn & become more attracted to these things.'� (Such things become the open door/invitation/legal grounds to evil in one's life.
Any subsequent curses cannot be eliminated without repentance & renunciation.)

News

4/29/2011 - Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge and Prince William's Wedding HOMILY by ANGLICAN ARCHBISHOP of LONDON, England DR RICHARD CHARTRES, " 'BE WHO GOD MEANT YOU TO BE AND YOU WILL SET THE WORLD ON FIRE'
So said St Catherine of Siena whose festival day it is today. Marriage is intended to be a way in which man & woman help each other to become what God meant each one to be, their deepest and truest selves." http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catherine_of_Siena
"In about 1366, Catherine experienced what she described in her letters as a "Mystical Marriage" with Jesus, later a popular subject in art as the Mystic marriage of Saint Catherine"

Evans, Mike - Political Marriage headed for Divorce? - http://tool.donationnet.net/Images/Email/1032/nuclearbombofIslam.pdf - 6/30/2012 - "Israel has been warned by Mohammed Badie, head of the (Muslim) Brotherhood, that: 'We are totally unhappy with the illicit marriage between Cairo and Tel Aviv.' In the early days of the uprising in Cairo, & while maintaining plausible deniability, the newly elected Muslim Brotherhood candidate Mohamed Morsi was seen sitting behind Muslim cleric Yusuf al-Qaradawi as he delivered a diatribe against Israel. He appeared to be nodding in agreement as the crowd was zealously notified that Jerusalem would be designated the capital of a coming Caliphate. According to an Iranian Fars news reporter, president-elect Morsi stated that he wants to 'reconsider' the current peace treaty with Israel in order to forge new ties with Iran. An aide to Morsi vehemently denied that the Egyptian ever gave a statement to Fars. Iran then released a highly disputed taped conversation between the reporter & Morsi.
Only time will tell how this debate might affect relationships between the 2 Muslim countries."

Non Christian Sites

Amen, Dr Daniel - http://www.creativityatwork.com/articlesContent/Brain/amen-optimize-brain.html -
"Winnifred B. Cutler, PhD and colleagues at the University of Pennsylvania & later at Stanford University it was found that regular sexual contact had an important impact on physical & emotional well being of women.
Sexual contact with a partner at least once a week led to more fertile, regular menstrual cycles, shorter menses, delayed menopause, increased estrogen levels, & delayed aging. Brain imaging studies at UCLA have shown that decreased estrogen levels are associated with overall decreased brain activity & poor memory.
Enhancing estrogen levels for women through regular sexual activity enhances overall brain activity & improves memory...Orgasm was not as important as the fact that sex was with another person.
Intimacy & emotional bonding may be the most influential factors in the positive aspects of sex.
As a psychiatrist I have seen many people withhold sex as a way to show hurt, anger, or disappointment.
Dr. Cutler's research suggests that this is self-defeating behavior. The more you withhold the worse it may be for you. Appropriate sex is 1 of the keys to the brain's fountain of youth."

McGraw, Phillip C - Relationship Rescue - www.relationshiprescue.net - McGraw is Dr Phil on USA TV, a Dallas, Texas psychologist, & president of Courtroom Sciences, Inc. Secular book.

Smith, Dr Robin - Lies at the Altar - The Truth about Great Marriages - http://www.liesatthealtar.com/ -
Divorced psychologist on Ophra Winfrey TV show

Tough Love - Especially Regarding Rearing Children (but also healthy interactions with mate) -
http://www.vh1.com/shows/tough_love/ introduction
http://www.vh1.com/shows/tough_love/video/full-episodes/ selections
http://www.toughlove.com/blog-all.php?cat_id= blog

http://www.fulfilledcouple.com/better_way.html - This site reminds us that the honeymoon seldom lasts forever.
The post-honeymoon period is where one needs to guard against negative thoughts.
Bilotta, Larry - book - How Couples Can Fulfill Each Other's Needs - http://www.somethingyoushouldknow.net/December03_December14_2007.htm - How To Save Or Kill A Marriage I - Listen 12/5/2007 - Transcript + How To Save Or Kill A Marriage II - Listen 12/6/2007 - Transcript

FAMILY LAW IN ANCIENT IRAN - http://www.cais-soas.com/CAIS/Law/family_law.htm

Jewish

Proverb - From every human being there rises a light that reaches straight to heaven.
When 2 souls destined to be together, find each other, their streams of light flow together; a single, brighter light goes forth from their united being.
Matthew 19:4-6 KJVer He answered, "Have you not read, that He Who made them at the beginning made them male and female & said, 'For this cause shall a man leave father & mother & shall cling to his wife.
The 2 shall become 1 flesh?' They are no more 2 but 1 flesh.
What God has joined together, let no man put asunder."

Engagement/wedding contract/prenuptial according to Jewish Ketubah tradition

On the 1st day of the week, the _______________ day of the month of _______________
in the year __________________in the city of ____________________ corresponding to the secular
date ______________________ the holy covenant of marriage was entered into between the groom __________________________ & bride _________________________
The bride vowed to the groom, "Behold. You are consecrated unto me with this ring according to the law of Moses and Israel. I shall honor, cherish, & support you as is customary among the daughters of Israel."
signed _________________________
The groom vowed to the bride, "Behold.
You are consecrated unto me with this ring according to the law of Moses & Israel.
I shall honor, cherish, & support you as is customary among the sons of Israel." signed ______________
The bride and groom hereby enter into the sacred covenant of marriage. In accordance with the traditions of Judaism, the bride & groom have accepted this document in the presence of witnesses.
It is valid and binding.

Loneliness

mashal.html - "The (Jewish) Talmud teaches us that a human being is a husband and a wife, together, a single soul with two halves. Before one is married, he or she is only half a human being, a male half or a female half. This is why one feels loneliness for a mate. It's like having "your better half" surgically amputated from your complete self. Loneliness disappears after one lives with his or her soul mate."
"To experience a relationship with another person, we want to engage their soul, that which is inside.
We are not looking to just relate to their body. Unfortunately, we can not see the person, the soul; we can only see their body. We want to engage that aspect of a person that disappears a minute after they die.
We want to engage the soul, which is the essence of a person."

Demonology - Lonelines - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zgu6duaCFR0&feature=related
Doug - www.fellowshipofthemartyrs.com

Robert D. Williams counselor - & Attorney psychologist Paris M. Finner-Williams -
Empowers Singles, Divorcees, Widows & Widowers - Single Wisdom - Top 5 Ways to be Single, Wise & Happy
1. Don't focus too much on the fact that you are single and unmarried. Instead embrace your "singledom" & seek productive activities to fulfill your God-given purpose in life, then your God-given husband or wife will arrive.
2. Don't invest any more in a person than you are willing to lose.
3. Don't expect someone to love you if you are incapable of loving yourself first.
4. Don't be scared to have candid and respectful communication to discover if your mate is truly "the one.
5. Don't resurrect old relationships. When the relationship is dead, place it among dead things.
http://www.blacknews.com/pr/singlewisdom101.html
Investigative dating is not social dating. Be willing to SERVE each other, to meet each other�s needs FOREVER.
Be committed to MARRIAGE as well as to the person. Investigate family as well as the individual.

Healing & Deliverance Prayers

http://dayspringcmi.org/?_com_content=13f87a80583faa554ad564c75bf85be7&lb=Prayer+against+anti-mariage+forces

http://www.standforyourmarriage.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=132:deliverance-prayers&catid=38:different-kinds-of-evil-spirits-&Itemid=88 (edited)
Prayers: Satan, take your hands off my marriage. @ Mountain of fire - in Jesus name & resurrection power:
1. Every power preventing me (or my seed) as husbands from living as a true head should be paralyzed.
2. Lord forgive any sin of abortion that may lead to blood crying against our home.
3. Lord help us make the proper corrections in our marriage.
4. Let every (evil/wrong) imagination/thought/plan/decision/desire & expectation of divorce & separation against my family (tree) be nullified.
5. Any (evil) spiritual power and activity that (would) put (our) marriages asunder. be bound & rendered naught.
6. Satan, hear the word of the Lord, you will not break my (or my seeds' heart or) marriage.
7. Every spirit of misunderstanding between me and my mate, be permanently paralyzed.
8. All powers eating away the determination of my mate to stay married to me, be bound.
9. Satanic birds eating away my love from the heart of my mate, vomit it.
10. (Pray in the spirit for at least 10 minutes.)
Deliverance prayers: Let marriage destroyers be destroyed, in Jesus name & resurrection power:
1. Every evil counsel fashioned against my family (tree), dissolve and be nought.
2. Every spirit of Ahab, Jezebel, strife & home wreckers (opressing our family tree), be bound.
3. Army Host, uproot, cut to pieces & burn the source of my (and my seeds') marital problems.
4. Let every (evil) power militating against the divine purpose of marriage in my family (tree) be destroyed:
a. (evil) Power militating against companionship & completeness, be destroyed.
b. (evil) Power militating against marital faithfulness, be destroyed.
c. (evil) Power encouraging adultery & fornication, be destroyed.
d. (evil) Power militating against procreation, be destroyed.
5. Let every wicked device of the enemy to defeat these (holy) purposes in our lives, be frustrated.
6. Let every gadget of marriage destruction be frustrated in my family (tree).
7. Let every evil arrow fired by demonic relatives, be uprooted.
8. Let every evil anti-marriage linkage with our parent, be dashed to pieces.
9. Let every evil effect of external interference in our marriages. be completely neutralized.
10. Every power preventing me (and my seed) as a wife from accepting our husbands' headship, be paralyzed.
Mark 10:7-9 For this cause shall a man leave his father & mother, & cleave to his wife; & the twain shall be one flesh so they are no more twain, but one flesh. Wherefore what God has joined together let no man put asunder.
CONFESSS
MATT.19:6: They are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath join together, let not man put asunder.
PRAISE WORSHIP Source: Mountain of Fire and Miracles - in Jesus' name and resurrection power:
1. Thank (You) God for the institution of marriage.
2. Lord, I repent for and remit any unprofitable contribution that brings about any unpleasant marital situation.
3. Lord, forgive me (and our seed) if the choice of our partner has been wrong from the beginning.
4. Lord, walk back to the foundation of each marriage and carry out the necessary surgical operation.
5. I register our protest in the demonic world for the wounds and injury done to our family tree by the enemy.
6. Army host, I command you in love to bind every strongman militating against our homes.
7. Every evil spiritual marriage contacted by or on our behalf, be dissolved.
8. Every evil spiritual marriage with (every evil) spirit mate, be divorced.
9. Every evil spiritual home involving our family tree, be destroyed.
10. Army host, pursue, overtake and recover our marriages from the hands of home breakers.
Isaiah 43:18-19: Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of Old.
Behold i will do a new things; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it?
I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.
(Source: Mountain of fire and miracles - Cancel the effect of the following things.
Please pray aggressively if you are involved or feel you may be involved in them.)
Regarding any of the following:
a. Demonic water pouring on the feet on the wedding day.
b. Contaminated wedding rings and shoes.
c. (Family) Background of polygamy and multiple husbands.
d. Familiar spirits and witchcraft spirits.
e. Satanic deposit in the home.
f. Collection of spiritual bride-price.
g. incest (in Jesus' name, blood and resurrection power:)
1. I cancel the related above spirits and command them to loose their hold upon my marriage.
2. I break and lose myself, in the name of Jesus from any anti-marriage curse issued upon my family.
3. Father, let the Prince of peace reign in my marriage without any hindrance.
4. I decree reconciliation between myself and my partner, in the name of Jesus.
5. All powers conspiring with anyone to destroy our home/marriage lose your hold.
6. All evil counsels against our home are frustrated.
Deliverance prayers: enemies of my marriage..collaspe and die! - Source: Mountain of fire & miracles
(Grid up your spiritual loins; aggressively stand against the following local home-wreckers.)
Job 22:28: thou shall also decree a thing & it shall be established unto thee: and the light shall shine upon the way I stand against any...(fit in the items listed below)...& command them to release me and my marriage, in Jesus' name.
a. competition by strange women or girls/men
b. demonic in-law
c. financial failure and poverty, especially after the wedding
d. spirit husbands and wives
e. demonic marks
f. anti-marriage destruction
g. spirit of fear
h. spirit of Jezebel (domineering nature)
i. inherited spirit from the father�s and mother�s sides.
j. marriage curses
k. anti-marriage covenants
l. spirit of misunderstanding, misinterpretation and exaggeration
m. ungodly attachment to parents
CONFESSION
Mark 10:8-9: They twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
PRAISE WORSHIP - Source: Mountain of fire and miracles - In Jesus name and resurrection power:
1. All conspiries to destroy our marriages and good homes, be removed.
It is against God�s word for evil schemes to separate us.
2. All evil counsel against our home, collapse.
3. All evil assignments against our marriages, be sattered.
4. All strange women attached to our mates, be unattached.
5. Favor, love (respect and admiration) from our mates, be downloaded.
Thank You Lord for Your (daily) mercies and grace. By Daniel Olukoya
(We invite) Ask (You) holy Spirit to help us pray to the point of breakthrough.
1. (Evil) hand of household wickedness, be removed from our marriages.
2. Every incantation/incision/hexe & spiritually harmful activity working against us, be completely neutralized.
3. All forces of evil manipulating, delaying or hindering our marriages, be completely paralyzed.
4. All evil anti-marriage marks, be removed.
5. DNA, be restored to the perfect way in which God created me, my mate and seed.
6. Every satanic weapon fashioned against our marriages, be destroyed.
7. All schemes and plans satan ever devised against us through any source and any time, be exposed & deposed.
8. I (repent of, renounce and) forsake any personal (and family) sin that has given ground to the enemy.
9. I reclaim (7-fold) all the ground our family tree has lost to the enemy.
10. I apply the name, blood & resurrection power of Jesus to our marriages.
Delayed marriage? My bones of bones, appear now
Isaiah 34:16: Seek ye out of the book of the Lord, and read: not one of these shall fail, none shall want her mate: for my mouth it hath commanded, and His spirit hath gathered them.
No word of God shall lack power of fulfillment! God�s words are always backed by his authority and we know His words can not return to him void. We serve a God that cannot lie. His dreams, vision and words concerning our lives will surely come to pass. God is the one that instituted marriage and He performed the 1st wedding ceremony in Genesis chapter 2. God has a man for every woman. If you feel that you have lost God�s perfect will for your life, don�t forget that for every Vashti there is an Esther. Lateness in marriage can come as a result of collective capacity, manipulation of household wickedness, spirit husband/wife and other anti�marriage forces.
In His time God makes all things beautiful. Ecclesiastes 3:11
The God that makes all things beautiful, will step into your situation, break down every wall of partition gather you together by His spirit. Isaiah 34:16; Ephesians 2:13 Our God is faithful! He never comes late. He will hasten His words (concerning your marriage) to perform it. Jeremiah 1:12
CONFESSIONS
Philippians 2:9-10 Wherefore God also hath highly exalted Him, and given Him a name which is above every name:
that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of things in heaven and things in earth, and things under the earth;
Col. 2:13 You, being dead in your sins and the un-circumcision of your flesh,
hath He quickened together with him, having forgiven you all trespasses;
Rev. 12:11 They overcome him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony;
they loved not their lives unto the death.
Luke 1:37 For with God nothing shall be impossible.
PRAISE WORSHIP By Daniel Olukoya - In Jesus' name and resurrection power:
1. Thank the Lord because Your miracle has come.
2. I repent of any (personal and family) sin that would hinder answers to our prayers.
3. Lord, make known to our family tree the secret of our inner lives, our destinies (our books written by You).
4. Help us Lord, to discover our real self (the purpose for which we were created in this generation).
5. Every imagination of the enemy against our marital lives, be rendered impotent.
6. Any anti-marriage spells and curses, be exposed and deposed.
7. Every bewitchment fashioned against our marriages, be cancelled.
8. Every force magnetizing the wrong people to us (and our seed) be paralyzed (disconnected/demagnitized).
9. Every covenant of marital failure and late marriage (in our family tree) be broken.
10. Every (evil) spiritual wedding conducted consciously or unconsciously on our behalf, be cancelled.
Marital Joy is my portion - In Jesus' name and resurrection power:
1. Stones hiding our marital blessings, be shattered and melt.
2. (Evil) powers blocking the sunlight of (God's holy) glory and breakthrough, be dispersed.
3. All evil spirit masquerading (and) troubling our marital livesm be bound.
4. The pregnancy of good things within our family tree will not be aborted by any contrary power.
5. Lord, let wonderful changes begin this week.3.22.2015
6. I reject every spirit of the tail in all areas of our family tree.
7. I receive our right matches.
8. I stand against every spirit of discouragement, fear, worry and frustration.
9. Lord, turn away all that would jilt, disappoint or fail us.
10. Thank (You) God for Your victory.
Deliverance Prayers For your Marriage -
DELIVERANCE PRAYER (TIME TO BREAK THE CHAINS OF THE PAST) -
Different Kind�s Of Evil Spirits - DISCOURAGEMENT
Garment of Praise - LONELINESS - The Devil IS an Advocate
Twilight and why there is no "beautiful side of evil" -
Untangling Damaging Soul Ties - Vampire bite
Olukoya, Daniel - articles - http://www.sermoncentral.com/Sermons/SearchResults.asp?ContributorID=57287
Foundation Of Marital Failure - When Your Marriage Needs Deliverance -

Prayers: https://www.praywithme.com/marriage-prayer.html

Short Marriage Encounters/Retreats for married couples

Catholic - http://www.wwme.org/view-all-weekends.html recommended

Catholic - http://www.retrouvaille.org/pages.php?page=2 testimonies of married couples

3 day Mentoring for Pastors - https://www.livingwatersministry.com/

Marriage to Jesus

Branham, William -
http://www.williambranham.com/feature_pages/the-vision-the-bride-saying-line-stay-in-line/#more-342

Ferrell, Ana Mendez - Seated in Heavenly Places - www.voiceofthelight.com - Chapter 4 Christ a Kingdom of Love - Section The Spouse of Christ - "Jesus'...greatest manifestation is as 'Groom'...to become His spouse...entering into a covenant and marital unity with Him...now, as we are alive on earth...When we get married on earth we become 'one flesh.' When we get married to Jesus, we become 'one Spirit'...We don't see a wedding ceremony in Revelation Chapter 19, but a supper...the communion table in which we partake of His flesh and His blood. As we partake of these elements, the fusion takes place between His Spirit and ours...
There are different levels of relationship with the Lord...of a son...of servant...of the bride...
His 'bride' is not seeking inheritance or rewards or position or fame; she wants Him...
This is His cry, 'That they all may be one, as Thou, Father art in Me and I in Thee.'
John 17:21...This is what fills My heart with fullness, the true and sincere worship of My beloved'...
It is to the bride that the intimate secrets of the Groom are revealed...
This kind of love kills (self)...It costs to truly love...'I am choosing from among My people those who will be My bride...and I am going to transfigure Myself into them...because I honor those who honor Me....and are (not) more afraid of man than of Me.'"
Ferrell, Ana Mendez - Blasting the Enemy's Walls - 2007 DVD - www.voiceofthelight.com - (The Jewish engagement initiates the wedding vows and must not be terminated except by divorce. Likewise, our marriage to the Lamb of God begins with the deposit of the Holy Spirit at the time we are born again here on earth.) When we, others, AND the devil recognize that we are NOW operating on earth in the same manner that Jesus did, then we will be spiritually operating from in a superior place ABOVE the earth and affecting inferior things BELOW. This is because Jesus' Spirit has united with our spirit, operating as one, under the direction of Father God.

Masturbation

Enow - DELIVERED FROM THE SPIRIT OF MASTURBATION -
http://distanceisnotabarrier.wordpress.com/2012/06/01/delivered-from-the-spirit-of-masturbation/TB Joshua,
(Would pertain mainly to habitual self pleasuring at expense of mate.
Separate would be patient developmental, abuse/victimization, disability & senior citizen issues.)

Mentoring Men

http://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=4185051200001 John and Sam Eldridge
http://www.daystar.com/ondemand/video/?video=4187333036001 John and Sam Eldridge 5/5/2015

Jakes, TD - 7/13/2017 - http://www.lightsource.com/ministry/the-potters-house/he-motions-606105-full.html
Often wives process their dilemmas by being chatterboxes, which can turn off mates, who are not given anything specific to fix/remedy/hunt/rescue/repair. Typically, men process their emotional dilemmas in caves/isolation/self-imprisonment. Sometimes this male coping method is related to the high suicide death rate, especially when/where men are put down rather than put on a pedestal. Sometimes the festering/aching hole in the heart is from the absence of the male in the family as a father (or grandfather).

Family

Feller, Bruce - 5 Secrets - http://www.huffingtonpost.com/bruce-feiler/secrets-to-a-happy-family_b_2712111.html

Denise Mann - http://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/15-secrets-to-have-a-happy-family -

Multiple Mates/Partners

Polygamy

Schlafly, Phyllis - Obama Makes Polygamy a 21st Century Issue -
https://eagleforum.org/column/2009/nov09/09-11-06.html

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